im only 17. im pregnant. and my parents no nothing of either situation. my 18th birthday is in 14 days. how do i tell them? how do i tell my fiance im pregnant?
2006-08-02 05:34:52 · 24 answers · asked by Little Dorn 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
just let your fiance know..i mean your already getting married so it shouldn't bother him very much....as for your parents your pregnant and getting married..the marriage part you could take back but having a baby is already done..just let them know....they may be upset for a while but they will get over it always happens....atleast your almost of age.....(18) my wife was 12 and i was 13 when we had our first child ....16 when we got married...so your not as bad off as we were..but hey look we are still married ten years later..have nine kids and my kids are my parents favorites....everything will work out for the best...just make sure your not acting childish and show them you are ready for this next stage of life..age is nothing but a number.....hope things work out for you...
2006-08-02 05:40:22 · answer #1 · answered by sgtrlopez 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you call him your fiance and your parents don't even know is a raise for concern! Wait until you are old enough or mature enough to get married. Mature meaning you are old enough to have adult conversations with other adults about your future plans. In the mean time after you have your kid you should try something called BIRTH CONTROL. I am sure that you do not have a job or an education yet, so you will qualify for free BC pill. You need to figure out how you plan on paying for a child also with no education. Unless you are planing on depending on US tax payers to pay for you, which I am just going to asume that you will.
2006-08-02 12:48:44 · answer #2 · answered by michiganwife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh good, trapping a guy with a pregnancy, how just phuking sweet of you. Know what they call people who have sex without protection, honey???? Parents!!!! And your marriage if it happens won't last much longer than 3 years, guaranteed. ...absolutely, and positively guaranteed!!!!!!! Too bad --- you're a baby, having a baby... I'd be pissed as hell if I were your kid. I, as a child deserve a shot at having two loving parents who are adults and who can support me..... how dare you bring me into this already tough world, with the odds already stacked against me. I deserve to be raised by two loving adults...... What do you do to get out of this mess..... get thyself to an abortion clinic, honey. It's not a nice option, but it beats the alternatives. You and he are not fit to become parents and a child deserves better..... Oh, and as some of these other have stated -- that they will be thrilled that you are pregnant????Ha. you're in for a tough life -- the only thing worse than being a single mom is being a black single mom (and sweetie, you will in the next 4 years, be a single mom raising a 3 year old kid, and you with no education, and no significant salable skills, looking at 20 more years of raising that child alone.......sorry for you, hon.)
2006-08-02 12:42:57 · answer #3 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are going to need your parents emotional and financial support through this as you cannot do this alone.
They are going to find out anyway, as rumors will fly around and probably your fiancee's parents will contact yours. Let them know from your mouth and noone elses as they will feel betrayed and get even angrier. Your age is completly unimportant, tell them as soon as possible so your get this out of the way (unless you want a birthday present).
You want to be an adult? Start by growing some balls and 'fess up. Yes, is going to be hard but that's what life is all about: struggle and survival. Welcome to the real world.
Good luck
2006-08-02 12:55:32 · answer #4 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you just have to tell them what else is there to do? I was in the same situation and I will tell you right now think about marriage wait if you can. It is not necessary to make the toughest decisions in your life at this time, should kick back and enjoy not having peroids for a while and getting yourself ready to be a mother I tell you it is one of the toughest things in this world. I made the mistake of getting married 7 days after I turned 18 and i regret it everyday of my life. I thought there wasn't anything else to do all I knew is I had someone who told me he loved me and would take care of me and it lasted for 6 whole months. Now at 25 I am happy with 4 children and someone who truly loves me for better or worst. I got with my new hubby when I was 6 months pregnant with my 2nd child and you know I never had to hear one word about my past that was the best part. all that I am saying is make damn sure that this is exactly how you want to spend the rest of your life and whom you want to spend it with.I wish you the best and if you need someone to talk to I am here for you just email me krisforre@yahoo.com and I will help you at anytime so just holler at me if you are having difficulties with something.
2006-08-02 12:59:24 · answer #5 · answered by krisforre 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh wow sweety. You have your hands full this time. You need to tell your fiance first in my opinion. He should be with you when you tell your parents too as support for you. I just hope you are not getting married because you are pregnant-a baby does not hold a marriage together, it's true love! Good Luck to you.
2006-08-02 12:41:01 · answer #6 · answered by iluvyewmore24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, since he is the father I would tell your fiance first. But your parents need to know one way or the other ~ better to tell them sooner than later, I would think. Are they open and will they be supportive? Otherwise, you will be 18 and will need to think about alternative living situation as well. So my opinion would be to be prepared for everything when you do make the decision to tell them.
2006-08-02 12:40:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd wait until after i was 18 to tell my parents. The way i told mine was showing them the doctor's note confirming my pregnancy. I was 22 at the time so they were happy for me. But i think you're fiance should know NOW.
2006-08-02 12:39:40 · answer #8 · answered by Still Halloween 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first, congratulations. second, the only way to do it is to be completely honest with them but more importantly, to yourself. Stay true to yourself. As a women you shouldn't be scared to let people know what you want. tell them how you feel and it will all work out in the end.
2006-08-02 12:41:52 · answer #9 · answered by t_perez1199 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that your just 17 but they should be happy for you I am good luck , i hope you have a happy baby, take good care of her or him and make sure that she or him don't in up the same way as you did.
2006-08-02 12:43:28 · answer #10 · answered by powernewfie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋