unbelievable issue ..... extended?

Question

Thanks Maggie for the true imput of me being a jerk , should i decide to have sex with someone else. this was mere a suggestion to get my wife's attention, which however is not the way I should go. But sometimes "shock therapy"helps.
No she dont want to see a sex therapist or head doctor, and it's not me being rough.....she simply dont like sex.
next q? how do I break the news to her as I am a sucker for tears and always give in the moment she starts to cry. But so have I cried in my heart and cannot continue like this, for this is not what life is about. I am no sex freak but i'm only human.

Answer 1

Answer... extended:

She won't see a therapist?? If your wife loves you she would've agreed to it. Seems like she's the selfish one here- what if you're the one who is holding her back from something that she is totally in to, or deprive her from one thing she absolutely needs... how would she feel about that? Frustrated, of course, just like you are right now. I don't understand how she could be so inconsiderate of your feelings and needs like that- she is soooo selfish your wife. And she knows your soft spot too- all she needs to do is cry and beg to make you stay- that is not cool. You need to be strong and make demands and if she won't budge you need to move out of there- ignore her crying- if you can move in with someone temporarily (family/relative/friend) then do it or kick her out of the house (which I have a feeling you won't do that's why I said maybe you're the one who need to move out). If she really loves you she's going to crawl back to you and do what you ask of her. But you won't know that if you don't leave or threaten her like that... I know it sounds kinda cruel but you're right- she needs a shock therapy and by that I mean move out of the house, not sleep with someone else (although I don't totally against the later one either)- I hope it works out, if not, well guess what, you deserve someone better anyways.

Answer 2

I've just read your questions.

Sorry but I am the kind of person who need physical love in a relationship as well as emotional.

I don't understand how you guys have stayed together for so long.
Did you say she's not willing to get help? I think she needs it.

Maybe your not pushing the right buttons? There are classes that teach new tecniques to couples like you, She will be embarrassed to go but remember they are all in the same boat. If you want your marriage to work you need to do it!

Why doesn't your wife like sex? have you asked her? Maybe she's not being totally honest with you.

Again, this is a problem you both need to work at.

Good Luck!

Answer 3

You need to do whatever you can to get into therapy, or to get her into therapy. It is a wife's (or a husband's) biblical duty to give their spouse regular sex as requested. She is totally in the WRONG. I understand your feelings because I was promised more sex than I am getting, but I have adapted....I'll keep wishing though and understand it is my husband's work schedule to blame. Never give up. Do you cater to her, massage her, run her bubble baths, hug and kiss her a lot? Pray for God to give you what every husband deserves: a healthy sex life with his wife.
1 corinthians 7:3 and Ephesians 5:22

Answer 4

Just go have sex with someone else, for crying out loud... She doesn't need to know. It would only create problems for both of you. She's not interested in sex, and you could either continue on being frustrated, divorce her, or discreetly get it elsewhere.

Answer 5

the SHOK THERAPY I gave my wife was out of shear frustration. start pleasuring yourself in front of her, she will get verry disgusted with this at first but keep doing it. after a while you will see things changing, or she will leave you. then the door is wide open.......

Answer 6

You need to start preparing for divorce, it wont last, time to kick her to the curb.

Answer 7

Dude, what's with the Santa hat????

Answer 8

amen