Should you sacrifice career and family for someone you love?

Question

....for someone who is far away from your home and says that he would commit suicide if you dont choose him/her. please help!

Thanks so much for all the advices guys, they re really helping me and i really appreciate!I really hope everything ll be just fine!

Answer 1

Someone you love wouldn't expect you to sacrifice anything

Answer 2

Please be very carefull with this decision, get it wrong and you could cause yourself a lifetime of misery, The feeling of Love can be very deceptive no matter how very real it feels , it can also disapear very quickly , particualy in the quiet moments when you think about the ones you have left behind and what might have been with the career you have destroyed and the good you could have done with it ,the other great danger is that this is that the person that you think is the Love of your Life , may not be so perfect after all , few of us are , then the darkness of realising ones mistakes is indeed very very painfull - so carefull , calm , truthfull thinking is vital and is the only way you can arrive at the right decision , kind wishes to you ,hope you arrive at the right decision

Answer 3

Sometimes sacrifice can be a good thing when it comes to love and at others like your situation, it is not.
This person is not in love with you but only trying to control you.
Love between two people is always a give and take relationship, with a lot of sacrifices and compromises, but never where one uses threats to convey there so called love for another.
Stay as far from this person as possible, this person is dangerous to you in so many ways.
Wishing you the best of luck and watch out for the control freaks.

Answer 4

Well... I would prefer it if he would accept me as I am. I mean, I would probably have to put my career on hold, when I will have children, and raise them a bit, and I have already had real trouble with my family because of someone I love, but I still do not think one can enter a relationship fully if she tries to be self-effacing, sacrificing everything.

Both partners should sacrifice, otherwise the relationship has little chance of surviving; if you enter as nobody (no career, no family)... it's a much heavier work, and you run the risk of being overwhelmed by your partner's life. At which point he gets bored with you. And the result of that is...

But if you mean to sacrifice being a part in the lives of your children - NO!

Answer 5

Consider your age
if you are between 24 and 35 no
if you are 40 - 53 possibly
if you are over 60 yes if you are secured
to the point that you will not starve

And remember this how long does love last?
I mean do you see yourself being the awesome event in this life
to know 4 a fact it is going to last?
No you do not.
Family is forever ,
Jobs are hard to find & be happy with

Sexual attraction is confused with love.

What ever you do pray about it b4 you make choices.

Answer 6

If they are threatening to commit suicide, then they are not for you, because if they really loved you, they would never put you under that type of pressure.

If however, you feel you cant live without them and feel the same (not because you feel pressured) then go. I gave up my home, family and country for love, and 15 years later, he is still the love of my life, but I know I was very lucky indeed, so PLEASE be very careful.

All the best, think long and hard before you decide. Dont be rushed, and dont be blackmailed.

God Bless xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Answer 7

Threatening to kill yourself if the person you claim to love doesn't choose you is emotional blackmail. This person is not in love with you. It is all about power. The power s/he can get over you. This person is twisted. If they DO mean to kill themselves then still this is a situation you should stay well away from.

If you are so seriously even thinking of leaving your family then maybe you should re-evaluate your life in whole. Because it comes across to me that you are not happy in your current situation. If someone is happy they are loathed to destroy that for anyone or anything and any threat to that happiness is very firmly rejected. Whatever happens you need to consider the strength of your love for your family and why that love is so weak that you can so easily consider giving it up.

Answer 8

No way - that is someone who has issues and I'll bet ya when you do drop everything that there is a good chance things may not work out anyway..

A person who loved you should not emotionally blackmail you or ask you to leave the job/people you love..

Wait - if this person really cares then he/she will stick around - if not then you should cut your losses and be glad you have so much going for ya..

Answer 9

first of all i don't think someone that really loves you would give you a life or death ultimatum like that one as it is said that if you love someone you have to make sure that they are happy even if its not with you,but there are some situations where you truly believe that your family is in the wrong and that there is nothing you can do about it and sometimes you may also believe that your work is less important than the person you love,well in this kind of situation just follow your heart.

Answer 10

No, if you did you might resent him forever, and if he is truly suicidal you won't prevent him anyway. If he is manipulative, then you are allowing him to do something very wrong, dishonest, for both of you.

Communicate with him honestly and compassionately, but do not sacrifice your family or yourself. Call his bluff, and report him to Emergency Services and the authorities. He should thank you for this later. Suicide is not a joke, but you sacrificing yourself is not going to help him in any way.

Answer 11

No because, if you felt the same way about each other, then you would be able to work through this, time and distance are merely objects to be overcome.
You should both be able to keep your respective careers and families and still live very happy fulfilled lives together, one word of warning however - if you work together or one or other of you is the boss - change your work place or situation now, before it all becomes too late.....................I've seen it happen and it's NOT pretty - a wonderful work life and relationship ruined by work.