I mean as a very righteous and self-oppressed teenager I'm just saying I'm see 10- year-olds in a "serious, committed relationship" I always tell everyone that dating is trifling and all but the is just ridiculous and possibly the stupidest thing I've ever heard.
2006-08-02 06:43:09 · 87 answers · asked by Makoto 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
This rush to "grow up" and date is disgusting. Parents need to ban together to improve their community. Start by turning off the television.
I found these DAILY figures for teenagers in the USA:
2,795 Teenage girls will become pregnant
373 Teenager girls will miscarry
1,295 Teen girls will give birth
1,106 Teenagers have abortions
48 Teens will contract the HIV (AIDS) virus
623 Teenagers will get syphilis or gonorrhea
2006-08-02 06:46:03 · answer #1 · answered by Plasmapuppy 7 · 11⤊ 0⤋
It's nice to hear this coming from a teenager- because it gives you a taste of what it's like to be a parent & have deal with these things!..... -But the answer remains the same; young people tend to have short attention spans, so "committed relationships" don't tend to stay that way for very long. Still, an 11 year olds feelings are JUST as important to THEM -as a 17 year olds, so you kind have to go alittle easy on the self-rightious outrage. Properly chaperoned 11 year old "couples"- can be taken to the movies, skate parks or whatever- without causing local alarm. In fact, this chaparoning can be done by big brother or big sister- if he or she is responsible enough (!) to see that nothing "inappropriate" goes on (and we all know what THAT is- don't we teenagers? :) ). So cut 11 year olds a little slack, afterall- YOU were young once, too.
2006-08-02 07:15:23 · answer #2 · answered by Joseph, II 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I think it is sooooo NOT for 10-12 yr olds. What's wrong with just being friends with the boys and getting to know what kind of boys you actually like and which ones you want to stay away from? Kids this young don't really understand "serious, committed relationships" as it is sometimes hard for adults to even grip the meaning. At that age, some have not even reached maturity, and their ideas and opinions could change on a lot of things in the next few years. They should be worried about learning about themselves at this time and how to deal with all the changes they will be going through. I would suggest they forget about being serious and have fun as kids, go to the movies in groups, or to school sporting events and dances, the local pizza parlor, etc. Learn how to deal with yourself and others before getting into one on one relationships.
2006-08-02 06:59:08 · answer #3 · answered by TheGuru 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really dont believe that 10 or 12 year olds should date at all. I do think its okay for a group of kids boys and girls to go bowling or to the movies or something as long as parents are present to watch. I just dont think that young people are prepared to deal with the emotional aspects or the physical changes within themselves that come with the relationships. I dont think anyone under 16 should seriously date.
2006-08-02 06:54:12 · answer #4 · answered by lil sis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, as a mother of a 12 year old, I know that she has had "boyfriends" and boys that she has liked in school, but there is no way in hell that I would let her be in a committed, serious relationship at this age. I know that around the 10-12 age range, they are starting to have feelings for the opposite, or same, sex, but for them to be in a serious relationship, no way.
2006-08-02 06:51:51 · answer #5 · answered by brittme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think one of the main reasons people get into relationships that early is because of the influence of the media, and because of peer pressure. I dont see them being in a relationship as wrong, what I think is messed up is that theyre letting other people tell them when and how it should happen. You should get into the dating scene when you feel that you are mature, emotionally stable, and comfortable enough to handle it. This can happen at whatever age, but if you do it because of a few "Haha, you dont have a girlfriend you suck"'s from the little twats on the playground, then it really isnt worth it.
2006-08-02 06:50:10 · answer #6 · answered by fax_monkey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I work with children ages 7-14 and when I hear a group of 12 year old girls talking about their boyfriends, it scares me. I know it's natural for them to become interested at this age, but they are still children and they are not fully aware of the consequences (good and bad) of having a "serious" relationship with someone. A certain maturity level needs to be reached in order for people to understand how to make good choices, and it usually isn't reached by age 12. It's a scary world out there and people do foolish things when they think they are in love.
2006-08-02 06:51:14 · answer #7 · answered by K-Flo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is easy to say that children of that age should not be dating. The truth of the matter is that they too develop "crushes" for others. It is a constant challenge for parents to teach them that this is not an emotion they should act upon. Broken hearts, peer pressure, sex and stuff like that are things that kids really do not need in their life. Have fun. Focus on things other than dating. While it can bring pleasure having a special friend, you should not focus one person. Focus on yourself and what you want to do when you grow up. When you are older, you will have lots of things to worry about. Stay away from the stress right now.
2006-08-02 06:50:26 · answer #8 · answered by pretty_brown_eyes 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one in the 10-12 year old range has the slightest idea what a "serious, committed relationship" is. Where are their parents? There's plenty of time for dating and everything else that goes with it.
2006-08-02 06:48:00 · answer #9 · answered by clarity 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a parent out there is actually allowing there 10 year old, 11 year old or even there 12 year old's are, actually old enough to go out on dates, then I'd have to say, "That, that parent, surely has his or her own issues that they need to deal with!" A child of that age is way too young to understand the true concept of what it means to be in a relationship and any parent that believes that their child is old enough to make a decision like that has to be nuts!
2006-08-02 07:12:25 · answer #10 · answered by Erica W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think anyone has a right to judge but at 10-12 they are just trying to fit in. As long as it is an appropriate thing no sex and stuff (just like holding hands -that would be fine) supervised dates to the movie should be ok. You have your life to live don't be so judgmental about others and you may end up finding some new friends!!
2006-08-02 06:49:53 · answer #11 · answered by wolfpack0810 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋