she has to wait 6 month till she is 18....What should I do...We have a very clean, neat, professional tattoo studio here, and if I don't sign for it, she is going to get it anyway in 6 months. Should I sign for it or make her wait. She is a good student, has a job etc...and is responsible in every way.
2006-08-02 07:49:32 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Beauty & Style ➔ Skin & Body
Don't sign for it because when she does turn 18 she'll change her mind and hopefully not want to get one at all or decide to get a cuter one.
2006-08-02 07:52:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if she's "just going to do it anyway," 6 months is a little time to think about what should may be doing to herself.
I knew a girl who got a tat at the age of 18 and had it removed at the age of 20.
She should be responsible enough to get a tattoo on her and understand the consequences of having a "tramp stamp" on her 50-80 year old body.
2006-08-02 08:30:53 · answer #2 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should NOT sign for it. You'd be condoning it, and it sounds like you're smart enough to know tattoos aren't always a good thing. Depending on where she gets it, she can be kept out of certian jobs. More clean cut men will pass her by. She'll end up with the trendy-but-unsuccessful guys who still watch MTV & live in their parents' basement when they're 30.
Once she is 18 she can move out and make her own life choices, but while she lives under your roof, you should never feel bad for making the rules. If she's in such a hurry to grow up, hand her the Employment paper each morning... after all she has only 6 months to find a great job & her own apartment since she's such an "adult".
2006-08-02 07:55:23 · answer #3 · answered by Funchy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain to her that you will not be a party to her disfiguring herself. What she does at 18 you have no control over. No tattoo is safe or clean. You can tell her about all of the people who are now trying to get them off, but I suspect she won't listen. She is NOT responsible in every way if she thinks a tattoo is a good idea. To me that means she is bowing to peer pressure and that creats a whole set of problems on its own.
2006-08-02 08:00:02 · answer #4 · answered by gtoacp 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make her wait, a tattoo (unlike a piercing) is permanent. Hopefully in that 6 months she'll decide she doesn't want to be "tramp stamped" for the rest of her life.
2006-08-02 07:52:54 · answer #5 · answered by BB 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, I think it's good that you are at least open to the idea of supporting her getting a tattoo.
My advice though is neither. Since you seem to be willing to support her or at least accept this decision, then try to find the middle ground. There are a couple of rules to follow when getting a tattoo. It's usually a good idea to get your tattoo in a place that you can cover up, and you have to want the same design for at least a year. If she just has the vague notion of what she wants and keeps changing the design, then try to talk her out of it until she can fix on one. Go to the parlor with her and see if the artist will do a consultation to draw up a design. If she can take it with her, then she can trace it with ink over the spot she wants it, or at least look at it daily to see if she still likes it in 6 months time. Third rule, don't follow trends. Just don't. When the fad is gone, you're stuck with the ink.
The other recommendation I have is to try to talk her out of getting the tat at the small of her back. It will drastically change how people look at her. She may be a good girl, but the guys will see it as "easy". One of my friends had drawn up a gorgeous design for me to put at the small of my back. Amongst that crowd, they wouldn't have called it the "tramp stamp" because tats go wherever you want them to, but amongst the majority of the world, it will label her and not in a good way. When I learned that the small of the back was a bad place to put a tat from a friend who ran in a different circle, I decided against getting a tattoo there.
I do have two tattoos. One is in the center of my back between my shoulder blades. It is a design that I had wanted for at least 3 years. I've had it for 3 years and I am still happy with it. I probably should have shopped around more to see different artist's work, but I am happy with it. It has meaning for me and wasn't something I wanted to do as a trend. The other is on my hip. I have had this for 2 years, and I am happy with this one as well. I did break my own rules and got the tat within a few days of deciding to get it, but it also has meaning for me. I was in my 20's when I finally got my tattoos. I am very glad that I didn't get the designs that I wanted when I was younger.
Remind your daughter that the small of the back is a difficult place to cover up at work and may label her negatively to strangers. It's a trendy place to get it and she may regret it later when she realizes the negative impact it has, as well as how many people have tats there. Any orginality of design will be lost by the location. She should try sticking on a design with marker or henna or something and wearing it for a while and see if she likes it and how people react.
Also, try finding online sources to show her on how the "tramp stamp" is NOT a good idea when dealing with people. Some of the male and female opinions on this answer are pretty good. Try to find more and have her read them. Let her know that you aren't trying to talk her out of getting a tattoo, but that you are trying to make her rethink where she is putting it and what image she is going to be conveying to others.
2006-08-02 08:48:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She only has 6 months to wait so what's the problem? Let her wait and that way she doesn't need anyone to sign for her and it's her own decision. This way she won't come back at you in 5 or 10 years and say "Why did you let me do that?". If she wants to be "stamped" then she needs to be able to do it all by herself.
2006-08-02 07:57:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are pretty much naming all the good things aboout your daughter and have pretty much convinced yourself that there is absolutely NO reason you shouldn't sign for it. Especially if she is going to get it in 6 months no matter what you say.
If I were you, I would try to make it a 'mother-daughter bonding event.' Maybe you could get a small tattoo yourself while she gets hers. Getting tattoos together is really an awesome thing to do.
That way it will be a positive experience.
2006-08-02 07:55:07 · answer #8 · answered by Sleeping Beauty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that is something she should do when she is 18 then she will be an adult you are the parent and she is still a child maybe when she turns 18 she will change her mind. Tattoos are okay but i just dont see why people want to do that i have my tongue pierced but i can take it out now if i dont want it anymore. Dont let her be a child tell her it will be HER choice when she is 18 as for now she is still your baby girl that needs to listen to her parent
2006-08-02 08:46:21 · answer #9 · answered by â?¥á?¦á?¦â?¥ CRISSY â?¥á?¦á?¦â?¥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tattoo's are now looked upon differently, more so like an expression of art. Some people find it sexy and others still find it trashy. Its up to each individuals personality. However I would wait for her to turn 18. So she can make one of her first major decision that will affect her for the rest of her life, being an offical young adult.
2006-08-02 08:21:21 · answer #10 · answered by Sandy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it were me, I would tell her to decide on a design and in six months on her birthday if she still wants that design, you will pay for it as a present to her.
This way she has further time to decide that it's what she REALLY wants on her body for the rest of her life. I have one tattoo and I had the design/idea picked out over a year before I got it to make sure it wasnt just some rash decision.
Good luck :)
2006-08-02 08:01:43 · answer #11 · answered by faithstar7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋