Have you ever lost all of your family members?

Question

My parents, my sisters and a brother, all died in a car crash 10 years ago when I was 18. They were the only people I loved.

For 10 years I have lost interest in living. My obsession became
suicide and death. I have forgot how it feels to really like to do something. I hate seeing people. I hate it when they try to give their sympathy to me.

I hate everything.

Hey, thanks for all of you for giving me such good answers..
My question will expire soon.
I'll just try to live with it a bit longer, I guess:)

Have a good life, good people.

Answer 1

please message or email me...

Yes I have lost family members in a tragic accident..

I do relate to some of what you are going through..

Answer 2

I have over the years lost a mother, father, three brothers in my immediate family. The pain and the grief are unbelievable when you go through something like that. You lose interest in everything and a little bit of you dies with them!
You grieve for quit awhile, years in fact, then you start to mend as your grief lessens with time. Time is a healer. You become interested in things around you once again and life takes on a whole new meaning.

In your case, it has been far too long and you need to seek professional help to help you understand how to make the transition form grief to health once again. You have so much to live for and so much to give others if you allow yourself to. But first things first. Go get that help so you can have closure and go on with the life that has been given you. YOU are someone special and YOU are a worthwhile person and YOU can make a difference in someones life. believe me, I know!

Answer 3

I lost my dad, my boy friend , my aunt & my nephew same year. You can't explain or write clearly your pain , and the sadness which you had by losed your loved one for death. It is a real truth which you don't wanna believe it. Each and every second you will madly think won't it be a dream, won't they come back by chance any miracle? It's a big heavy in your mind and heart. I don't know how to explain it.All these years I am thinking about them every day in some situation. Also I saw lot of people who lost their all family members in civil war in my country. I saw a man whoes whole family was washed out by the water when the Tsunami came. Now days when ever i remember my dad or my fiance i think about those people who lost their family too. I always wonder how they live with all these pain and sadness.

Answer 4

Besides, I have lost people I love, I cannot compare myself with you.

My parents almost divorce because my father cheated on my mom.

When i was 12, i lost a female cousin because in this world, stupid people shoot to the air during holidays. One of those bullets got her, right into her forehead. She was my age too and we were very close. i kept feeling guilty because the last time i saw her i completely ignored her. it was just that it was another's friend birthday, and i was going to spend time with her the next week.Also, i was just beginning middle school, and moving for the first time, so it was pretty hard. Thank God, I got support from my parents, and the school counselor. It helped me out alot, really. But, anyway, that event, changed my life. It made me "stronger". Well, not really stronger, but COLD. I started to hide my feelings, at least, those related to the pain a loss causes. later, i was going to regret that, for sure.

Three years later, I had this boyfriend (my very first serious boyfriend) whom i love very much. well, he is only musician, and he had this accident. He chopped his index finger in the kitchen. I didn't know what to tell him. The point is that, automatically I was evading the subject. I thought that if i talked to him about other things, he would feel better, but all i was doing, was hiding my pain. He needed me very much during that time, but i was acting in such a way, that he thought i do not care about him. we broke up.

That was when i understood that I had to move on for my own good. after five months of suffering i could finally talk about my feelings for him. It took time, and a lot of things (good and bad) have happened between us. But now we are a couple again. anyway, the issue is that you can not go your way hating everyone or feeling guilty for your past. Life goes on, sooner or later, you will understand that. But, once you do it, you will realize all the time you wasted standing inthe edge of an abism. Other thing that i learned is that anything is worth to commit suicide.

Hope this helps.

Answer 5

I have absolutely no idea how it is to lose your entire family in a matter of a day. I don't even know why I am answering this question, because I really don't know what to say to you. Theres no words or physical actions that I or any one else can do or say to make your world change.

I lost my grandma (she raised me) infront of my eyes, and she died and I have sooo much guilt in my heart. But I moved on, except in my dreams where she visits me, and in my subconciousness I dream that I left her alone in the home where we use to live, it haunts me at times.

You know what, its okay to hate everything. Screw the world, since you were dealt such a un-lucky hand. Maybe one day your day will come where all that hurt will leave.. Try to be creative or something, let your mind move your hands.. Maybe you can deal with your anger and pain in a positive way.

- Good luck

Answer 6

I sort of know how you feel, I lost my parents about 2 yrs apart from each other and my only other living family is 2 brothers who are addicts so I never see them unless they want something. I feel very alone too, but you have to find other interests in life other than people, try getting a hobbie, that helped me take my mind off of death. Good luck to you...And if you ever want to talk email me.

Answer 7

it's really hard.. I can't say that I've been through something like that, but I've lost 2 grandparents at 7 and 9 years old. There are still scars in me, and I am reaching 40.

It's hard to shut life off and deal with grief. Life has too many daily demands that somehow dealing with pain is not a top priority, usually.

A while back I've heard that in order for someone to grow up, they have to "claim" their parents. Claim whatever is theirs, and work through the issues that are not, but somehow got inflicted upon you by your parents as part of growing up. It's hard to do that with you parents closeby, and it's also hard to do it with your parents living in a different continent. But it's doable. I'm going through this right now.

It's a spiritual process, really. Day by day, you grow inside, and learn to build your new world from the remnants of the old one. But you have to dig really deep to do it.

Think of double amputees that they've found the courage to climb Mt. Everest. You can do it. If you think you have suicidal tendencies, that means that you have nothing to lose. You are dead already. Might as well start a new life from scratch.

Time does heal, yes. But also you need determination, your brain, and your heart present. Will for life is not just a concept. It's a reality. Make it yours.

Answer 8

I wouldn't answer my phone or my door. I had no one. One day I ran into a lady and her son. Her husband had just left and she hadn't a clue what to do. Neither did I but somehow I thought if I tried at least it would be something different.
It is now 10 years later and she is married and I have a room in their home and I'm gramma and great-gramma to a big family.
Sometimes if you can help someone else you end up helping yourself more. I know that when you are in pain everything folks tell you sounds trite. Your new beginning is just around the corner take a little peek. Just one little one.

Answer 9

You could benefit perhaps from exploring some spiritual approaches. I haven't lost most family members thru death but thru severe differences of viewpoint (no communication with them). So they're alive but it's like they're dead. I know about some aspects of your experience, then. "Regular" traditional religion hasn't been helpful to me but exploring alternative spiritualities has. It's not about finding religion as a human institution but about finding God at a very personal level.... anywhere, not necessarily in a church. Along these lines, I've learned a lot by becoming acquainted with things like Gnosticism, Eastern philosophies (Buddhism, Taoism, etc), mystical Christianity, Kabbalah... All these things are about finding a center within one's being while renouncing attachment to all earthly non-imperative things. It doesn't mean you don't love people you've lost but thru these experiences you learn what you can do to change yourself so you can indeed have a choice in how you feel...towards what happened, the ones you lost, yourself, life... and you learn to go from being an effect of what happened to being a cause of what you can create your life to be from now on and how you can conceptualize past, present, and future.

Answer 10

Do you have any other relatives that you can share some good times with? I'm sorry for your loss. Those of us who "have it bad" with superficial dealings like breakups and other minor things can't even equate that with losing family members.

You do need some counseling. Perhaps they can prescibe some meds for you to be happy for a change. I know it's like putting a band-aid on a cut, it's not actually HEALING the wounds, but hey, it's a start. Why not give it a try?

take care of yourself, and i'll pray for you!

Answer 11

I am so sorry to hear that. I have met one of the survives of the Holocaust, he is an old man now, he Saw how Nazis killed his family in front of him... They did not kill him because he was a musician. He had lived a long solitaire life, he just love music, because he said music saved his life.

I understand your pain, And I would love to help you, but I can't. You need to find a new subject in life to make you happy. Happines is inside of each individual.

I lost My mom last year, she died victim of Alzheimer, she was only, 62. Without her I feel I am completely alone in this world. I did everything I could to give her a good life her last years in this world.

When I recieved the call from the hospital telling me she finally passed away, My heart get broken... I felt a deep pain in my soul, I have never felt a pain like this before. I can't accpet my Mom is gone.

Some times I think I coulded do more for her, help her more, give her more love and attention. My friends told me I was a good daugther I did more than any one else in my family... But I think I coulded do more, Maybe my mom would still alive... and some times I feel guilty.

But you know what... Life never stop and I need to live. I need to keep walking no matter what. She taught me that. I still crying for her, but I cant' stop living because she is gone.

I think you need to live and keep walking too, Like the old mand I mentioned before, like me and like many people who have lost people they love. We need to live for them.

If you want to talk... this is my e mail. [e-mail] I will always reply.