Just wondering what would you do or feel if your spouse, who iniated the divorce suddenly changed their minds in the middle of the procedings and wanted to reconcile or after the decree is filed and issued and they want to reconcile. What if their are children involved? Keep in mind the devastating heartache it is already, probably for the bad things said. Would you reconcile? What if you are still in love with them? For the children's sake?
Thanks for your answers.
2006-08-02 06:29:20 · 10 answers · asked by ntoriano 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The psychotic part of all this? Apparently there is no other guy. My therapist says she suffers from narcisistic personality disorder. I won't bore you with details. You can look it up.
2006-08-02 09:13:32 · update #1
number 1, i've learned from experience NEVER do any thing for the children's sake (you read my question about child support. i went back to him 3 times and this last time ended up with a black eye). if ya'll faught a lot, do you really want your kids in that environment?? it may be that you are in love with them, but if they filed for a divorce, apparently they don't really love you. i hate to be honest like that, but it's true. eventually i'm sure you would find someone who loves you just as much as you love them. just hang in there. i assure you it will be worth the wait. oh, and by the way, i'm seeing a lawyer tomorrow about the question i asked that you answered :-).
2006-08-02 12:32:07 · answer #1 · answered by trisha_r_c 3 · 7⤊ 2⤋
I don't believe that any couple should stay together for kids. This only hurts them in the long run when one of you is not happy because kids can sense stuff like that and the fact that the spouse even filed shows there are some problems. I would be a little suspicious about reconciling after being half way through the proceedings. Sometimes it is just best to get it over with. This doesn't mean that things can't be worked out in the relationship it just means that if you reconcile and things don't work out you don't have to go through the big "D" proceedings all over again. Think about it hard before making a decision. Hope it works out! :-)
2006-08-02 13:41:31 · answer #2 · answered by Right_Stuff66 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For the children's sake DON'T take her back. Kids bounce back even faster then adults, so the divorce isn't hurting them as much as people sometimes think. If you were both unhappy...why get back together to be unhappy again. If she filed the divorce she may have ulterior motives for wanting to get back together. Money, lost an outside fling, or anything. Don't go back...Life is about going forward.
2006-08-02 13:49:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never do anything for the childerns sake. It is never healthy for a child to see anger and hurt in the parents relationship. they say if you love someone you have to let them go. If they come back they must be yours. =)
2006-08-02 13:35:32 · answer #4 · answered by babyblu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My hubby said "no" to his previous wife but, there were no kids involved.
We have kids and I'm not sure what I would do. How do you feel about her and how much do you think that it would affect the kids? Ask the kids opinion but, be sure to say that you will be making the final decision and need their help.
2006-08-02 13:51:16 · answer #5 · answered by Colleen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been in this situation. my advice on the childrens sake part,no dont just stay in it for them becuz u have to b happy in life. if u r still in love then try to just date her or him for awhile to see if will work out.
2006-08-02 13:40:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I would turn around and run the other way. Reconciling would be prolonging the agony.
2006-08-02 13:34:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
things must not have worked out between her and the new guy-----don't get back together with her - she will leave again.
2006-08-02 15:42:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think you can be happy living with her, then take her back.
2006-08-02 16:29:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say do her in good. ITS HER TURN TO CRY NOW
2006-08-02 13:37:03 · answer #10 · answered by Fowl Language 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋