me and my bf have been dating for about 3 months i love him 2 death and he treats me better than any guy ever has but im facing a dilema. im very afraid that my bf will hurt me. im worried that he'll break up with me for no reason, he'll start mistreating me, and that he'll cheat on me because im waiting for sex until im married. he respects the fact that im waiting til marriage he likes the idea of me waitin. i really do trust him its just this worry and fear that i have in the back of my head wont go away. since its summer vacation i dont get to see him as much and im afraid he'll fall out of love with me. ive prayed and prayed but still the worry and fear wont go away, SHOULD I TELL HIM HOW I FEEL?? i know he loves me to death, should i have this fear?? how do i make the fear go away?
2006-08-02 04:54:09 · 8 answers · asked by sarah_gotdance 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
ok, almost all of u are sayin i should tell him how i feel. i usually know what to say, but i would like some ideas from everyone to help with what i should say. thx for the advice!!!
2006-08-02 05:05:32 · update #1
my bf hasnt done anything wrong like cheating on me or anything like that. i just dont want to get hurt thats all.
2006-08-02 05:20:29 · update #2
First thing, relax. Tell him how you feel, maybe that will allow some of the fear to go away. Its perfectly normal to have those fears when you are in a serious relationship. Try and overcome it though. He respects that you are waiting to have sex until married, so why worry that he will cheat on you? It shows that he respects you and cares about your well-being. Just trust him, and trust yourself. Tell him that you trust him and believe what he says and know that he will remain loyal and by your side. But tell him that you have this fear that he would leave you, and you are nervous since you aren't having sex that he would turn to someone else to get it. Tell him that you love him and want to be with him and make it certain that he understands that you trust him, you are just worried. That is a biggie. You dont want him to think that you dont trust him. Good Luck!
2006-08-02 05:22:44 · answer #1 · answered by lacia2159 2 · 10⤊ 1⤋
judging by your question, you sound very young (since you have been dating for 3 months and "love" this guy to death!) so i feel i can help you with a little "been there, done that". first of all, has he done anything to make you think that way. (has he cheated on you before? has he mentioned more than once that he wants to have sex right now? does he keep in touch with exes or have a lot of female friends? no this might not mean he is cheating or planning on doing so, but speaking from experience, these would not be good signs in your case. if you have these feelings of curiosity, the best thing to do is talk to him and rid yourself of these thoughts. if you really are very young, there will be pleny of other guys out there that you will fall madly in love with. im 28 years old, and i've fallen in love (or thought so) hundreds of times. we all go through this. the best advice is for you to keep your beliefs (waiting for sex) and don't do it just to please him. be sure of what you are going to do and just be open with him about it. you have to face your fear.
2006-08-02 12:15:09 · answer #2 · answered by bizarrorigo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you need to tell him about your concerns hun, any one will tell you you need to have complete trust and comunications for any relationship to work . If you keep letting this eat away at yuo , you will lose him any way cause something will happen that you wont like and then you wioll blow up and everything will poor out and he will walk away and turn to some one else . Another thing not all guys are dogs, there are a few who are real gentlmen and true that will wait for the one they love to be ready for them and not search any where else. Another thing dont always listen to the whispers of friends telling you he is ,you have to be sure of your feelings and relationship with him and trust him to make the right choices and say no to any come ons if you cant then maybe he isnt the one for you. Doubt and jealousy are evil and they will eat at you and rip your relationships apart trust me. If you love him ,talk to him and tell him you are concerned not doubtful,or jealouse just concerned about the choices you have made and how it makes him feel and that you are concerned you might be pushing him away to some one elses arms and see what he says.
2006-08-02 12:08:08 · answer #3 · answered by sht4brains4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all if he loves you then he will respect you and will wait. He wont mistreat you and he will be there even when it is the hardest. If you havent told him how you feel about him then you probably should do that. And the fear that you have of him leaving will probably not go away until you fully trust him and trust the fact that he is here to stay.
2006-08-02 12:00:53 · answer #4 · answered by tiggerluvnmom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever is meant for you, no one can take it away. Instead of focusing so much on what if, what if, you should enjoy the relationship. If you and him are meant to be together, nothing or anyone can take it away. I applaud you for waiting until marriage, that is the smartest and greatest thing you can do for yourself. I wish i had waited! Best of luck,
**LATINA**
2006-08-02 12:02:02 · answer #5 · answered by A_Latina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's gonna find someone who WILL put out....but he probably does love you, but still wants sex.
2006-08-02 11:58:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want security..and who can blame you . Go to him and tell him your feelings and let him put them to rest
2006-08-02 12:00:15 · answer #7 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him and stop stressing yourself out
2006-08-02 12:04:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋