I'm completely lost and depressed without him. I dont think i will ever love someone else.
Is being single forever so bad?
2006-08-02 04:26:42 · 19 answers · asked by Naomi 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You don't have to be single forever... you feel bad right now because a relationship has ended - take some time and grieve for the loss of what was, but don't become obsessed with it. Think realistically about what happened, and try to analyze areas where you could improve yourself for the future. This may not have been "the love of your life" - even though you have strong feelings for him. Maybe this relationship was just not meant to be...
Discover new things about yourself - find some activities that you enjoy by yourself or with a group of friends, and don't get hung up on feeling lonely - now is the time to discover what it means to be you. If the relationship is truly over, try not to hang on to it or to feed yourself tiny crumbs of hope by trying to see him or calling him or e-mailing, IM or text messaging, whatever... Try to make it a clean break, and try to be strong... Another exciting chapter of your life could be just around the corner.
Try to build yourself by telling yourself several positive characteristics that you have - what are the things that led this guy to be attracted to you? Use those as a foundation to become a stronger and better person. Try not to define yourself in terms of this relationship - don't think of yourself as someone's ex - think of yourself as a new, vital, exciting you waiting to be discovered - by you, by the world and by that next special someone who is just out there waiting for the right person to come along - someone who will value you for you, who will respect and honor you and treasure someone who is a great individual in her own right.
Best of luck, and I feel your pain - but everything in this life is temporary - you can do it.
2006-08-02 04:37:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Naomi...I know i am a lot older(43) then you, but the same thing has happened to me. I lost my wife and what i am finding out is that once you really really love someone in a true way, no one else seems to live up to that love. I have been alone for a while, it's not so bad. Being single is better then being with the wrong person. If you really loved the guy, don't try and replace him. Maybe you, and I for that matter, will run into the right person. Until then, being single is what is. I never have lost that lost feeling though. if you figure a way around that, drop me a line and clue me in...
Tom
2006-08-02 11:34:28 · answer #2 · answered by Thomas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We always want what we can't have, it's in our human nature but that doesn't mean what we want is always right for us.
He may not be the right guy for you. If he truly loved you he would of felt the same way and come back to you, if he doesn't, you know it was for the best. If he was your first love, it will always hurt but love will come again when the time is right. He wasn't the only man for you.
That guy was not your life, he was apart of it. There is so much scope in life to live for. In the moment your feelings will be intense but time is your best friend and you will heal. Know that you would not of been happy with a guy who didn't love you the same way as you loved him. True love is a mutual experience. Think of your happiness now.
You will find another when the time is right. You walk through life and meet so many people and a few will be special to you. Don't give up hope love is never lost. Cherish the memories and accept reality. Happiness and love comes in many shapes and forms, it doesn't even have to be a person.
You have family and friends and other areas of life to concentrate on- don't neglect what you have in front of you otherwise you will live a life of regrets. Don't wait for him, accept it and move on, spend some time for yourself, and people who love you and do the things you enjoy, make yourself happy!
If he does come back and you feel the same, then take it from there but the ball will be in your court to decide what you really want, rather than what he wants.
2006-08-02 11:56:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No...being single isnt all that bad.
You're hurting, it's natural, but after a while things will start to get better, I promise. It may not seem like it, but after a while you will look back and wonder why you were so upset.
My advice: Eat lots of ice cream and hire movies..read books..do things to take your mind off things. Going out may feel like the worst idea ever, but being with friends helps more than you can imagine.
You'll be okay, just stay strong and things will be okay. You wont be single forever, I can promise you that.
Chin up, and remember, the world doesnt stop moving because you lost a guy.
hope you feel better soon, xxjes
2006-08-02 11:32:49 · answer #4 · answered by JOANNABANANA ♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
,I was told once, that if my man loves me he will follow me where ever I may go! I was scared and insecure about this. You see we were living in the city and I could not handle it any longer with my kids so I decided to leave and the car did not leave without him in it. Now we are happily married. I think if he loves you truly he will return. Give him some space, be nice and maybe try a call just to chat and see how he is doing. If all goes well tell him how you feel. I hope this will help. As for being single forever, we are all different, some of us find comfort within ourselves and others need to share with another to feel full filled.
2006-08-02 11:36:15 · answer #5 · answered by smiley 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust me you would be able to luv someone else again. I have lost the guy who i thought was my everything and I have had the chance to luv again. It is a little hard to start another relationship bc you think that everybody is going to be like that particular guy and that is not always the case. Find some male friends and hang out with them for awhile. I know it can be depressing but you are going to have to continue your life on. Dont let yourself go down. Look good and feel good about yourself. trust me, you will never miss a friend you never had. God is with you. He will never put more on you than you can bare.
2006-08-02 11:33:56 · answer #6 · answered by Hope 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, something like this has just happened to me. What I did was sit on the couch and eat popcorn and ice cream while watching movies. Then I realized that i could do so much more with my life. I shouldn't just wait around for him to come back to me, I should go out and live life to the fullest. Since I have broken up with him I have gone to Paris,Rome, climbed Mt Everest (well half-way), and did charity work in Africa. I also met the true love of my life. He was the organizer for the charity program for Africa. We are going to be married in late September, and expecting a child.
2006-08-02 11:35:43 · answer #7 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't say it twice. I was in the same condition, and guess, still I can't find a love like Leila, my ex was everything for me, my only universe, but after some time I started to search, and my heart and mind after 3 moths of depression recovered.
Keep the faith, and don't cry over spilled milk. Every break is telling you that you are having heart for something greater.
2006-08-02 11:37:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why do you think you're going to be single forever? There's a whole world of people out there. Don't sell yourself short. Right now you're hurting. Take it easy, keep yourself busy, get with your girlfriends so they can help cheer you up. And know that you'll find someone else when you're ready.
2006-08-02 11:33:09 · answer #9 · answered by jata2001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. I am 19 and a virgin so being single for me isn't that bad. It gives you time to focus on other things in your life that is more imortant, like family and friends without the complications of someone else coming to destroy all of that.
2006-08-02 11:31:20 · answer #10 · answered by policethesoul 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋