Are you a loner?

Question

Do you need others in your life, or are you content to be with yourself?
I consider myself to be sort of a floating loaner, moving to people that seem interesting but never staying there, always moving

Answer 1

Hello “Coralicious”,

I think, we need looking for the natural foundations of socialization, if we want to understand humans’ social behavior. The first socialization phenomena happen between micro-particles: every particle has its anti, its physical/symmetry but tendency opposite/ asymmetry counterpart, which is attracted for. Our known example like that is the attraction between male and female: each male has in this world his female counterpart, they are physical symmetric but tendency asymmetric.

Jumping from this first action of socialization to an evolutionary next step, there is the association between neighbors at every natural system. You know: the liver is in the first place, next to the stomach and not the feet, so, if a liver alone falls in some stranger place it will search first for a stomach to join with, only after that the set of liver, stomach, heart, will seek for feet, everything trying to reproduce the antique system.

Now. Let’s go to your case. Your DNA is a package of bits-information, unique, different in some small detail from the others 5, 9 billions of DNA inside human beings. You are a message, a universal function, unique, indispensable. But you are here for to accomplish your “message”. Your message, like everyone else, is a suggestion for to build the best possible system for better life. You can’t do it alone; you have no power for such. You are joined with other human beings in society because they are yours physical symmetrical counterpart. Naturally you will search for others DNA with messages closest to your message. They are the non-physical-but-minded-tendency most similar to yours; they are the neighbors in the system you are looking to build.

SO, my suggestion is: continuing searching for your group, they are in some place of Earth just now, if you find them, you will be happier than you are alone.

Answer 2

I'm content with talking and listening---so I don't need to be around people, I guess. Normally I'm a loner until I decide who I will claim as a friend and then talk and listen
but yes, I'm content with being alone. Not exactly happy, but content because in the end that's how most of us will turn out--alone

Answer 3

I was pretty much a loner the 1st 40 years of my life,then I was married for 15 years,then my wife died,now I'm alone again. Being a loner isn't too bad if u have a lot of interests. I spend most of my free time on line.

Answer 4

I am a loner. I wasn't always one, I used to like being around people, but certain events in my life have shown me, that trust is a very rare thing, and no one likes you the way you are. Everyone wants you to be someone different. These have shown me that friendship, and ties of bonding never last. Now I'm just a loner, all that I have is myself and my faith.

Answer 5

Yes, I am indeed a loner...almost to the point of being an eremite.

I work 40+ hours a week in a position of public service. My employer gets that 40+ hours a week and that's enough!!! I relish my solitude, I wrap it around me like a cloak...it is my fortress from the noise and clangor of the world in which we live.

Answer 6

For the most part a loner. I'm an only child and have had to support myself and my kids most of their lives and I like my alone time - but I did find someone who understands and is very good about space.

Answer 7

I'm a loner, bnut not because I want to be. My intermediate family wasn't close, and I'm an outcast to my other family members. Wasn't that popular in school either, so yeah. But i'm happy being a loner, it lest me focus on what's important and kep the negativity away from my life.

Answer 8

I like to have a "base", people really close to me i can talk to and feel the closeness from time to time. I would not be happy without them.
I also like my own company and can spend hours, even days alone perfectly happy. So am I a loner?

Answer 9

Both. I've tried being a loner like you describe, and I'm the first person to admit I'm content in my own skin (e.g., not afraid to be myself). But without other to interact with, who'd know?

Answer 10

I think we are all loners in a way. Those who say they are not are just deluding themselves. Since we can not get into anyone else's mind or heart we will always be alone. Sure we can attempt to share what is inside of us and people can "empathize," but it is just a sad attempt at trying to not be alone.