no, she is not banging the poolboy....also not sexually molested, or any kind of such history. her explanation....I dont like sex , but she wants the marraige to continue on the same base...I have even given an ultimatum that if she dont share her part of the marraige, we have to end it. Softy me....gave her time to fix this but still NOTHING.
should I just stay married and get sex somewhere else or just make a plain stop to it all? I dont want to hurt her but I am hurt for the last 5 years.
2006-08-02 07:15:42 · 11 answers · asked by spookie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thanks Maggie for the true imput of me being a jerk , should i decide to have sex with someone else. this was mere a suggestion to get my wife's attention, which however is not the way I should go. But sometimes "shock therapy"helps.
No she dont want to see a sex therapist or head doctor, and it's not me being rough.....she simply dont like sex.
next q? how do I break the news to her as I am a sucker for tears and always give in the moment she starts to cry. But so have I cried in my heart and cannot continue like this, for this is not what life is about. I am no sex freak but i'm only human.
2006-08-02 07:53:08 · update #1
She's got very serious problems- have you tried going to a sex therapy? I honestly don't know if that's gonna work but if you love her you can at least give it a try. But anyway, I can't blame you for leaving her either... 5 years is a long time... how in the world did you get by?
2006-08-02 07:28:04 · answer #1 · answered by Bobbie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you must be doing something that displeases her. Have you tried being affectionate and loving? If sex is demanded from someone it is hardly the way to persuade someone to make love to you. In your question you state "get sex". Is that any way to think of sex with your wife? Wouldn't you like to make love to her and her to you? Isn't that what it's really all about. Go ahead and "get sex somewhere else" you jerk! You would rather do that than try at you marriage! I sure wish I could hear her side of the story. Good Luck!
2006-08-02 14:25:59 · answer #2 · answered by Maggie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A marriage without physical intimacy isn't a marriage. If she doesn't like sex, why does she assume that you should stay married? What are you married for? so you can mow the lawn & she can be supported? You have got three choices:
1) Stay with someone who doesn't want to make love with you, and accept that as a feature of your life. (why??)
2) Stay but have a lover. (absolutely stupid, and cruel to the other person involved)
3) Recognise that you have done all you can and leave to find someone who loves you & wants to MAKE love with you. (The best and the right thing for your future happiness)
Good luck.
2006-08-02 14:32:00 · answer #3 · answered by Kitty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave her she is really loking for some one else i hope you dont have children for they are the ones to get hurt the most take it from me ihave been there always had great sex with wife but then she switched to having good time with booze and partrying and doing what she wants with who she wants trying to save our marriage has cost me 250000 and my home and job all i have is the day to day fight to have my girls i have been doing this for 3 years now she does not care she is a drunk that is with adrunk just go on consider yourself lucky if there are no children it is hard for a man to find another relationship when he has the children but to me it is the children that count so MOVE ON NOW
2006-08-02 14:39:45 · answer #4 · answered by butch 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its unfair for her to expect you to not want sex. its a normal part of marriage. did she tell u she didn't want sex before she married you? and... maybe she's not banging the pool boy, but she does have issues. tell her she needs to seek therapy in this area and if she refuses, then you have done all u can for her. you will be able to walk away guilt free. if she doesnt want sex, then she shouldnt be married... its just not fair to you and if she loves you, then she will understand that and should want your happiness.
2006-08-02 14:37:50 · answer #5 · answered by ready to be alone 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do NOT get it somewhere else. If she doesnt want sex from you then that means you dont turn her on and you may need to spice things up.
2006-08-02 14:30:52 · answer #6 · answered by bigjugs202001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys have to earn up to it sometimes. If you are not nice to her or if you dont make her feel wanted and loved then you can kiss your sex life goodbye!
2006-08-02 14:30:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you tried to get her in the mood.you know some oils and scented candles, nice moody music. you know, and just dance close and hold each other and feel the connection.i think that should work.
2006-08-02 20:51:49 · answer #8 · answered by super girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to cheat then you don't need to be with her. I think you should move on. I don't know how you have gone five years without gettin' some.
2006-08-02 14:26:22 · answer #9 · answered by Keke 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well...her not having sex with you is legal grounds for divorce...but if you love her you will find a way to ge ther to want to be with you
2006-08-02 14:21:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋