Okay.. so i like this guy. I have known him for about a year, but we never really talked or hung out, we share mutual friends though. I message him and asked him if he wanted to hang out last weekend and he said he said he had to work. I messaged him back this week and asked if he wasn't busy if he wanted to go eat something to eat or watch a movie a night this week. He said that he has to help his grandparents move into a new house and he didn't know if he could. Now my question is do you think that he is avoiding me, because if he was he wouldn't of messaged me back at all, or do you really think he is busy. If i was a guy and a girl messaged me and wanted to hang out i would make an effort. So do you think he is avoiding me or do you think i am worrying too much?
2006-08-02 08:27:08 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I'd say that he is probably not interested and that he does not want to hurt your feelings. I'm sure it's nothing personal. Maybe he's just not at a point in his life were he's interested in starting a new relationship or something.
Sounds just like the kind of stuff I'd tell guys when I was single in an effort to avoid hurting their feelings. They were perfectly nice guys...just not right for me or not the right time to start a new relationship.
I'd probably just back off. If he is interested, I'm sure he'll notice you online sometime and start a conversation with you.
Just try not to allow you to cause you to feel badly about yourself. You'll find the perfect guy soon.
2006-08-02 08:37:48 · answer #1 · answered by JustLookinAround 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well...
Firstly, congratulations on taking the initiative.
A lot of people have trouble with that, you know.
Secondly, I think his excuses are legitimate.
You made a point, about him not replying back at all if he was avoiding you and I agree, he is not avoiding you.
You know what you could do though?
Offer to help him help move in his Grandparents to their new home.
It doesn't have to be an official date just yet, since you mentioned you haven't really hung out yet.
So offering to do things like that is just time spent together and is equally important and fun.
I hope you two hit it off.
You sound like a great girl.
I hope my advice helped and I apologize if it didn't.
Take care!
2006-08-02 08:33:45 · answer #2 · answered by flod_prfekshun 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him alone now. First - you asked twice. First time he had to work. You didn't expect him to call in sick to go out with you, did you? He could very well have been telling the truth.
Second -- IF he IS helping his grandparents move.....do you think he should tell his grandparents now (after he promised to help possibly) that he can't help because of some girl? No.....my own son wouldn't do that to family over a girl he's not even serious with. Even if he was serious with a girl, he wouldn't have screwed his grandparents over. No.....I don't think he should have changed either of those things to go out with you. Personally, I would lose respect for him if he did.
2006-08-02 08:32:57 · answer #3 · answered by butterfliesRfree 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's your possible options:
1) He really is busy
2) He wants to avoid you
3) He doesn't find you attractive but still finds you as a friend
4) Have you ever considered him to be like a gf? Is so he could be gay
5) He wants more time for himself
6) He doesn't want to get involved in a relationship
7) He thinks your more "friend" material than "gf" material
8) He's a noncommittal.
9) He's using you because he's socially inept and needs more social interactions
10) He's attracted with another girl
11) He wants to continue his friendship with you in the hopes of seeing how it would turn out later
12) He's emotionally not ready to get too involved
2006-08-02 08:34:16 · answer #4 · answered by ibid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well... This is a tricky guy... If he is really into his family and work, and he really is busy then its true. If you have a way to find out where he is, like asking his friends, then you will have an idea if he is telling you the truth, or if he is just lieing to you. Most probably if he wasnt with his grandparents, and out with his friends, you should be able to find out by this weekend.
2006-08-02 08:32:10 · answer #5 · answered by steph_pete1329 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say he doesn't sound very interested. If he was he would have tried to reschedule, or said you guys could do something after the move.
You've asked him out twice now, and he's declined both times. You've let him know you're interested, so if he changes his mind, he can make the next move, but I'd move on if I were you.
2006-08-02 08:38:36 · answer #6 · answered by mikah_smiles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about you go buy a clue. Anybody who would much rather help their grandparents on the weekend, obviously doesn't like you... at all. Stop leaving him messages, you've already embarrassed yourself enough. I'm sure he has replayed those messages countless times with his buddies laughing at you. Try obsessing over someone else now.
2006-08-02 08:36:29 · answer #7 · answered by Prissy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, why is the communication ocurring via text messaging? If you really want to get his attention, call him and ask him to do something.
If he continues to say he's busy, then I would say that he is avoiding you and you should move onto to another guy who wants to spend time with you.
2006-08-02 08:31:41 · answer #8 · answered by maxxerden 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well thats a tough one. he could like you but is shy and might not want to embarrass himself. but on the other hand he might be avoiding you because he doesnt want to deal with you*as in hang out*. does he have a girlfriend? if he does then he's avoiding you and maybe you should back off n move on. just give him sometime and if he does really like you, he will come to you. hope everything works out
2006-08-02 08:42:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are coming across as a little desperate, does he have any idea that you even have feelings for him?
Tell you what here is an idea.....dont call him, let him call you, and if he asks if you wanna do something say no im busy.....no matter how much you want to........it will make him want you more, guys tend to focus their attentions on girls who act like they dont care what a guy thinks.
2006-08-02 08:34:44 · answer #10 · answered by Mintjulip 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋