i need your help.. what do u think??

Question

ok my boyfriend wants to have a kid and hes older then me by 1 year hes 16 and i kinda want a kid but then dont he thinks it would be good for us.. i love him and everything but i just dont know??? plz help

Answer 1

babies dont need kids raising them so quit thinking about it

Answer 2

It is difficult to raise a child even when you are in a stable, committed, financially secure marriage. Having a baby at your age would not be good for you or for the baby. How would the two of you support a baby and yourselves? It is very expensive to raise a child, you must think about hospital bills, diapers, clothing, crib, food, doctor visits, medicine, car seats, toys, education, daycare, rent, car, insurance etc. If he is 16 and you are 15, it is possible you will not be allowed to keep your baby if it is deemed you are not able to properly care for it. Think about the dreams you have for your life - there is more than just having a boyfriend and having his baby because he wants to. Think more of yourself. Do you want to get an education, have a career, travel? These things will not be possible for a long time if you have a child dependent on you. I know too many teen girls who got pregnant and guess where the baby's daddy is? He's off living his dreams and doing what he wants while mommy and baby struggle to make ends meet. Having a baby changes your life forever, you will always be a parent. Do not have a baby until you have had a chance to experience life outside of high school and be on your own for a few years. The love of your teenage years will not likely be the love of your life.

Answer 3

Think about this. There are so many things that you need to do to have a successful life before you have a baby. If you ever want the money to raise a family at all, you need to graduate from high school, or chances are you'll be flipping burgers at McDonald's all your life. That's a good job for teenagers trying to get a little extra money or seniors after they've retired, but that won't bring in enough money to support a family. You may finish high school, but think of how hard it would be. First off, even though your boyfriend says he wants a baby, he probably doesn't realize what a HUGE responsibility a baby is, and would be much more likely to leave you than he is now. It doesn't matter how often he says that he would never do that. A baby changes everything. A baby at this age would probably destroy your relationship anyway, as you would spend all of your time on the baby rather than on your relationship. So then you could be left all alone to raise your baby. You would have to wake up many times in the middle of the night to feed and change it. You will be extremely sleep deprived, which would lead to you not doing as well in school. Would your mother or father be willing to watch the baby while you were at school? If they wanted another baby, they would have one themselves. A baby needs love and attention and can't just be tossed aside when YOU don't have the time for him or her. Your life would be drastically changed in that now instead of focusing on your needs, you would have to put the baby's needs before your own. Not to mention the expenses. In the first two years ALONE, you would have to spend somewhere from $8,000-$10,000 on your baby. This is probably why about 80% of teen mothers end up on welfare. When you are a teen, your baby would also be more likely to have a low birth weight, and as they get older, they are more likely to do poorly in school, experience abuse and neglect, go to prison if it is a boy, or have a teenage pregnancy if it is a girl. Is this the life you would want for YOUR baby? Don't forget the embarassment of having to tell your parents. Some parents even make their children live on their own when they find out that they're pregnant. You also can't forget about your reputation with your peers. They WILL be able to tell that you're pregnant, no matter how big your shirts are. Nasty rumors could spread about you. At this age you should be hanging out with all of your friends and focusing on school. Raising children is meant for married couples who are financially stable and want to have a baby out of love, not just for the sake of having one. Please take my advice into consideration and don't become another statistic.

Answer 4

This is of course only my opinion, but being fifteen
or sixteen is far too young to be considering having
children.

Say you two fight and split up? If you both still want
to be good parents, that child will bring you together
at birthdays, holidays and during the times when the
child want you both there.

A child binds you to the other parent for most of their
childhood and beyond. Even if you personally can no
longer stand the former boyfriend. Think long and hard
about the decision. Your life will be changed once you
choose motherhood.

And lastly, why would you give up your freedom and
a chance to mature naturally into adulthood. There
is plenty of time to think about motherhood when you
reach your twenties.

Answer 5

your too young for a baby. Just think about how tough it would be to raise a kid on your own because once you hit mother mode and are no longer the fun girl he used to hang out with he may leave you. this means that you will be a single mother at 16 years old. Trying to be a teenager, and a mother, and going to school. ITs gonna be really hard for you. Wait on the kid until you're married

Answer 6

Well since you are not over 18 then you do not need any kids.

You need to finish school and go to college.
You need a job
You need money
You need health insurance
You need a car
You need your own house
You won't be able to hang out with your friends if you have a baby

So wait till you are like 20 plus, get married and then have kids

You are just a kid yourself.

Answer 7

You're too young. Wait until you guys are at least out of highschool....please. It'll save you all the drama of trying to scrape up money, not being able to sleep at night because of a crying baby, hardly getting any sleep, having to work like 4 jobs, and dropping out of highschool. I wouldn't want to put you guys down or anything. I think it's really sweet that he wants to have a baby and all, but you too should just wait. If he really loved you, he wouldn't urge you into it, he'd take the time to listen to how you feel.

Answer 8

you two are still children so i think that it's not a smart idea. find something else to do that you can do together. having a CHILD is not a bright idea for two children. you have a house, full time job with benefits? probably not so grow up first, get married then have kids. what the hell is wrong with you people?

Answer 9

hunny ur only 15. da right thing to do is to wait to have a child maybe around 23. if he loves so much he should respect ur decision in whether to have a kid because it is ur body dats gunna carry a baby for 8 months. n seriously if u have a kid wat would happen to ya education. u would have to take care of a child during high school n dat would be super hell. trust me n wait to have a child.

Answer 10

are you crazy? How can you even consider having a baby at your age. You have you whole life ahead of you. You need to realize what could happen if you had a baby with your boyfriend. You are not even married.

Answer 11

ok here is the thing wait til u out of school, get married , get a job and a stable enviroment before u have ne kids