My ex boyfriend (we broke up about a year ago, were together for 3 but managed to stay friends) always accused me of being a "nympho" and said I wanted to have sex more than any other girl he's ever known. My ex boyfriend from about 4 months ago (we were together for about 10 months) also told me the exact same thing. My boyfriend now thinks I want sex too often as well.
This is a serious question. I am not some 13 year old girl goofing around on here or something okay? I'm a normal, healthy 20 year old woman with what I thought was a normal sex drive, but now I'm not so sure.
I know the sex is great and they are enjoying themselves (from what they tell me and from their physical reactions). So that's not the issue.
I guess, bottom line, my question is, is wanting to have sex every day, more than once a day abnormal? Am I a freak? How often do the rest of you want sex?
Sorry if it's a personal question, I'm just curious.
2006-08-02 08:12:02 · 52 answers · asked by Nonna 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It's so frusterating not being able to find someone who has the urge as often as you do! And no it's not an "act"... why bother with an act like this? That seems ridiculous.
2006-08-02 08:23:17 · update #1
And BTW, I've only slept with 4 people in my life, always in a committed relationship with someone I see a future with and care deeply about, ALWAYS practice safe sex... so I'm not just "some slut" or something, okay?
2006-08-02 08:29:23 · update #2
Well, you sound like a normal girl to me. Have you ever thought that you ex-boyfriends had the problem being since they had low sex drives. Because most men would not mind having a girl that wanting it everyday. So, you are alright, girl.
2006-08-02 08:18:13 · answer #1 · answered by kitcat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that's abnormal, I just think you have a more active sex drive than many people. It's funny how men can seem to want sex all the time, but then they get a girl who wants it a lot and they freak out. Myself, I probably have a pretty average sex drive, a few times a week is good enough for me, but there's so many other factors playing into it that each person is really different. For instance, my husband and I are both working long hours these days, and we also have a three-year-old, so there's a lot of other things that need our attention each day. We try to make time whenever we can, but it can be hard! If you're really concerned, you should talk to your gynecologist about it, but it's probably just your hormones are different or something like that.
2006-08-02 09:12:19 · answer #2 · answered by ♥ Luveniar♫ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's not abnormal...it's hormonal. You might want to talk to your doctor about it but it's not serious. However I would advise against getting sexual in a relationship too soon with anyone. Obviously 10 months wasn't long enough to really know your last boyfriend, I would suspect you started being sexual in the relationship early on.
I suggest taking a break from all "serious" relationships that might become sexual. Then when you do become "involved" take it slow get to know the guy "inside and out" before engaging in sex. Don't let your homones to your thinking. One "school of thought" I have advised for my daughter is when you start thinking about having sex with this guy ask yourself if you want them to be a part of your life for the next 18 to 25 years. Because if you get pregnant that is how long they will be tied to you through that child if not longer.
2006-08-02 08:21:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has a different sex drive. For some people doing it every day is normal, and for others doing it once a week is normal. I wouldn't say that wanting to do it once day was abnormal - but maybe wanting to do it 3x times a day could be viewed as being excessive.
If you are comfortable with it and your bf is too - then there isn't a problem. But, if he thinks you want it too much you might want to take control of your libido and slow down a little bit.
2006-08-02 08:16:50 · answer #4 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey you know what I am the same way but my girlfriend was a freak to but I guess I was a bigger freak when we first met she was all into it but know she cant hang I will be doing my thing but she cant hang especially after her period she get real horny but thats about it that is when I really get her whe have been together with her for about a year and a half and sometimes I think that's the only thing that keeps us together I dont think there is a problem just he cant hang but if you want some company just come over my girl wont mind at all
2006-08-02 08:22:24 · answer #5 · answered by crazy 4 somethin' real 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What did you do when you didn't have a boyfriend? Were you sleeping around with various men everyday, because your sex drive was out of control? If your sex drive is only out of control and that high when you are involved with a man then...
Not to sound mean or anything, but you probably have a lot of issues with your self esteem.
You need to love yourself, and realize that sex is not love.
It's more than likely not about enjoying sex, it sounds like you validate yourself with sex, and that is not good.
Seek counseling, and stop having sex with men thinking you are getting love.
Some women do have high sex drives, and it's only healthy when you are not forcing your high sex drive on somebody who does not. If you are, you are being selfish in the matter, then yes, it is a problem.
2006-08-02 08:18:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are definitely a freak, but that's not a bad thing. I think your problem is not that your a freak but that your choosing the wrong men. Cause I don't no any brotha who would mind having a girl like you, trust I have a lot of guy friends. You need to learn how to pick the right guy for you, be upfront with them letting them know that you have a high sex drive and if they can hang, then you can be down with them, if not they need to not waste your time.
2006-08-02 08:28:42 · answer #7 · answered by bruiser21 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think its abnormal at all I am the same way. Be warned though that it may not just be a stage or if it is it could last a VERY long time. I've been in this stage for 14 years and I don't see it ending anytime soon and marriage didn't slow me down either for the 8 years I was married.
2006-08-02 08:20:46 · answer #8 · answered by Red 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it varies. You're young and this is new to you so wanting that much I guess is normal. I wouldn't call you a nymph, nymphos can't go w/o it and will do it with anyone just get pleasure. You are at least just having it with a person you are committed too.
I'm sure you'll reach a point in life when you won't want it at all, so have fun and be safe of course.. ;)
2006-08-02 08:17:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are a freak. I do think that you have a high sex drive but, there is nothing wrong with that. My ex wanted it every day. My question to you is..How do you react if you don't get it? Are you pouty? Angry? It might have more to do with how you react if you are turned down.
You asked us to tell you how often was enough..I would say for me that 3-4 times a week is right. Everyone has different appetites. You need to find someone who matches your own.
2006-08-02 09:13:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋