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Question

Hi I have a question about what I should do about my step mother.
I am currently living with my father after I left my ex husband. And he has a new wife. And two kids My step sister who is 22 my step brother who is 18.

I found out that my step sister is jealouse of me but has no reason to be, seeing the fact that she has had the same oppertunity as me, to change her life,but chose not to.

Then there is my step mom, who just about every day ask me not to say anything to my dad about what step brother does or what she says. She says to me "You know it will just upset your dad if he new." This includes my step bro smoking pot, and having like five or six people in the back yard smoking pot with him.

But I had my ex. which my father hates, come over and smoke a cigaret in the back yard, so we could keep an eye on our 9 month old daughter.
But she came home and didn't notice him there, but yet I had the respect to go inside and tell her, and the respect to apologize as well.

She accepted my apology. So I figured she would leave it at that, but no she told my father, which i was going to do myself but I felt she was being to faced.

And then my step sister told my ex. that my step mom does not like me, does not want my children and I living here, even though I am the only one to clean the house and cook.

What should I do?

PS I have not ratted my bro out seeing that I use to do the same thing.

My ex and I think she is only with him for his money. And I am feeling like I am zerod out out.

Answer 1

Well he is your father first , a new husband and stepfather second. if you don't want to make waves then talk to your father alone take him out to lunch tell him, what going on ,that if he does want to do anthing about you'll understand let the matter drop.if you don't care about making waves...then take both the evil stepmother and the father out to dinner let him know what going on its his house and you've got to respect how he handles it plus she sounds like the type to change the story to her way of thing rather than be truthful. be prepared for her to lie and make you look worse than her kids!!!! if she's in it for the money then i say let the war begin boot her *** out. p.s. you arte a grown up now its not ratting its responsibility do it only don't tell him the proof is in seeing show him the marijuana

Answer 2

Sounds like you are in the middle of bad situation. It is your father's life and his choice. You can tell him what you think ONCE, and leave it at that. You have no right to give him advice. As far as smikong pot in the yard, he does have the right to know that because it is his property and it could get him into trouble with the law. If the pot smoker is 18, he should move out and risk smoking at his own pad. As far as you're concerned, you need to take steps to improve your own situation. You need to save up for a deposit and a lease for yourself. Your relationship will improve with your step mother if you create some distance with her, and respect your father's judgement in picking her. She may suit him well. Still, he needs to know the facts about her children. From a legal standpoint, ignorance is no excuse. You need to get your ex-husband to help you out, and by law, he has to. Get your own place and don't worry about regulating anyone else's life. Worry about your own.