I am having a bbq at my house this weekend and have invited my friends and some family. I have invited my girlfriend *C* and she will be coming with her daughter and maybe her husband. My brother is also coming with his girlfriend and her children. *C* and my brother had a relationship (outside her marriage--of which I had no knowledge of until the end of it). I know they have not spoken since it ended. How can I tactfully say to each of them that the other is coming? They have already recieved invitations and both have said they're coming. I'm normally blunt, but I think this deems a little more tact....
2006-08-02 06:02:58 · 24 answers · asked by Jen-Jen 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
As far as I know they are on friendly terms, but then, I don't know--I don't want to know the 'details'! ICK!
2006-08-02 06:10:41 · update #1
Make a casual remark about it....something to the effect of "Oh, and by the way". If it doesn't seem like a big deal to you, it's less likely to be a big deal to them. That was ancient history anyway, we are all adults here :)
2006-08-02 06:09:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has C moved on at all? if so then it won't be a big issue. Otherwise it's best they both know and decide whether they can cope with it or not. There are others to be considered in this and Im sure you want a happy BBQ day and not a scene. Best to be calm but direct and tell them personally, just thought you should know C is coming with her family and vice versa and say you hope they'll still come and spend a nice day with you..
2006-08-02 06:13:05 · answer #2 · answered by xbkw46 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do nothing and enjoy the show, especially since they're both a bunch of pig-sluts anyway. It was their affair, not yours. If they can't act like adults around each other, then they shouldn't have done it. Obviously since it's your BBQ, your brother and your friend, they realize there's a chance they will meet up there. Maybe they're still screwin
2006-08-02 06:07:45 · answer #3 · answered by Big Momma Carnivore 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you invite them both?!? Eek what an aweful situation. Your only choice is to be completely honest to avoid a big scene, unless you wanted a big scene and that's why they were both invited. What about the feelings of *C*'s husband and your brother's girlfriend? Didn't you think about this when you made out the guest list?
2006-08-02 06:07:39 · answer #4 · answered by Ashley F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be direct with both of them. Tell them that you don't want any problems and you were worried about a messy encounter occurring. Make sure that neither of their mates know what's up because things could get even uglier then. Then if they both show up, keep it cool. They know what time it is and will probably handle themselves better than you think since they were fooling around while one of them was married. This is messed up though, but it's not your fault.
2006-08-02 06:14:06 · answer #5 · answered by intentionalmasterpiece 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you would be wise to send yourself an invitation to be called way out of town at the time of the barbeque. Lock up the knives and baseball bats, too.
2006-08-02 06:07:57 · answer #6 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk about an awkward situation....... but it can be done...... you need to call your friend and tell her straight up that he is coming....... put the option of not coming on her..... you do not have to go into detail, just say that he is coming and leave it at that...... be casual and kool...... she will know what you are saying... then also do the same for your brother..... they both know the score and so it is their responsibility to take the right actions........ good luck and God bless
2006-08-02 06:13:58 · answer #7 · answered by Annie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since friend isn't family...I think I would call her first and in a friendly conversation, mention that Brother and girlfriend are going to be there.Maybe she will bow out gracefully
2006-08-02 06:44:49 · answer #8 · answered by kayboff 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call them up, talk about the BBQ and "just happen to mention" who is all going to be there. Once they have this info, they can decide on how to handle it.
2006-08-02 06:10:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At the last minute just be like, "By the way, so-and-so is coming, just ignore him/her". If they are onsiderate they will be normal and not ruin your bbq.
2006-08-02 06:06:48 · answer #10 · answered by PiccChick12 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋