my wife and I are married for 6 years. we had only 10 x sex in that time.no change after getting help. and she refuse to talk about the issue. should I proceed with a divorce?
2006-08-02 06:49:14 · 9 answers · asked by spookie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
WOW! You must have the patience of a saint! First, there must be a reason why she doesn't want to thave sex. Was she ever molested? Raped? She may have been and never told you or anyone for all that matters. You need to see a sex therapist or a couples councelor. If she refuses, tell her you are thinking about divorce. Lay everything on the line first before you see a lawyer, that way, you can always say you tried.
2006-08-02 06:54:00 · answer #1 · answered by carolscreation 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow...that's tough. The big question is do you have children? If you do then you're kinda a stuck like a Christmas pig. You owe it to yor children to stick around if you can. Also the child support is oppressive.
If you don't have kids then I would swing away. She is not fulfulling the role of a wife. Yes she is married to you, yes she may not be cheating on you but she has probably emotionally and sexually abanded you. So you have the ethical right (after you put her on a "get well" program and she fails) to terminate the marriage.
If she's really religious then quote her a passage from Peter or Epphisians chapter 5. It starts out with "Wives submit....". The Bible is a perfect owners manual. The hard part is getting her to accept that as the final word.
Check out the following website. It can answer your questions better than I can. It will give you a pretty good idea of what to expect from a divorce.
http://www.condomsbrasandstraightjackets.com/
goo luck
2006-08-02 14:10:13 · answer #2 · answered by hoyhoydc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sex 10 times in 6 years omg.You have already talked to her and obviously went to councelling.Sex isnt a major part of marriage but its a part that makes the whole perfect.Thats like less then once every six months.Theres a major problem do you think since she dosent wanna talk that maybe she was sexually abused as child or maybe raped?I would keep trying and trying to find out then if you think things are not going to work out and thats what you wanna do than thats your desicion
2006-08-02 13:55:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is an important part in a relationship. Ofcourse it's not all there is to it but 10 times in six years is a really long time. Maybe something tragic happened to her or maybe she's lesbian who's to know
2006-08-02 14:02:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes... Obviously the attraction that she has for you isn't as strong as it should be. I am honestly surprised that you have stayed as long as you have. Find someone who wants to love you and be there for you in your time of need as well as hers. I don't know how your marriage has lasted this long, but the rest of the lifestyle you two have together is probably just a boring as your sex life.
2006-08-02 13:57:16 · answer #5 · answered by Vander 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only food that kills a womans sex drive? Wedding cake.
She needs some help, and you should help her. Is she banging the pool boy instead?
2006-08-02 13:56:41 · answer #6 · answered by Alan J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If sex is that important to you yes. If not, and you love her and value her, NO.
2006-08-02 17:04:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you suck in bed.
I don't have much sex with my husband.
but I LOVE sex--- just not with him. do her a favor and leave.
2006-08-02 13:59:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i couldnt get be more clear
2006-08-02 13:53:39 · answer #9 · answered by hi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋