i need your help.. what do u think??

Question

ok my boyfriend wants to have a kid and hes older then me by 1 year hes 16 and i kinda want a kid but then dont he thinks it would be good for us.. i love him and everything but i just dont know??? plz help

Answer 1

just do what you FEEL is right - and WHO wouldn't want to have a kid with a "HOT CHICK" - right?

Answer 2

What??? Is that a serious question? Do you know what it is like to raise a child? Do you have any clue how much money and maturity it takes? Do you have any idea what having a kid will do to your body? I mean really. You are young and have your whole life ahead of you. Don't sacrifice your life for some guy, who you may not even know after graduation. Think long and hard about this. Are you ready to be home with a crying baby? Are you ready to make one of what will become a long line of decisions solely to please another person? Are ready to deal with ear infections, diaper rash, teething, potty training, and all the tears and sleepless nights associated with that. Look, I have three kids that love more than anything. However, I NEVER could have appreicated them had I not first made myself a whole person. It isn't fair to you or your kids. I promise you that having a child is alot harder than you can imagine. yes, there is a huge reward. yes, the reward is greater than the challenge. However, not at your age! You can always have a child. you will never be able to go back once you have one though. Think about this! Think about you. What kind of mom will you be if you are only 15? you may think you are mature but believe me you are not. In ten years you will be a totally different person. Do you want to be one with kids on welfare??? Or do you want to be one that is accomplished and now looking forward to a family!

Answer 3

DON'T DO IT!!! a child is a lot of responsibility. THink about it. Try answering all of these questions without your parents or any other adult's help. remember this will be your child and who knows if your bf will stick around. What do you do for money? Do you have a job? Will you drop out of school? Who will watch your child while you are at work? What do you do if your child gets sick? Do you have insurance? diapers are expensive.... how will you do all of this? What happens when it is time for preschool? How do you get your child signed up? You are 15 you can't even drive yet! Will you move in with your boyfriend? Get your own house?

Babies are very cute! I know ! Please don't do this to yourself!Are you planning on going to college? Don't do this to your baby!
People who don't graduate high school make $10,000 less that graduates. That's like $1 million in 10 years. Do you want your child to be poor? Think about it. Right down everything you do for a day or even a week. What are you wearing? Eating? Sleeping? You will have to pay for all of this yourself... and for another human. Please don't do this to yourself. If you and your boyfriend really love eachother make a plan. 1)Promise eachother that you will both finish highschool. 2) both of you get jobs if you are not going to college. 3) Get married first! i don't care if you have sex b4 u are married but don't make a baby! 4) Save up for a year so you have plenty of money for baby expenses. This is big please wait!!! Talk to me if you need any help. I am here for you!

Answer 4

Look I had a baby in high School (thankfully it was the second semester of my senior year) But anyways, it hard. Its really hard! I finished High School but haven't been to college! My daughter is 3 1/2 now and is the best thing in my life but it would have been so much easier to have her later in life. And believe me a baby isn't going to keep the two of you together!! And if he leaves he can still have a life. You will have a baby. And 15 is too young to be a mom. A teenager's brain isn't even done developing yet!! Have a life first!! Experience someone other than the boy now.

Answer 5

Ok you so do not want a kid that young. I was 16 when I got pregnant and I wish I would have waited 10 years or at least till I was 18. When you are that young, when you go to the doctor, you have to have your mom with you and she is in control. Its cool to wanna have kids but please wait till you are older. My daughter is going to be 3 years old November 4th and Being a single mom is very hard. He might say that he will always be there but what happens when he decides that he is too young to be a dad and you are already 8 months pregnant? What happens when he gets older he wants to experience being with other people. PLEASE do not have a baby as young as you are. Your childhood is worth cherishing. If you have a baby, you wont beable to go out when you turn 18, you will never get to party, go to prom, or anything else teenagers do. Instead you will have to stay at home with your baby. And your parents wont always baby sit.

Answer 6

I can't believe you're considering this. Go out and get one of those dolls that cry and need attention all the time. That will change his mind. He is only 16 he isn't mature enough to handle taking care of himself how will he be able to take care of YOU and a child? You cant just throw a child in the back of a closet and be like "woops, that was a mistake, lets go do something else now" and he might thinks kids are cute and all that, but you have to stay with them for 18 years. Give yourself time to go out and party and drink, and carry on with friends. While all yalls friends are out partying you'll be stuck at home watching Junior.

Answer 7

you two are too younge...and he may not be the right one...if you do your making the wrong choices all that the wrong time...you need think about ur future. There is plenty of time to have kids in the future, you have to go to school and look forward to graduating. My friend was 15 when she had her daughter...now she wishes she didn't have a kid. The dad left her with the baby and he is no longer supporting her and the baby. There are many things to think about...this is one. having a baby so young effects things...even hanging out with friends and doing fun things...you will miss it all...that would be all thrown away if you have a child young. Im just warning you...who cares what he wants...think about yourself and your future.

Answer 8

Does your boyfriend have a good paying job with insurance? Is he able to take care of the baby financially? Can he provide for you and the baby, with a house, apartment, transportation to doctor visits, food on the table, bill paying?

Having a "paper route" is not a good paying job to support a family!

You both need to finish school, and he needs to get a carreer, then think about getting pregnant, after you are married, and he can support you financially!!

Living off the Government on Welfare is NO PICNIC!! Its basically a dead end, and your kid will not respect you when they grow up enough to know the difference, or, they will be a dependent of Welfare themselves as its a viscious cycle...

Grow up and stop having sex before its taken out of your hands and your both stuck!!

I wish you well..

Jesse

Answer 9

The right answer is that you're too young. It may be difficult for you to grasp that now, so here's a way to put it in perspective.

At your age, you're in high school learning subjects like math and history. Suppose you had to learn calculus before learning algebra or trig? That would be really hard, right? You would have to really cram alot of learning in to have the basic skills necessary to master the more advanced subject. It is most likely that you would fail and never learn calculus at all.

Same with history. How would you begin to understand the intricacies of the US conflict in Vietnam without first understanding that throughout history society has been shaped by war and conflict? Your ability to reason and grasp the subject would be difficult.

Life is like that. Take your life in phases. Let yourself mature through learning in a systematic way. Don't jump ahead to parenthood at your age. A child needs care, nurturing and understanding from its parents. Learn to take care of yourself by being independent for a few years. Build your skill set for life and earning by staying in school and getting the best education you can. Then learn how to be in a committed relationship for a period of a few years before bringing a child into the mix.

If you can be patient and invest in yourself, you'll be ready to take on the advanced subjects at the right time.

Good luck.

Answer 10

Don't do it. If you're boyfriend loves you, he will understand. If he doesn't, then he never deserved you to begin with. Here's something you should know: majority of teen mothers die while giving birth. Its not an easy road especially for someone for someone your age. Your boyfriend could get in trouble for rape and your dignity and reputation will be badly bruised. Being a teen mother is damage that is usually unfixable.

You need to wait, rushing into things now, will not help you tomorrow.

Answer 11

You will ruin your life and end your youth if you have a child now. It is not fair to a baby. A child deserves parents who are adults in a committed relationship who can afford to raise him. A child needs a roof over his head, food, clothing, medical care, and money for an education. You cannot even support yourself at this stage of your life. Don't do it. Babies having babies is a terrible mistake.