2006-08-02 07:28:51 · 9 answers · asked by Yahoo User 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She could hire a PI.
2006-08-02 07:31:16 · answer #1 · answered by Raspberry 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hire an investigator or something. Get your friends involved. Maybe they'll see him somewhere with another woman and let you know. If you don't want to do that then keep your eye out for the signs. Does he stay out late? Is it hard for you to get in touch with him while he's gone? Have you noticed a change of attitude towards you or in your sex life? There's a million signs. You just have to be able to see them. If you suspect that he's having an affair then either confront him about it (even though he may completely deny it even if its true), or find a way to prove it. All I have to say is you need to resolve this now. If he's not cheating then you are just wasting energy worrying about this. If he is then you need to get rid of him. I hope everything works out.
2006-08-02 14:37:43 · answer #2 · answered by Cira 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hire a private eye or follow him yourself, or have a friend follow him secretly for a few days. Look through his cell phone or the last calls he has made and search his pockets and car for any evidence. Do it all secretly and dont let him catch you. If he catches you looking through his things have a good lie already prepared. Like if you were looking through his cell phone prepare a lie just in case like "oh i need the phone number for our car repair shop (etc) and i thought you might have it. Do you have the number cause my car is having problems." Stay calm if you are caught looking for evidence and prepare a lie in advance like i said.
Also if you suspect something is fishy then he probably is seeing someone else. Ask his friends too after you snoop around and if you cant find anything and ask him directly too. Explain why you have been suspicious and say "i want the truth. That is all I want, i wont be mad, i just dont like secrets." Or say "oh i was gonna talk about wanting an open marriage if you were into that and already seeing someone else anyway." Try to lie to him to get him to confess, think on your feet. If he still claims he isnt cheating then say you were joking about the open marriage thing, etc. Or a few days later say you changed your mind about an open marriage because you decided you dont want anyone but him, etc.
2006-08-02 15:08:50 · answer #3 · answered by Educated 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look for him to start acting differently. He might be working more than usual or staying late at the office. When he's home he may be on the computer more often, instead of spending time with his family. He might also throw a fit if you touch his cell phone or attempt to answer it.
Basically, if he's acting strange, disinterested in you, and/or picking fights with you, and not willing to communicate with you - there might be a problem. Best thing to do is talk to him about your concerns and suggest getting into marriage counseling.
2006-08-02 14:33:35 · answer #4 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Use your instincts girl friend. If you think he is then he probably is. I also agree with the 3rd statement. That is the best answer so far. If you have money then hire a PI. If not then try to do some investigating of your own! Hugs your way and good luck!
2006-08-02 14:37:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He all the sudden he becomes high maintenance, wanting to work out more, buying new clothes that isnt consistent to what he normally wears, and all the sudden has a new "buddy" that calls alot and he hangs out with, that so called "buddy"s name in his phone that shows up is just a nickname cover up for a girl. Joe is really Joanna....get my point? I found out the hard way I was seeing a "single" guy for 8 months until his "wife"! called his "buddy" which was me.....cuz her gut wondered why she never met this so called new "buddy" that she thought called alot for a guy! She told me all the things that she noticed and thats why she got suspicious. I kicked his a** to the curb! Hope she did too cuz he is a damn good liar, he was playing us both, thats what a man who travels alot can get away with.
2006-08-02 14:47:16 · answer #6 · answered by brite star 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When he turns cold with you and can not look at you in the eye you know something is going on if he dosent call you by the same cute names he used to call you u know he is cheating so pls do something before it gets out of hand chk on him or really talk to him if you dont want to get hurt
2006-08-02 14:42:05 · answer #7 · answered by BRENDA L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the same way that men know, instincts!!
2006-08-02 14:59:18 · answer #8 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stalk him!
2006-08-02 14:32:33 · answer #9 · answered by Maggie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋