how can i make new friends?i want to get out of my shell without being distracted from goals?

Question

i am depressed by my friend.how to make new(intelligent) aquaintances without seeming too extrovert

Answer 1

Making friends is actually really easy. It is finding the right people to make friends with that is hard. Most people will often make friends with people that they wish they hadn't. The important thing to remember is to keep personal things like the right phone number private until you are ok to give the right number.
It is also important to remember that if you choose to talk to anyone, make sure that they are people you want to talk to, that they hold the same values as you, and most importantly if you can trust them. If you do find someone with these values, try to say things like "hello how are you" "What's going on" "What are you doing today." In response most will give an honest answer but it is a start. Remember that every convesation will have 2 sides and each will give information that only he or she will want to actually give.
Starting is the hard part, find courage where you normally lack and strengthen these areas in your personality.
These areas are possibly the reasons why you would have your problems with finding friends in the first place. The phrase " just be yourself" is getting old but it does work and though you may not be aware of it being yourself will answer what question you may have of people you do and do not trust.
I would try next to go to places where a lot of normal people hang out like bars or dance clubs or where ever you feel comfortable. There are often people there that are doing exactly the same thing. Try to find a common interest like music, movies, tv shows, hobbies such as sports (badminton, swimming, baseball). Try not to make it some place where you regularly hang out to relieve any stress you might have.
It all depends on what you like. Try to be honest, people value honesty. This means don't go with what the other peson likes all the time. It may piss some people off, but at least people will know where you stand on a particular subject. This will also get rid of people you don't want as friends.
There is always going to be friends and acquaintences. choose whom you honestly would rather be with to get your answer and inform those people of your decisions. There are enough things to confuse people such as how you view yourself and how other people view you. These things are important to keep in mind in everything you do. If you choose a lifestyle such as being goth, punk, country, openly gay, bisexual, please stick with it. If you're confused, so will everyone else be if you don't stick to your decisions in life. Lastly, don't make promises that you don't intend to keep. Only promise what you can to the people you hold as important people in your life. Others will come as a dime-a-dozen.
The last part can be hard depending on the type of person you are. If you have goals in life stick with them. The people that will understand usually will be your friends for life. If you constantly set aside your goals for a friend that is not worth it not only will you not get anywhere in life you will not be happy. You being happy with the way you are is the most important thing in life to keep in mind. It is the ultimate question that will also be your ultimate answer when doing anything in life. That is all

Answer 2

I find the best way to make new friends (and friends I share common interests in) is to get involved in activities around things I'm interested in.

For instance, you might join a chess club if you are interested in playing chess. You will immediately have a common interest with the others and you can build off of that interest and find other hobbies.

If you are into volleyball, join a volleyball league. Sometimes leagues will create teams and put people together. I joined a volleyball league when I was living in a town where I knew few people. I knew nobody on the team that I was placed on. I met a great bunch of people and we went out after the games drinking.

So, just make a list of things you are interested in and would like to learn more about or compete in. Look for clubs or organizations in your area that reflect your interests. Join and get involved. Heck, you might even consider creating a club if one doesn't already exist. Odds are that somebody else will share your interests and join you if you market it well.

Also, be friendly, be positive, practice good personal hygiene, and go out of your way for others. It will all come back to you.

Good luck.

Answer 3

The best thing I could tell you would be to seek out people that have similar goal and interests. They can help keep you motivated and on track instead of being a distraction. If you ever have someone in your life that you feel is holding you back or negative for your situation, send them packing, they aren't someone you need around right now. Good luck!

Answer 4

Join clubs and volunteer at things like foodbanks and Habitat For Humanity, or in a hospital. Join a church.

Answer 5

a true friend will never pull u down instead narrow your path towards succes. Keep saying everything about u to the other person and he will start out with his.. Friendship starts with trust

Answer 6

you are not alone, i also need to make new friends. the best way is to be confident and love who you are not matter what problems you have and be yourself at all times. sometimes we need to be patient for what we want. are you involved in any hobbies or activities because there you could meet lots of people and get to know them to see if they are your type of friends. good luck

Answer 7

goals you may never reach friends come and go so all you do is keep trying to reach your goals but also have time for friends. aproch to some one and start being there friends but if you feel you dont wana be there friend you dont have to. If there your real friend they will help you reach your goals.

Answer 8

go do things that interest you. rediscover yourself and you will discover the people in the universe that share your thoughts, ideas and beliefs.

remember the simple pleasures in life are the greatest and being your own best friend is the start you are looking for.

Answer 9

just open up but be our self go put your self out there but dont be shy but dont be hoe dont take dat the wrong way im just tryin to say go make your self known why live a life lonely i mean even if you just walk up to some on and bump in to them and say sorry

Answer 10

well.... i don't have friends too. i am new here in UK. i have no friends and i wish to have one.i don't know where to start a friendship especially that i don't have a job yet. so would you email me on [e-mail]. it will be my pleasure to be my friend. hopefully!