My husband does not want me to work. It's not like he's controling, he believes that they woman should not work, because it is the man's responsibility to be the bread winner and he feels extreamly guilty that I am working now. He's an investor and makes pretty good money, so that is not really the issue, also I wouldn't mind being a housewife, but we already have someone right now that comes in and cleans, and there are no kids yet, so what do ladies do who are housewives with no kids? I was thinking about going back to school to get my MA/PHD, I am pretty young as well ( 23)
2006-08-02 08:01:26 · 14 answers · asked by Rose 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You have a good man! But, you're right, what would you do all day long without children? I'm all for you going back to school because it's always good to better yourself, but if you like working, why quit? I mean, you're making extra money that obviously you can live without, if your hubby is telling you that you can quit work. I say stay at your job. Do what you want to do for you, not for him. Even though he is your husband, he is at work all day, so why would he want you to stay home and be bored? Good luck!
2006-08-02 08:06:58 · answer #1 · answered by Littlemissy 4 · 4⤊ 3⤋
That would be great if you could not work and go back to school. I was just married in March and I tried the homemaker thing right after, and I have to tell you. I was bored out of my mind. We don't have any children (I have a stepdaughter but she doesn't live with us). I cleaned, but then the house was clean and I had nothing to do. I finally went back to work about a month and a half ago and I am much more satisfied now.
2006-08-02 15:06:25 · answer #2 · answered by lilcountrygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be great if you went back to school. If you have the opportunity go for it! I am a homemaker, have five kids and wish I could go back to school. However it is great being a house wife. My husband is an aerospace engineer so he makes good money. However I could not imagine leaving my little ones with strangers. I have no idea how woman can do that. I could never see myself going into a daycare and just saying stay here. Be back later. But thats just me.
2006-08-02 15:25:34 · answer #3 · answered by missy1978 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's only good to be a home-maker if you have plenty of money... If you do have an opportunity to pursue education - do it! Not that many people have the luxury to quit their work and devote time solely to school. The question is - do you like your job? Is it something you enjoy doing? If so, it would be a shame to quit. But there are certainly plenty of things one can do with their time when they're not working. If I could stop working right now, I would probably take some classes I've always wanted to take, and would be more deliberate in pursuing my favorite sport (fencing). There are so many books I would like to read. And I would like to have more pets, maybe another fish tank. Even gardening would be fun.
2006-08-02 15:26:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
.... whats the problem than? If you're happy and theres no issues- just talk to him, tell him that you're happy with the way it is and maybe you'll become a homemaker so you have time for school but that you don't want to sit at home and do nothing and he shouldn't feel guilty for that. Make sure to tell him that he does SO much for you and you are SO happy. He knew you were a working woman when he married you, so its ok. I think you two will be just fine.
2006-08-02 15:14:33 · answer #5 · answered by HE'S NOT INTO ME 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to do what's right for you. not everyone can handle being a housewife. good luck on your decision. Just wonted to share with you , yes I'm a housewife and my daughter is grown and out of the house. But for me I love being at home. we don't live in a house it's an 2BR apt. been here 13yrs. But it is my choice. I have a very clean home. I don't watch TV. I do however do research on the web. It is uncomfortable for me to work be cause I have tourettes. sometimes it hard being in public. but i manage fine here at home. so i don't think it is for every one. but I have time for me. I am my own best Friend, i don't get boarded either. I'm also a lot older than you. so go to school and be successful. stand for what you believe is what you want. take care
2006-08-02 15:46:08 · answer #6 · answered by RAINBOW 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should fall under the pressure he puts on you about leaving your job. Tell him that working makes you happy and that is what you want to do. But on the other hand, since you don't need to work for living you can use this period to go back to school and get your MA/PHD. The longer you delay that the harder will be to find the time. So this would be the perfect opportunity to do so-use it.
2006-08-02 15:06:57 · answer #7 · answered by fasb123r 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men get their sense of self esteem from two areas; career (the struggle for survival) and sex (the struggle for procreation). For you to go to work threatens his self-esteem. It makes him feel like he's not the "mighty hunter" and "great provider". Upbringing can strongly increase this feeling in a man. You need to approach him in a way that doesn't threaten his self esteem; his self image. You might consider:
"Honey, you are so wonderful. You have such a great job, you make so much money. People out there respect you. But I don't have any of that. I could never compete with you... but I need something in my life that's rewarding outside the house. It's not about the money. You bring home more than enough. It's about letting me feel better about myself."
2006-08-02 15:19:30 · answer #8 · answered by antirion 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have no kids right now...and he can obviously afford for you to not work , I say go back to school and get your degree, that way you can take care of him and not lose yourself in the process by investing and taking care of yourself and future. A woman should always have assets in self investment, because we usaually become the care takers of others and this is a great opportunity to do that for yourself, especially if you want to have kids later on, its not healthy to be everything for someone else and not have for yourself. That way you both benefit.
2006-08-02 15:16:59 · answer #9 · answered by brite star 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well its the year 2006 and woman are more liberated then ever before.There's nothing wrong with wanting to work and be a productive member of society.Work and home life can have an equal balance.Try talking to your husband again.I'm sure he'll understand.
2006-08-02 15:08:05 · answer #10 · answered by Celebrity girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are able to go back tp school- GREAT. But don't, don't, do NOT quit your job. I quit my $35 dollar an hour job to stay home with our baby and now I live off about 5 dollars a week, (even though he makes about $8,000 per mo.) bc that is my allowance. Keep your job and try not to get preggo too early.
2006-08-02 15:10:24 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋