what do you think of traditional marrige ?

Question

someone sees you , and then he asks u to get engaged and u know him during the engagement

Answer 1

"Traditional Marriage" seems to work for about 50% of the married population, at least according to the divorce rate.

It is important to realize that these concepts of "forever" and "til death do us part" were forged at a time when death came a lot sooner. Most people of 2000 years ago were considered "elders" if they made in into their 40s.

Besides, back then, any man could "divorce" a wife merely by crossing his eyes, hopping up and down three times and reciting this sacred incantation" "Neener neener you're a wiener get the hell outta' my tent!" (Well, that's not it exactly, but I can't type in Hebrew). So don't let anyone sell you on the notion that failed marriages are a modern phenomenon.

If you're very young (say, anything under 25), if you're feeling deep inside that you may not have experienced all you'd like to on your own, or if there's ANYthing about your fiancee that bugs you but you're convinced you can "change" him, run.

Anybody who would leave you because you decided you were not quite ready for the vows would probably leave you over a lot of things. Just keep in mind the following:

1] It's YOUR life
2] The persistent idea of "one, true love" was invented by Walt Disney Studios in the 1940s
3] Anybody who won't submit to a "trial run" by living with you first is either an overly religious cave dweller or is trying to hide something.

And I should know.

I'm an elder.

Answer 2

uuummmm, traditional marriage is cool, but the only problem is that you cant really get to no the person fully in the engagement to marriage period can you? I got married at 14 (traditional) trust me it did not work out and the reason for that was because I did not no him, the only good side to traditional marriage is that you can blame your parents when it all goes wrong, although the other problem is that parents try to do everything to make sure that the marriage works out no matter how horrible the man/ women is.

and the donw side to love marriage is that the parents are never happy with your choice, and always say all the "i told you so's" when it dont work out.

but I think love marrige and traditional marriage both are ok in their own ways , although I did evenyually have a love marriage again!!

Answer 3

I'm starting to think that formal courtships are a good idea. We don't have to do it like they did 100 years ago. We can make our choices and rules.

Let's say that you meet someone who intrigues you. You invite them to a 90-day courtship. During that 90 days, you spend as much time as possible with each other in a variety of social situations. He's meets your friends and family and vice versa. You discuss dreams, plans, children, and all the things that are important to you. At some point during the 90 days, probably towards the end and if things are going well, you may decide to make love.

Of course, if it's doesn't go well either of you can call it off at any time. If you make it to 90 days, you sit down together and decided whether or not to marry.

It's like an arranged marriage, sort of, but you get to arrange it for yourself.

That's my current thinking. Thoughts?

Answer 4

I think the traditional marriage is fantastic. I am engaged to be married to a wonderful lady next May and cannot wait to see how beautiful I know she will be in her dress.

It isn't quite as simple as you have defined it but overall you got the idea. Much better in my opinion than marriages that are pre-arranged by families in some other cultures.

Answer 5

Wonderful. With my engagement, I was only engaged for four weeks before I was married. I wanted to do it before I got cold feet.

Marriage gets better with time. I've been married 14 years. It takes work, but it's all in what you make of it.

Answer 6

i think a traditional marriage is great for some people it just depends on how you want to get married . me i would love a wedding in the forrest in the winter time . with all the snow and the ice cycles hanging off the trees and all the snow on the ground it would be wonerfull. and after you say your i dos a horse and carriage would come and pick you up and take you away. thats my dream wedding . so it just depends on what type of wedding you would like to have . good luck and congrats .

Answer 7

Traditional marriage is good if you are getting married to the right person. It seems that alot of people out there get married to just get married or to just get a ring. You need to think first before you take the big step.

Answer 8

It has worked out pretty well for me so far. Given the rate of divorce in this country, it might be interesting to consider creating a marriage contract arrangement that would let people enter into time-bound arrangements that would have renewal or permanency options.

Answer 9

I think traditional marriage is great.
It's the divorce rate that sucks. Stay together people.
Don't marry someone if they:
1. Don't treat you well - they don't put YOU first.
2. Have cheated on you while dating.
3. Hit or abused you in some way while dating.
Marriage is sacred - treat it that way!

Answer 10

I think a traditional marriage is good. But i prefer something i little bit different. I for one dont want to be married in a church. I see myself getting married in a beautiful meadow with nature all around me. Just get married somewhere where you love to be. Where something can make you look more beautiful..