What do you get when you lose that spark between husband and wife? I love him to death but we fight all of the time and we know eachother so well and we don't want to fight so we avoid each thing that could be bugging us and it doesn't help with communitcation when the both of us are not wanting to talk things out. I try and do my best with being out of work but he comes in from work and thinks that I have all the time in the world to do what he wants done. I don't. We are living with my family and we have a cat and a dog that need caring for as well. I'm trying my best but it never seems good enough and having my family needing help doesn't help much with anything. I'm sick of being ordered what to do by my husband that doesn't understand that I have to help my family as well considering we aren't paying them any rent at all. I also know that the only reason why I do as much as I do is also because I respect our relationship and don't want to just sit on my *** all day. What can I do?
2006-08-02 08:02:47 · 12 answers · asked by trying2keepittogether 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Okay, so it seems most of you still don't understand so let me enlighten you a little more. We just moved from Japan for two years and since we are living here with my family my mother has a heart condition and I'm the only one that can be here at home all of the time to watch out for her. Ever one else works and I feel like **** because of it. I would rather be at school and work right now making something of myself but I've always said that family comes first and work in everything else later. It isn't easy being overseas not being able to help after a hurricane and a few heartattacks and family deaths. It doesn't mean that he has the right to treat me like **** because I don't have time to clean my husbands dirty underwear. Anyway, I'm just saying that it is wrong for someone to think of me as a slave and not be happy with what they get and when do I get the chance to do what I want for a change? I want someone to do my damn laundry for a change. What about my damn feelings?
2006-08-02 08:22:47 · update #1
Have an erotic affair for yourself ;-)
2006-08-02 08:07:01 · answer #1 · answered by moonlite1us 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing you've gotta do is get your butts out of your families house quickly!! You cannot work on your marriage if you are surrounded by your family. Second thing you have to do is put your husband before your family...he should ALWAYS come before them, he is your life partner and deserves the respect of being your equal and putting him above them. You are obviously going thru some very stressful times which can be a true test to how strong your marriage is. Do what you need to do for you and your husband. Stop working against him and work together towards your goals...you'll get there much more quickly...and with your sanity intact.
2006-08-02 15:18:49 · answer #2 · answered by auntcookie84 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all get your own place!!!!You will find the stress level drop immensly by having your own space to live in.I know this from experience,we lived with his family for two yrs.Finally, afford it or not we leaped out on our own.Its been much better.Good luck God bless:O)
2006-08-02 15:13:28 · answer #3 · answered by melissa_froggies 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like yall just need some alone time awy from everything
yall arre probaly just stressed and taking it out on each other
it happens with me and my husband but if we get some alone time it all works out
good luck
2006-08-02 15:08:21 · answer #4 · answered by dawn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are in unhealthy relationship. Either both of you have to sit down and get things straight or get out of it.
2006-08-02 15:09:18 · answer #5 · answered by fasb123r 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try talking to a pro. a counsolor about your problems send less time together if you send alot of time together it could cause fighting
2006-08-02 15:08:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your family might need help, but so do you...a marriage consist of two people ...I always say,,,,,,When you got married to your husband you got divorce from your family....leaving alone works wonders........try it.....!!
2006-08-02 15:16:40 · answer #7 · answered by guess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get off the damn computer and get back to work you lazy freeloader!
2006-08-02 15:08:26 · answer #8 · answered by jimvalentinojr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think you need some time alone to get ur self together
2006-08-02 15:14:34 · answer #9 · answered by bonnie3bd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go through couples therapy it helps alot of people god bless and good luck!
2006-08-02 15:08:00 · answer #10 · answered by ~*Katie*~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋