I have been with my girlfriend for two and a half years. I love her very much, and I don’t want to lose her. But a year ago I cheated on her with my older brothers kids babysitter. Me and my girlfriend were living together for the first year…then I wanted to move back home to help my mom out, and she wasn’t old enough to get her own place so she had to move home to a trailor in the backyard of her parents house. Her parents didn’t want her there. It was winter time, and I was at my moms and I would have that girl come over and we would sleep together. My gf didn’t know, and she kept callin me telling me she misses me and she is miserable, but I wouldn’t give in. I kept sleeping with this girl and started to form a relationship. Then my girlfriend found out, and I cried. I didn’t see that girl since. But she still hangs with my mom and brothers, she hasn’t left my life. Now a year later I am afraid my girlfriend is having doubts about us. I don’t want her to leave I love her
2006-08-02 05:38:40 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Okay, you made a mistake. LEARN from this. Refuse to go to your mother's or be with your brothers when this girl is around.
You are going to have to build up the trust between you & your girlfriend again.
If the two of you work on this together, possibly through counselling, your relationship will become quite strong.
Without it, though, I'm afraid that your girlfriend will always have that doubt in the back of her mind...always wonder.
You've committed the ultimate betrayal.
2006-08-02 05:47:42 · answer #1 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seem to me like u were being selfish an yes ur girlfriend would be upset an have doubts about u an your relationship together because from there on she will have little to no trust in u an everything could an would never be the same again had u not cheated an to make matters worst the next girl is still in the picture alittle it would seem an that would be a very unconfortable position for ur gf to confront the same girl u';ve been cheating with it jus seems like u r afraid of being alone with no one there for u an i don';t think ur gf might want to stay cause what';s stopping u from doing it again the saying go once a cheater always a cheater k
2006-08-02 05:55:49 · answer #2 · answered by vicsha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously you didn't love your girlfriend as much as you love getting some from the babysitter.....Fact of the matter is you screwed up big time buddy... And, you also lied to her. So for her it's going to be pretty damn hard to get her and her trust back. Nothing more devastating than a broken hearted girl and two and half years to add to that!!! O.D. you messed up... Like my boyfriend says "if he ever cheats, yells, or curses at me then leave him!!" that's what my boyfriend said to do... if he does any of those things.. And he never did and still doesn't till this day... He's the same sweetheart and I love him as much as he loves me... That's what love is... And other things... lol But hey, I hope the best for you. Hopefully she's forgiving as you are truthful.. lol
2006-08-02 05:53:26 · answer #3 · answered by shoppingspree4evergal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen you made one of the biggest mistakes of your life and you prolly already know that, but you gotta be open-minded in this situation. You better work your butt off to prove to your girlfriend that it will never happen again. And if you really love her, if this "other girl" even tries anything or even talks to you, tell her that you made a HUGE mistake and you really love ur girl so she needs stay away. It's hard but if your girlfriend is aware of this she might give you a second chance. But your girl obviously already has, and you can't be mad at her if she decides not to because you made the mistake, but make sure you're not trying to come up w/ excuses for why it happened. Come clean first.
2006-08-02 05:52:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, I hate to tell you this but it looks like you blew things up! After being with you for so long your girlfriend thought that she could trust you. By cheating on her you ruined all the trust that you had earned. You may get back together but your girl will have to REALLY love you for that to happen. My advice is for you to give her some space for awhile and let her think things through. Or you could explain EVERYTHING that you are feeling. Girls tend to be softies for feelings. Good luck!
2006-08-02 05:59:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you sure have a weird way of showing your gf that you love her......she should be having doubts..and you should do the right thing and tell your gf about the other girl...If she forgives you then great but if not..You only have yourself to blame.....But you will feel alot better by telling her
2006-08-02 05:45:32 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Amy is a nerd, the second one is better, u ****** up mainly cuz u started building feelings for her, she should have just been a **** and thatas it man. So yes u ****** up and now u r gonna have to lick the floor your love walks on and talk to her and have things all clear that u r only hers and dont **** up again, next time u cheat, dont get caught and dont have feeling sinvilved moron
2006-08-02 05:47:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it any wonder that young people in Britain have problems in their relationships when they constantly watch American films and end up in a confused state like this American Bimbo.
And they call it a super power, what a joke!
2006-08-02 06:00:42 · answer #8 · answered by Renewable 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you loved her so much you wouldn't have been pushing her needs aside while you banged the babysitter.. If she leaves you you will have gotten what you deserve and have no room to complain.
2006-08-02 05:44:32 · answer #9 · answered by Amy M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
y did you do such a thing jhust admit and then youll break up thats the only way or have sex with her then tell her then ask 4 4giveness i tried that and were still 2gether
2006-08-02 05:45:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋