Me and my ex tried 2 be friends after he broke up with me. I tried it and I had a feeling that we wasn't feeling a connection. In our recent relationship, we was together like 5 years and I still have feelings for him. I want 2 b with him so bad that it hurts when I think about. We talk about it and he said that he need 2 think about it and it has been 4 months since we broke up. He said it isn't a yes or no question and he don't know. How can I get him back?
P.S.: I want somebody to give me some good advice. Please help me.
2006-08-02 08:03:50 · 3 answers · asked by stc_destinyschild_bowwow 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I don't like answers 1 & 2. You don't attract someone by dating their best friend, and there's no way to know if he's lost his feelings for you.
You have to do more than just talk to him in the same patterns as you have done in the past. You are seeking specific ways to improve the odds of staying close to him.
1) Consider directly sharing the question you have asked here with him. Let him know you would like to figure out ways to improve your relationship.
2) If he withdraws, respect his space and privacy. But also consider writing letters, not just emails, but handwritten or typed letters. You write well and you are clear. Also, the process of writing will help you clarify in your own mind your intents and reasons.
3) Ask yourself again: What does he want from a significant other that I am not supplying? If you can supply it, great. Work toward giving him what he wants. If you can't, concede that point and focus on giving him what you CAN give. No one person can be all the things he wants. So make sure he appreciates the unique chemistry you create with him, even if you can't be 'everything' he wants.
4) Give him positive expectations for the future. Specific events he can look forward to.
5) Allow him a level of flexibility that is fair to both of you.
2006-08-04 09:44:14 · answer #1 · answered by onemorealternative 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look im sorry to tell you this, but he obviously has lost all interest, with what you have described, i understand how much its hurts to have to go through all the pain again, but look you really need to let it go, and start living your life for you, love him but let him go, if he comes back again - tell him - you cannot keep coming in and out of my life, its my emotions you are playing with, im not willing to allow you to stomp all over me again, then turn around and close the door. give hima few days to think over what you have said, and wait for him to call you, if he does it means he has analysed his actions and is willing to apologize if he doesnt call, it means he still doesnt care, and that you are better off without him, the simple point honey, is that you cant make someone love you, and you cannot force other into feeling emotions that just arent there. Get on with your life - start healing YOUR hurts and wounds, let him worry about his own.
2006-08-02 08:15:17 · answer #2 · answered by Mintjulip 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
start seeing his best friend, this will make him insainly jealous and want you more.....or he will think you are a phyco....so whatever
2006-08-02 08:11:18 · answer #3 · answered by Ray Be 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋