I have a friend that has been living with me since April, has given me only about $100 since then for rent/bills/watching her kid. I have a baby too and she uses my babies diapers, although I never use her baby's. She also never watches my kid when I ask her too. She brings her boyfriend here to sleep and they argue all the time, which annoys the **** out of me. Yesterday I told her I was bringing a friend over and just because she doesn't like this person, she said I was crossing the line of respect. I don't really need advice here...just wondering what other people would do in this situation.
2006-08-02 04:41:43 · 25 answers · asked by Aliyah S 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Seems to me that you are a babysitter, housewife, and working mom all in one. You should write up a list of things she should pay for. Rent, utilities, ALL her own diapers, and food for both herself and her baby. Then make a list of the $$ she owes you from April till now. Then she can make a decision to either move out, or repay you and start providing for herself. You already have one child, you don't need another. Stick to your guns too, if you tell her this then back down, she won't ever take you seriously.
2006-08-02 04:50:56 · answer #1 · answered by Motherof2 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Give this freeloading ho-bag the boot. She's got a lot of nerve. Seriously, kick her out. she's not contributing anything to making your life better. In fact I'd say she's made it worse. You've got a kid to take care of; you don't need that. So kick her to the curb. Don't care about her feelings, because she obviously doesn't care about yours.
2006-08-02 04:50:23 · answer #2 · answered by bodinibold 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put her funky butt out of your apartment! RESPECT?? Honey, she's not giving any to you and she's using you for anything she can get. This is NO FRIEND! Give her 24 hrs. to find another place to stay and don't go soft on her. Put her crap in a bag and put it outside the door and change the locks. She cannot disrespect you if you don't allow her to do it. I guarantee she already has another place lined up to live "just in case" you get tired of her crap and I'd say she has greatly overstayed her welcome. Now, go do it!
2006-08-02 04:46:53 · answer #3 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell her straight up that if you guys can continue to live together, she needs to pitch in once in a while. I've seen it happen, where one person does all the wor and the other just sits there. it annoys me too. Just talk to her about it and hopefully if she's not an ***, she'll start helping. good luck.
2006-08-02 04:47:34 · answer #4 · answered by Starburst 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would definately kick her out. Make sure you're there when she moves all her stuff to make sure she doesn't take some of yours. I think it's sad and sorry that she's using your kid's diapers. I mean can't she get on welfare and get her own?
2006-08-02 04:47:09 · answer #5 · answered by ThreeLoeras 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kick her disrespectful *** to the curb! You shouldn't allow people to confuse your kindness(by helping someone down on their luck) with stupidity. If your friend was a good friend she'd realize what your doing for her and be grateful. Send her, her walking papers!
2006-08-02 04:48:41 · answer #6 · answered by Lee Ann M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had to ASK a friend to leave one time for the same reasons it's hard but you have to do you you have to do. we longer talk but hey oh well if she can't understand that there's place rent free then she's out of there
2006-08-02 04:53:28 · answer #7 · answered by BROWNLYN 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She doesn't sound very supportive or helpful. I'd tell her to find alternate housing by a specific date, so she can at least try to find somewhere else to live. If she didn't then I would remove her from the apartment.
2006-08-02 04:57:49 · answer #8 · answered by Mosaic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES I WOULD................I would give her a month to find a new place to live or straiten her act up and then if she don't tell her you are kicking her to the curb...........I know you probably feel bad with kicking her to the curb with the kids , but maybe she will straiten her act up and get to thinking about her kids.............That is what I would do in that situation.........
2006-08-02 04:50:40 · answer #9 · answered by lonelynoh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You owe it to your child to get her out of there, You are being used and if this person treats you like this - she has no respect for you and is not your friend.
You don't want your child to grow up watching her/his mother being walked on. The child will learn that this is okay
2006-08-02 04:48:32 · answer #10 · answered by chris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋