My friends duaghter is 19 and getting married in two weeks. about a week ago she made comments to her friends that she was not sure if she wanted to go through with the wedding but everything was already paid for and ready to go so she doesn't want her mom and dad to loose their money. Her friends told her parents and when her parents asked her about it she denied ever even saying it even after her dad said not to worry about the money. I feel she is not ready for marriage and thinks it's a game of dress up or one big party. What about after the hooneymoon, then what....what do you think?
2006-08-02 05:50:11 · 12 answers · asked by mommyof1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She's 19 geez, I don't think a teenager should get married in the first place. When she reaches her mid-twenties, finally gets a great job--her priorities and needs will change. She will grow and mature and will be exposed to different people. There's so much things in your early twenties you need to learn and discover by yourself. Even science proves that teenagers' brains aren't fully developed yet emotionally.
I think she should go with her gut instinct and cancel the wedding. If she's not ready, then she's NOT.
2006-08-02 06:41:39 · answer #1 · answered by the_memory_of_ashes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can advise her to postpone the wedding, That will buy her some time to reflect and think what she really wants. She will not have to fear about her parent money as there are still time to postpone without losing the deposit money.
She can also keep her fiance and plan ahead for a different date.
Marrying young is a bad idea, her parents know buty they just want to be supportive of her by going alond with the wedding plans.
You might suggest a therapy/counseling session for her befire she ties the know, Professional counseling might help her ease the fears and help her make a decistion.
Good luck
2006-08-02 06:09:29 · answer #2 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is having second thoughts get out now! there is no reason to get married because the weddings paid for. The divorce can cost just as much! Second thoughts says she is not ready. At 19 believe me she is not ready. Try dating for a few years and if they are still together then get married.
2006-08-02 06:04:22 · answer #3 · answered by joseph d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I certainly hope she's ready, because she's not going to be solving problems getting married, she just going to create more problems. I am proud of her parents confronting her about the situation, and giving her the chance to back out. That's what good parents do...now, they have to trust their daughter to know she's making the right choice. Maybe she was just talking -the cold feet jeeters- I hope she knows how much she is loved, by her family and her friends! Her family and friends have done everthing possible, they can only be there if it doesn't work.....hope everything works out, and it was just talk...God bless us all...........
2006-08-02 06:29:51 · answer #4 · answered by totallylost 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got married way tooo young but i feel like her almost pressured to do it....Thank God I didn't get pregnant....Tell her to be careful, use protection and let her know you will always be there for her. When I wanted to leave at first I felt ashamed that my marriage didn't last and that I had wasted everyones money and time. Just remind her that no one will care if she decides to just wait awhile.
2006-08-02 06:15:05 · answer #5 · answered by babeusahot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 27, none of the people I grew up with that got married before 23 are married anymore. Enough said.
2006-08-02 06:03:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can be the hero it might be time for a heart to heart with her. Life (marriage included) is difficult and can be much more difficult than it needs to be.
2006-08-02 06:05:48 · answer #7 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her make her own decisions and her own mistakes. There is nothing that you or her parents can do about it.
2006-08-02 05:57:00 · answer #8 · answered by michiganwife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could just be pre-wedding jitters. Make sure.
2006-08-02 05:55:48 · answer #9 · answered by jokerscard692000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im 19 and married. my gut instinct was right. enough said.
2006-08-02 05:54:54 · answer #10 · answered by lindseyanne323 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋