My boyfriend of 1 month asks me to move in but i think its to soon. Then he later tells me that a friend (female) had offered to move in with him to help out with the bills. My boyfriend asks me how i would feel about that. I got upset he said that he will say no because he doesnt want that to affect our relationship. but was I right to get upset What do you guys think about this.
2006-08-02 05:55:02 · 19 answers · asked by florlatinspice0825 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Run from the situation! You don't need to be anywhere near such a manipulative jerk.
What you described stinks. It stinks of manipulation. It stinks of exploitation. It stinks of the scent of a SELFISH MAN. Gee, a roommate with "benefits".....benefits for him only.
Find a man who is serious about a relationship based on respect, love, traditional love and marriage.
Getting any more mixed up with this guy will only lead to heartache....YOUR HEARTACHE.
Get rid of the jerk. You're better off with a cat for a roomie. Find a better man.
2006-08-02 05:59:28 · answer #1 · answered by WhatAmI? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you weren't right for getting upset at him after he already asked you... But I know I would get upset too.... So don't feel bad, I mean if it were the other way around and a guy said yes to being a room mate with you, don't you think your boyfriend would feel a little or a lot upset??? Think about it, we're only human!!! And if your boyfriend understands then he'll forgive you for going off... It was just a first instinct thing... But if you really don't want that girl to share the same breathing space with him then let him know how you feel about it, but in a calm, respectful, straight to the point way. That's all... He'll hopefully understand.
2006-08-02 13:04:30 · answer #2 · answered by shoppingspree4evergal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmmm.... Has he ever dated this "friend"? Is she pretty? Do you feel threatened by her?? 2 of the most important factors to a relationship are commonality and proximity, so if they are living together, chances are high that he will hook up with her. Id be slightly upset, but if you've only been dating for a month, I wouldnt move in either. Thats a ridiculous thought. Moving in is a HUGE step, one that should NOT be taken lightly. Id at least date a guy for 6 months to a year before considering that thought. Good luck.
2006-08-02 12:59:58 · answer #3 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have only known your boyfriend for 1 month, you are right, it is too soon. Especially with a 5 year old child. You don't know that man! Seems like to me, your boyfriend just wants someone to help foot the bills and probably mooch off of too. How can he ask if living with some girl is ok with you? Of course it ain't if he calls himself liking you. This guy sounds like a real loser. Dump him, quick and in a hurry! RUN, GIRL, RUN!!!!!!
2006-08-02 16:57:42 · answer #4 · answered by Poetess_4U 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are over reacting. Look he must need to have a roommate else he wouldn't have asked her. Don't forget you were the one that turned him down. If having a friend live with him bugs you so much you need to do the right thing and move in yourself. Problem solved. Otherwise you can't complain.
2006-08-02 13:00:29 · answer #5 · answered by pablo h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would certainly agree with your stance. I had a room to rent a while ago and would not have rented it to a female whether I knew her of not. I do not think that my fiance would have thought that was very cool. In addition if my fiance ever wanted to rent out an extra room I would be offended if she rented to the opposite sex.
2006-08-02 13:00:22 · answer #6 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You had every right to be upset w/ him and if he really cares, he'll say no to the girl and be patient for you cuz yeah it's a lil' too soon.
2006-08-02 13:03:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you go girl, don't move in and don't let intimidation move you in. If your boyfriend can't handle his bills I wouldn't be around him in the first place. You can be just as happy with a well to do guy as with a scrapper
2006-08-02 13:00:43 · answer #8 · answered by bearbrown_51 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a man, I can only speak from a male perspective. DUMP HIM!!!!
Life is to short to be dealing with this kind of grief. You have only been dating for 1 month, and already he is talking about other women. Loose him fast!!!
Find another man who will actually appreciate you as a person. You found him, you can find another one.
2006-08-02 13:04:24 · answer #9 · answered by bowtierodz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you right and jealous all the girls get jealous at that point and i think he just play with you so that you can move with him give things a try and if you don;t like move out
2006-08-02 13:03:57 · answer #10 · answered by maya 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋