I really need some support here and I have received some great advice from you gay men out there.
anyways there was this guy in high school that I really liked, and I thought he liked me. but I was too scared to respond to the overtures he was making, and then he got a girlfriend. I called him after we graduated and told him that I loved him.
he stammered for a while and seemed cool with it. but then we really haven't spoken since. we had somewhat regular conversations but i guess it was really my anger at his conflicting signals that led to this impasse. he never answers the phone when I call him...I haven't talked to him since about June.
I keep calling him because I still love him even now. I have gotten so heart broken over it and even if he talked to me one more time, even if it was to say something mean, I'd still be happy, knowing where I was with him.
should I delete his number from my phone, fellas, or should I keep trying?
2006-08-02 07:27:39 · 7 answers · asked by Mr. Fancy Pants 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I hate to discourage young love, but yeah, dump the number. He knows how you feel and he knows where to find you. He isn't interested. At least not now. Very probably, never. He was nice enough to hear you out and talk with you about it. Please don't mistake his kindness and acceptance as a mixed message on love.
There are a million guys out there that would love to be with you. Please don't be one of these guys who always wants what he can't have. Move on. You're a good guy, don't waste your life mooning over this guy.
2006-08-02 09:04:32 · answer #1 · answered by michael941260 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
well, first just how many times have you called him and he hasn't answered. No man likes to be consently called. And it's only August, maybe he's been busy, you never know. Try calling from a pay phone or some unknown #, see if he picks up. If all else fails, put some time between the last call and your next one. If he wants to talk to you, he will. There's always the chance that he's still recovering from you telling him that you love him, being caught off guard with that and all. Just give it time, a week or two. Oh and question, could you stand just being his friend or pushing him away altogether? Be careful how much you push on this guy to potentually come out and be with you. A friendship is better than nothing.
2006-08-02 14:35:14 · answer #2 · answered by Danny H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Delete his number. I think sometimes gay men read to far into things. Well I guess everyone does when it's happening to them. They never seem to get it right, they always read to much into it or not enough. I think he's a straight boy that just did things that he considered friendly and you took to mean a little more. If he has not called you back or anything then he's probably not worth your time anyway. Don't worry you'll find someone who'll treat you as you should be treated.
2006-08-02 14:33:26 · answer #3 · answered by laydlo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep it...U never know. People change. Especially when they're emotionally unstable. So u just wait till he gets his heart broken. Then u can jump in. LoL.
2006-08-02 14:42:22 · answer #4 · answered by pinkBDana 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he might not be ready to come out of the closet yet. I wouldn't push. He'll make that choice when he's ready. I would try to move on but not shut him out.
2006-08-02 14:33:52 · answer #5 · answered by PaganPoetess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it up....he has made it clear, that for whatever reason he is not interested. Move on and fine someone else.
2006-08-02 15:01:14 · answer #6 · answered by M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did anything happen between you two sexually?
2006-08-02 14:33:45 · answer #7 · answered by mylife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋