What should I say to my friend about her going over my boyfriends house all the time.Which I don't like?

Question

I don't like when my friend Brandi kepps going over my boyfriends house cause she I think she likes him too.So I get mad alot when she askes me what was me and him talking about and what did we do.And I say nothing cause it's not her business.But I think she could be jealous that I go with him.Cause two months ago we both asked him who would he go with this summer and he told are friend Jonathan that he wants to go out with me.And when she found out that he choose me over her she got mad.So now she goes over his house everytime were outside,and I don't like itcause it's desrespect to go over your friends boyfriends house.And I really don't know what to tell her without hurting her feelings and her being mad at me.So what should I do or say to her?Is she really my friend or just trying to now things and be around my boyfriend?

Answer 1

That's so sweet, your first love, puppy love huh?
I hope that you and your boyfriend will be friends when you and him get mad at each other cause it will happen, I was with my first love for like 10 yrs, off and on.

I am old now but, that is another story, let's get to your problem, and yes it's a problem..........


Let me ask you this, how long have you & her been friends?
Were you & her friends before you got with your guy?

See a lot of this matter but, one thing is for sure is that she do not have no respect for you or your relationship with your boyfriend or even the friendship that you & her have.

RULE NUMBER 1#
Never Ever, EVER Go over your best friends boyfriends' house with out her!!!!!!!

She is wrong big time and if I were you I would try to talk to her first before I go up side her head...(just kidding)

If you really care about your friendship with her you need to tell her that what she is doing is wrong big time and if she is really your friend she will stop going to his house with out you and and not only that you need to let her know that real friends do not do real friends like that, tell her if she do not stop going behind your back and all up in his face that you will have to stop messing with her and let her know that it is making a big problem for the two of you period.

If she do not stop then you know what she really feel about you and then that means that it's war between the two of you, now after saying all of that, you need to talk to your guy as well, cause he knows that she is your friend and she do not have no business down to his house, so you tell him that if she is going to be down at his house he has to choose, if he don't like her like he like you then he will not let her keep coming down there.
So you talk to both of them frist one on one then talk to both of them together so that there is no misunderstanding at what it is you are saying...

Answer 2

She is just feeling ultra-competitive with you and trying to outdo you by distracting your man. It's the oldest trick in the book for those who feel lacking around you. They need to validate themselves at your expense. No, it is NOT being a friend to try to cause you hurt like this. She sounds too immature to think beyone her own self-interest, and lacks the empathy to see how she is hurting you. Your boyfriend enjoys the attention, and doesn't seem to care about your feelings, either. Dump him and look for someone with more empathy. Dump her and avoid people who try to hurt you out of jealousy or spite. Don't take responsibility for her feelings, and don't worry if she gets mad. If you stand up for yourself, of course she will get mad. By refusing to be manipulated, you will take back your life, and she won't like it, but who gives a ****, anyway? Real friends don't do that....

Answer 3

girl if u feel this way about it she should know. she doesn't care if u know or if u even care that she goes over there she just does it. people's feelings get hurt all the time and she will eventually get over it. or would u rather she go there and something happens and then u would really be mad. just et her know i don't appreciate it and to put herself in ur shoes, and if it continues shes not ur friend and let her go

Answer 4

I think you have to tell her straight out that it bugs you, you have the right, or talk to you boyfriend first and if he really cares about you he should tell her to stop. Don't be afraid of hurting her feelings, because she is hurting yours and doesn't care. It is not right for her to be going over all the time and for him to be ok with it. Good luck!

Answer 5

it sounds like you should tell her to f*** off. she doesnt sound like a friend at all. is she going to your b/f house without you there also? if so then i would say something to him also. you need to keep a close eye on both of them if you know what i mean. she might be this jelous for a reason. But she sure isnt your friend. you need to put a stop to that girl. good luck!

Answer 6

Brandi is not your friend and she is up to no good. Quit worrying about her feelings she doesn't care about yours. Tell your boyfriend this bothers you and let him handle it for you. However if he continues to let her come around then I would say there's more here than meets the eye.

Answer 7

Tell her its making you mad! If she cant understand why, then she isnt a good friend. Sometimes the truth hurts, BE TRUTHFUL!

Answer 8

FIRST OF ALL YOU NEED TO COME OUT AND BE STRAIGHT UP WITH HER AND TELL HER HOW YOU TRULY FEEL BECAUSE IF NOT THAN WE WILL BE SEEING YOU EITHER ON THE JERRY SPRINGER SHOW OR MAURY...WHAT IS MORE IMPORTANT YOUR FEELINGS OR HERS? IF SHE WAS A TRUE FRIEND SHE WOULD UNDERSTAND..

Answer 9

Just tell her if she dont like it tell her to stay away from your man. If she cant listen to you she aint your friend

Answer 10

Tell her to stay away from your man