why do i still havefeelings for my ex when you just found out that his girlfriend is pregnant?

Question

The thing is everytime i see my ex boyfriend or someone mentions his name or says they have seen him or i see him i think about him more and i just found out that his girlfriend is pregnant and she is one of them who rubs it in your face please help me out i just want him out of my head and out of my life but i just cant seem to let him go everytime i think i am over him i realise there is something there even when i am daft he probably got me where he wants me because hewas cheating with her when we was going out so why do i still like him what is the catch please help me out

Answer 1

Because you have no brain. Insane in the membrane. Yabba Dabba Doo.

Answer 2

This sounds like something I have went through with my ex boyfriend for a while. Same as you everytime I would see him or someone would talk about him I would get butterflies in my stomach I loved this boy, and wanted to be with him even though he cheated on me repeatedly. But you can say I pretty much allowed him to because we would separated and when ever he was done with the girl he cheated with he always came at me with I love you and I want to make this work between us and like a dummy I would take him back. It took me 4 years before I couldn't take it anymore and I finally ended it. Yes it is hard to get them out of your head but what helped for me was I started dating some one else and yes I still think about him from time to time. But I realized it is not him that kept me there is was the things we did together the good times we had and thats is what was basically keeping me there. Overall it is hard but you just have to do it, and you have to do it even much so because he has a baby on the way. You can't stop how you are feeling but you can start the process of something new.

Answer 3

Your not over him yet, dont worry it will get easier. You have probably heard that alot but it will. If you were over him you would be happy for him and his girlfriend. His new girlfriend is only rubbin git in your face because she knows you still have feelings for him and she is being horrible and hurting you more than the break u p between you and your boyfriend did. Problem is if you go to him and tell him about her and what she is doing or mention how you feel he may get upset with you and accuse you of being jealous. I have been in this position myself and he will more than likely have a go.

You just need to let your hair down and stop worrying. You cant change what has happened and what is happening now but you can change who you are and where you are going. You dont want to make things worse for yourself.

Hope everything turns out ok for you xx

Answer 4

How pathetic are you? He just got some loser girl pregnant (out of wedlock) and she's parading her happiness around. When (or before) that poor baby is born to those two losers, he will disappear and another kid grows up without a two parent home. Hallelujah. But, it's all about you, isn't it. You always knew he was a loser but the sex was so good and mind numbing that your brain wants the numbness back because having to think for a self involved broad like you gives your brain a migraine.
Sadly, you will continue to search for Mr. Excitement/Mr. Drugged out Cool, and you will repeat this process over and over while popping out a bunch of babies destined to grow up in a one parent home.
Get over to your community college and enroll in at least one class and develop some class so that a man of substance will ask you out. Forget everything your parent(s) taught you. It was a waste of time. Education relevant to your intellectual abilities is the ONLY answer.
And, have a nice day.

Answer 5

Is hard when you love someone....it doesn't happen over night so stop killing yourself thinking is bad for you to feel like that. His out of your reach and you don't want to come in between a family, the child doesn't deserve it. Start by going out, start dating other people and take small trips like Vegas, the beach, the mountains whatever rocks your boat. Try to keep busy and it just gets easier. Life is what you make of it. Is your decision if you want to sit at home and cry over this guy or go out and find some else mean while. Take it one day at a time.

Answer 6

Because love is a habit that's hard to break even when the other person has been as horrible as your ex.

It takes time to get over someone, so don't beat yourself up about it. What I did in the past to get over a relationship was to just get on with things - go out, pretend you're enjoying yourself even if you're not, and eventually you'll realise that you actually are enjoying yourself!

Someone who cheats on you is not the person you are supposed to be with. Keep telling yourself that you deserve someone who will treat you properly and that he's actually done you a favour because you can't find the right person if you're with the wrong one!

As for his girlfriend - pity her, because if she's not the right person for him either, he'll treat her badly too and she will be left as a single mum, which isn't easy.

Answer 7

If I knew the answer to this, I'd be rich. There isn't any easy way to get someone out of your head and you shouldn't feel stupid. People just stick there sometimes for whatever reason, even if they didn't treat you well and you don't want them back, forgetting them or the way they made you feel is still tough.

I've found that this sort of thing tends to stick with you until you find the next person that causes you to feel that same spark.

Answer 8

I can see, from the length of the single sentence that is your question, that you have a problem putting a period at the end of things. ; )

It is natural to think about our ex's.
It is natural to wish them well in their life.

It is not in your best interest to dwell on your ex's.
Some relationships work out, some don't.
You don't have to concern yourselves with those that don't work out. That is part of life.

Try this. Try feeling sorry for the girl he got pregnant.
Do you honestly believe his cheating days are over, and that he won't cheat on her? No reason to rub that in her face, just think about how lucky you are to have discovered what kind of relationship you had with your ex-'boy'friend, and what luck you have not to be pregnant with his child, whereby you would have to deal with him for your child's sake.

Sit down and list all the positive attributes you have about yourself, and what you have to contribute to a relationship.
Honesty, commitment, monogamy, kindness, a big heart and willingness to accept another person are all great things to bring to a relationship. You probably have all kinds of things to contribute.

So, don't think you need to settle for anything less.

You will do fine in life to put a period at the end of that relationship, and any others whereby you do not find a mate who will treat you as fairly as you treat them.

Much luck.

Answer 9

Love fades slowly from the heart. There is no magic hon. The only way is time. I went through this and I prayed for God to take that love from me. I knew it was bad for me even though I still loved the person. Whenever you think of him don't wallow in it. Find something different to occupy your mind and your time. If you stay busy it helps alot. Doing volunteer work is great because it helps build back your self esteem. One reason we hang onto bad relationships is we feel rejected and that your hurts your pride. Good Luck.

Answer 10

What you are probably mourning is your loss. Loss of your dream. You have not gone on with your life, your too busy trying to get him out of your life or head. Can you really love a man that would cheat on you? If you answer, I don't think so. Then it is not him you love, it is your desire to find what you feel is missing from your life. I have left two men that I loved, one of them I was married to and had a child with, but I left them because I realized it was not him I loved, it was my dream of what I wish he was I loved, and starting over again is very hard. Have fun girl, and lighten up, my best advise. Good luck

Answer 11

Maybe you have that hope that you guys will get together again, I was like that too and I had to just not even cross his paths anymore or I would get those feelings for him.....I think you should put your interests into someone else to get him off your mind hook up with someone go to the clubs hang out with friends do something besides thinking about him