how many years is the right duration to be dating before getting married??
2006-08-02 05:53:52 · 19 answers · asked by pOpTarT484 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
for me...i think when u can afford to pay for the basic necessities of life without depending on either of your sets of parents...then u can consider marriage. Marriage simply is deciding to love and live with someone for the rest of your lives...facing the troubles, which are inevitable, and enjoying the pleasures...hmmm....
so sis, be above 18 or 21...legally, socially...be able to pay your bills yourself...if not, just stay friends and keep sex out of it...cos if u do..who knows..if he is the one who will marry u?...be blessed
2006-08-02 06:00:19 · answer #1 · answered by kevin 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I think you just know... I dated a guy for 3.5 years and I would have never married him. I have been dating another guy for almost 3 years and I have known since the first year that we will get married. We are not officially engaged, but its not the right time yet. My advice is do not rush, but do not give too much of yourself so that the marriage does not seem like anything special. This could be living together, combining finances, or even sleeping together. You need to draw the line where you see fit.
2006-08-02 13:01:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before marriage, the duration of dating is not at all important.
Whatever time let the dating take, be sure that you know the person personally as an individual in the aspects which are important to you, so that you know whether you can spend the rest of your life with him happily or not.
2006-08-02 13:08:47 · answer #3 · answered by Tanveer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that is sorta a personal choice. There really is no right time to say. It is when the couple is ready and understands what a commitment it is. You have to remember it is a life time commitment. My husband and I dated off and on for 7 years had a child then decided to marry and are doing ever so well since. It is very different for each person
2006-08-02 12:58:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
marriage is appropriate when u both think u love each other enought to make a life with each other an love each other unconditionally alway but to know if u r really ready to take the next step in life i would suggest doing alittle bite of marriage councilling because marriage is a wonderful thing but councilling would hep in the hard times ( no marriage is perfect an u will have disagreements from time to time ) an it is a completely different story when ur married
2006-08-02 13:02:57 · answer #5 · answered by vicsha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually a year and half of dating is sufficient enough to get to know if you're compatible with your partner. You should also get to know each other's families at that point and feel comfortable with them.
Marriage is good when both parties are mature both intellectually and emotionally.
In my personal opinion, one should get married in their mid-20's when the man and woman already consider themselves as adults, and both have solid goals in life and stable jobs. People always say that money is not important finding your partner, but it usually is. It's one of the first things couples fight about--you don't need to be rich, but at least make enough to support your needs and both of you should have about the same spending habits.
Also, when getting married, be sure that even if the person has flaws, that you could live with them. You can never change your partner, and if you disagree with one of his/her traits, it's not going to get any better in time. In fact, more things about the other person will annoy you. So find someone you know you can learn to compromise with.
2006-08-02 13:24:12 · answer #6 · answered by the_memory_of_ashes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I married the first time after 2 1/2 years. My 2nd marriage (my first husband died), happened after 4 months. Whatever feels right!
2006-08-02 14:23:59 · answer #7 · answered by But Inside I'm Screaming 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It truly doesn;t matter as long as both of you are ready and feel the time's right, I'm not telling you to get married after a week of having met him but if you've been with that person for 2 years and you both feel ready for this responsability and commitment then go right ahead! Best of Luck! ~V.J.~
2006-08-02 13:07:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My personal opinion is probably around 1-2 years of dating.
2006-08-02 12:58:10 · answer #9 · answered by PANDABEAR 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In 6 months of dating, you ought to know if you want to spend more time with a person to get to know them on the next level, or end the relationship. In the next 6 moths you ought to find out enough about a person to know if they are "the one" or not.
You can get married when both of you are mature enough, mentally, emotionally & financially.
2006-08-02 13:00:35 · answer #10 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋