okay well my friend asked me if she should have sex with her boyfriend i told her she should wait. but she didn't listen to me. now shes pregnant and shes blaming me for not stopping her. what should i do?
2006-08-02 05:29:44 · 16 answers · asked by Kasia 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Do not ditch your friend. I'm sure that she realizes that it wasn't your fault that she got pregnant. She's probably blaming you because she is full of regret and is trying to take some of the stress off of herself. Don't let that get to you. Be there for her because now is the time that she needs you the most. If she tells you that she doesn't want to keep the baby, please advise her to give it up for adoption, rather than getting an abortion, because abortion is no different than murder. Also make sure that she isn't stressing you out too much. Especially when the baby does come (if she decides to keep it that is) it would be nice of you to help out and maybe babysit once in awhile, but make sure you aren't doing too much and that it isn't getting in the way of your grades or your social life. Best of luck to you and your friend.
2006-08-02 05:42:42 · answer #1 · answered by tumblingtumblers 2 · 17⤊ 9⤋
Ditch your friend..you warned her and so therefore it's not your fault...it takes 2 to tango the saying says..and you said no where in there that you forced your friend to sleep with this guy. She's not a very good friend anyhow! Good Luck
Then again the others are right..she could be really scared and is taking it out on her best friend because she knows deep down that she should have listened to you. Try talking to her about it, then ditch her if she continues to blame you. Hopefully she will soon realize this!
2006-08-02 05:34:53 · answer #2 · answered by all8418 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that it is not your fault that you did try to stop her and that she made her own choices and that you will be there for her trough out her pregnancy but she needs to realize that she and her boyfriend are the ones at fault not you or the baby also tell her that next time she will think twice about it or use protection
2006-08-02 06:18:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont feel like you are responsible for your friends actions. She is her own person and she has to deal with her own consiquences as a adult. But still be a friend and stick by her side even though its not your fault of her being pregnant.
2006-08-02 05:43:21 · answer #4 · answered by msdvs21 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sucks to be her. Tell her it's too freaking bad because it's her life not yours and you're not her mother and that it's about time she grows up and stop blaming other people for her stupidity.
2006-08-02 06:52:29 · answer #5 · answered by Peace 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Support her even though she is blaming you. When she is old enough she'll realize SHE was the one that made the choice.
2006-08-02 05:34:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is probably just mad at herself for not listening to you. Be there for her during this tough time she know in her heart that it isn't your fault
2006-08-02 05:34:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I THINK YOU SHOULD LET YOUR FRIEND KNOW THAT IT'S NOT YOUR FAULT BECAUSE YOU TOLD HER TO WAIT BUT SHE DID'NT AND NOW SHE CAN'T BLAME ANYBODY BUT HERSELF BECAUSE YOU WAS BEING A FRIEND BY TELLING HER TO WAIT BUT SHE DID'NT SO NOW SHE HAS TO SUFFER THE CONSEQUENCES.
2006-08-02 06:05:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Avoif her until she learns to treat you with respect and qrows up. Her parents can help her with her pregnancy. You don't need friends like that.
2006-08-02 05:35:28 · answer #9 · answered by grudgrime 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should tell wake up and smell the coffee beans, she decided to do it it's her own Damn fault. You told her not to and she put herself in that position. in my opinion don't hang out with her.
2006-08-02 05:36:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you weren't the one opening your legs & to be responsible for her own actions.
2006-08-02 05:37:49 · answer #11 · answered by Mary 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋