If I serve a dominatrix - does that count as cheating on my wife?

Question

I'm a 30 year old married man from the UK and for the past couple of years I have felt the need to be dominated by a Mistresses. My wife has made it clear that she isn't interested in this and I'm beginning to get very frustrated.

Is it wrong to want a strong woman to punish, hurt and humiliate you?

So far I have only 'served' Mistresses online via webcam, but I can feel myself moving closer and closer to visiting one in real life. I have found one on a website who is just what I am looking for (older than me, large breasts and cruel) and who lives very close to me.

So my question is - If i visit this Mistress, will this count as cheating on my wife (as there will be no sexual intercourse involved)?

Thanks for all your answers, I completely understand what you are saying and 95% of me agrees.

But, what am I to do, I have this need in me, something I have to satisfy.

Should I leave my wife and find someone who will do this to me, if so both my wife and I would be very sad :(

Answer 1

Yes.

1) If you have to ask, it is probably cheating.
2) If you wouldn't do it right in front of her, it is cheating.
3) If you feel the need to keep it secret, it is cheating.

Answer 2

see u can't count on that( no sex), ever girl gets what she wants.
If u take ur wife shoes, she loves u and wants u so much she is willing to share her whole life with u....yet she sees u falling for others as if she is not what u wanted to marry in the firsted place.

This women online could be lying about her age and her name and every information she tells u.
You have to have more proof on her,coz anyone can lie and say i am from ....island or something but they really in new york.

try to respect and love the one u have now, she really cares about u and she leaving u so u can have this mistress in ur life.
Huck ...she could be tran-sexual...how knows.
yes it is coz cheating on ur wife...theres many ways of doing it.
Ur trying 2 start a relationship with another women but 2 do that u have 2 try 2 forget ur wife...am i right.
See u may not get what u want and the end but ur actions hurt people more than ur words.
Why want some one to humiliate u when u have some one to love u.

Answer 3

Yes, it counts.

I don't think you will have to worry about your desires being satisfied once your wife finds out because she will probably kick your a r s e to France and back again, and I'm sure the divorce settlement will satisfy your need for punishment and humiliation.

Answer 4

Although there is no sexual intercourse, there is still the big deal of seeking another to satisfy your fantasies. If this is what your really in to pehaps it's time to think about what your needs are & whether you are in a relationship that's headed for splitsville.

Answer 5

The fact that you are questioning if its cheating should tell you that it is. If what you are looking for is validation to cheat you will not get it from me. You need to decide what is important to you, your wife, or your fantasy. Do not do things behind her back.

Answer 6

Yes cause you are still seeking the attention of another women behind your wifes back

Answer 7

If it's a choice between splitting up or seeing this woman, I say go for it. You might get it out of your system and never need do it again.

It's worth the risk I say

Answer 8

Absolutely yes.

Answer 9

of course that is considered cheating, even when you are visiting this web stuff that is still considered as cheating.....

if you respect your wife and love her, then why do it?

my husband from uk too, and if he ask me like how you asked your wife..... i will definitely will leave him.

what and how would you feel if she asks you what you asked her? Pretty shitty right?

Answer 10

Yes, it does BECAUSE it is emotional cheating. Most think that any kind of cheating is bad.
Cheating isn't only about the sex, y'know.