My best firend and i have been friends for four years, almost five. Well, when we're together i seem to get most of the attention and she doesn't, and she's even admitted that she tries to impress me because i always look nice and she feels that she doesn't and she thinks that i look better than she does. But i don't treat her as if she's less than me or anything, and it's not like i try to out shine her or anything. What should i do? And please no rude comments...
2006-08-02 05:47:13 · 10 answers · asked by That's_hottt 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
She has a problem with self esteem, if you ask me. Just tell her she is a beautiful person and that you love her just the way she is. Tell her exactly how you feel. Tell her you are flattered that she wants to be like you, but she should just be herself, because that's the person you became friends with. If people dont like her for who she is, they are not worth her time. Just because you two get along so well doesnt mean you have the same impression on other people as you do with each other. You can both have different friends outside of your friendship.
2006-08-02 06:24:21 · answer #1 · answered by edge 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has self-esteem issues and clearly you do not..... that is what happens in a lot of freind relationships, not all that unusual really.. but you could take her for a girls day out.. a make over type of thing, or you could buy magazines and have a make over party with you and her and a few other friends... friends of all shapes, sizes and ethnic back grounds.... try make up, hair does and donts, clothes, etc...... realy be into it..... ask each girl to bring a camera, digital if they can, so you can down load on the puter and have a kinda, portfolio party too....... rofl, it is a lot of fun....... the point is, your friend will get tips and ideas and not even realize what she is learning, and you might learn a thing or 2 also......... ohhhh, and if you know a beautitian, have him or her come over for about 2 hrs to give helpful tips before the fun begins............ God bless
2006-08-02 06:00:00 · answer #2 · answered by Annie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We went to prime university in combination and grew to become near (many, a long time in the past!) And she's rather effective and lucky (financially)...first-class condominium, first-class profession, wealthy husband, huge town. And I, then again am a keep-at-dwelling mother (low revenue) in a small the city, a couple of hours from her. Through the years and these kinds of alterations she has on no account dealt with me any another way than a satisfactory pal. She invitations me areas frequently, and consistently involves me in her loved ones parties, vacations, and so on. I think like she's greater than a pal, she's like my near loved ones!! She even tells me frequently how she envys "me"... considering the fact that I get to stick dwelling with my children and feature a useful existence. Funny how we will be able to be residing such particularly distinct situations, but be so near and fully grasp each and every different so good!
2016-08-28 13:56:44 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Woow :[ That's sad :/ Well for me, I would try to
uplift her and encourage her and pray about her
confidence in her self image coz I remember fee-
ling like that (only I never said anything verbally)
so yeah... If verbally encouraging her daily doesn't
work then just pray for her.
The way I got out of the whole self esteem prob. was
coz
1. Jesus - He showed me I have worth <3 Like worth
past looks and all the things outside. I let Him work on
the inside of me and somehow later on that showed
as I viewed myself on the outside I felt really good about
myself :]
2. My older sister encouraged me daily in Him and also
verbally told me that I'm beautiful or pretty.
Hope it helps! BTW thanks so much for helping me with
my question ^-^ The thing is when that happened my
friend was nearby so I was thinking maybe he was
just goofing around...but it was still a kiss...
Anyway sorry off topic! God bless <3!
2006-08-02 07:02:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Encourage her to dress up, when your out together, offer to exersize with her or do her make up or help with her hair, always compliment her if something looks nice, like yourself your friend would have down days as well, she just needs a pick me up in the self esteem department.
2006-08-02 06:08:51 · answer #5 · answered by Mintjulip 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like she has a bad case of no self esteem.. =T..she probably wants to be "just like you"... maybe u can try to encourage the good things about her... is she smart, funny? listen to her, and let her know u respect and appreciate her friendship on her own terms, not cuz she is trying to impress u, but because she's a great person on her own. also, maybe u can try to help give her tips on what will look good on her.. like trying on make up together, saying, 'hey, i think this eyeliner would look good on u", etc, so that she starts looking and working on herself instead of comparing to you. shop for clothes togehter, compliment her when she really looks good. don't lie and say she looks great when she really could look better, but encourage her to experiment w/ new kinds of clothes so she finds her own style. if she keeps following u, eventually u'll get annoyed and grow distant. u can't force her to be confident, but u can try ur best to encourage her. just try not to sound like she's ugly now and ur helping her, cuz she might be sensitive and take it the wrong way. just gently encourage, and try new things together, and she will learn to take care of herself. good luck! sounds like ur a great friend and care for her very much.
2006-08-02 05:55:03 · answer #6 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Help her an like the clothes that she wears help her do her make up.. or if thats to much then just keep it on the low dont were heavy makeup keep natural looking were something casual... like jeans and a nice tank or whatever... or if a guy checks u out actlike u didnt notice it and say something like OMG he was checking on u or something.
2006-08-02 05:57:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's just part of life. Some people are more impressive than others and the "others" should know and accept it. She shouldn't try too hard to be like you. She should just be herself.
2006-08-02 05:53:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
make her pretty...try and act stupid laugh out loud with her...wen friends tell u if u can go somewhere say no not without my best friend!!!
2006-08-02 05:53:06 · answer #9 · answered by wuzup214 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u should tell her that she is very beautiful person and u never want her to think that way.
2006-08-02 05:53:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋