how should a man go about breaking up with a girlfriend when the relationship is not working.remember pain and heartache are to be minimised if not avoided.
2006-08-02 05:35:15 · 18 answers · asked by niko 1 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
well, if she really likes you and cares about you, then, she will be hurt. but, that's just the way it is with romance. you really should tell her the truth. it may be painful at first, but, if she is any kind of person who wants to learn and grow and respects herself, then, she will sooner or later, know that it was for the best that she not stay with someone who finds her irritating and thinks of her like a piece of garbage to be chucked. but, if she is a psycho, then, buddy, it's your own damn fault for getting involved with her in the first place...live and learn...have fun and be more careful about who you get involved with next time.
2006-08-02 05:46:39 · answer #1 · answered by bleuyonder2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not try imagining that it is you that is being rejected?? How would you like to be told that you are no longer special or wanted? It really is all dependent on how much affection your girlfriend has for you. If she is not in love with you - which for her sake I hope she is not as you seem to talk about her as if she were a pizza that you just couldn't finish - then it should be quite easy just say that you would rather not go out as a couple any more. However, if you mean a lot to her then telling her that you & she are over will make her unhappy and possibly angry. It is hard to predict how people are going to be affected in situations involving loss. Some shrug their shoulders and move on - others are unconsolable and can find their confidence is undermined and their faith in people is shaken. Be careful who you choose to lavish your affection on- it is of course gratifying to be wanted by someone, but that doesn't mean that you are suited as a couple. It is better not have a partner than to have someone for the sake of it ( or because you fancied them a bit) and wait until you find someone who you can be yourself with. If you are relaxed with each other's personalities then you are less likely to annoy one other. Also, people aren't commodities to be used and then thrown away when you have "had enough" - keep doing that and you will not only get a reputation as a selfish git but you will stunt your own emotional development - and you will soon be the one that everyone else will have "had enough" of.
2006-08-02 06:11:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Common sense says to be honest from the start and tell her how you feel. Be truthful, without being blunt and avoid the major heartache that can often result from a break up. Best of all, respect that individual and show them that you still care for them even though you may not love them any more.
2006-08-02 05:52:47 · answer #3 · answered by Tony E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask to go on a long walk and tell her you've been thinking about it for a while and you've decided it just isnt working out but you really like her as a person and so want to stay friends. Just be honest. Even if you dont end up staying friends, stating that she means a lot to you is comforting and reassuring to listen to at a time when you feel alone and upset. Explain you prefer to end it now before the situaion gets worse and you end up hurting eachother even more. I am speaking from personal experience and this works best.
2006-08-02 06:03:20 · answer #4 · answered by Squiddly Diddly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your Girl Chuck
2016-11-02 23:50:09 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whenever 2 ppl break up, there is going to be some kind of pain. i mean were talking about feelings here, its not just a business agreement that you can end. and i know women can be irritating, in fact i can be a total ***** at times but men arent perfect either. and the way you worded your question is awful. you shouldnt talk about "chucking" your gf. i feel bad for her, because obviously you dont care enough about her to try to talk to her about the things that are irritating you. but if it truly isnt working, just tell her that. she deserves to know the truth, even if it hurts a little bit.
2006-08-02 05:44:26 · answer #6 · answered by ♥love2havefun♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you are gay? No just kidding, sorry.
If you think it is not working then maybe she is thinking the same thing. You need to sit her down somewhere quiet and talk to her about it. You may be surprised and she will agree straight away and you can split amicably, or it might be more difficult. But be honest, and you really MUST avoid getting into a slanging match with her!!
Good luck!
2006-08-02 05:41:20 · answer #7 · answered by Rae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A man wouldn't be wasting so much time on a g/f he doesn't want to be with. A man would have the balls to say "this isn't working. it's time to go our separate ways." Stop trying to sound as if you're some gentleman by saying you want to minimiZe her pain. Trust me. Any pain she feels after the breakup will disappear as soon as she meets a real man.
2006-08-02 05:53:24 · answer #8 · answered by jdscorrupted 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just let her know you dont want to see her anymore. the more straight you are with her the less cofused and messy it will be. if there is heartache it will be shortlived but if you mess it up and beat around the bush the heartbreak will be extended cos you will be leading her on.
its for the best would you want someone to be going out with you because they didnt want to hurt your feelings??? how lame is that
2006-08-02 05:46:18 · answer #9 · answered by yobogirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, Men don't talk like you, boy's do.
Second, just tell her, and soon to save her anymore heartache from being with you.
2006-08-02 05:41:17 · answer #10 · answered by ~Gate~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋