my best friend lost her dad and i often find myself saying someting wroung or it hurts her what should i do
2006-08-02 04:17:03 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
If her dad is lost you should help her find him.
2006-08-02 04:20:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You ask a good question. Everyone's reaction to death is different. There is no book that says "this is how one feels or acts after losing a loved one" Keep that in mind when I offer my suggestion.
Suggestion - Losing a loved one can be difficult, almost paralyzing if a close immediate family member. There are many things to take into account on your friends reaction. How long ago was the death. What was her relationship like with her father, was it sudden, a long illness etc. Were they on good terms, bad terms, etc. With all this said, my only suggestion is to really "think" before you say something. Try to put yourself in her shoes. If you are sensing she is having more difficulty and taking things out of context sit down and talk with her. Let her know you care about her - first and foremost - let her know you want to support her in healing and how can you best do that. Apologize for anything said if necessary. Good Luck to you
2006-08-02 11:22:51 · answer #2 · answered by 'Barn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would just be there for her. she has to be hurting, and she knows u r trying to help. just keep telling her it is going to be ok, and sometimes, not saying anything is best. let her talk and vent and cry. just be a friend to her, that is what she needs right now. sometimes, just telling her that you don't know what to say, but you want to be there for her is the best thing you could say. good luck. :)
ps. sorry about her dad, that sucks.
2006-08-02 11:23:40 · answer #3 · answered by irish actress 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about what you would want your best friend to say to you if you lost your dad.
2006-08-02 11:20:55 · answer #4 · answered by LSD 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think that u should talk to her about her dad.....like remembering all the good times she had with him and maybe some funny moments that will make her smile....and maybe even laugh. and when u talk and u don't really want to bring up her dad think before u speak and make sure that whatever u are going to say it has nothing to do with her dad.
2006-08-02 11:24:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop, saying or doing what you are doing, yes you may be trying to help! but you just got to give her some time to figure out or find herself........ all you can do is be there when she needs a hand or a crying shoulder.
2006-08-02 11:22:30 · answer #6 · answered by beautyprincess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a freind has lost her dad try to comfort her by not talking about it. Another way to comfort her is give her gifts.
2006-08-02 11:21:57 · answer #7 · answered by 5cent 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bite your tongue and just BE THERE for her. Let HER do the talking. You can't fix it so don't say anything. If you can't keep your mouth shut just tell her you're sorry and wish you could take some of her pain so she didn't have so much to bear.
2006-08-02 11:21:29 · answer #8 · answered by Hidden .38 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there is no easy way around it and i hav a best friend who has a dad in jail. she is way sensitive and really i still haven't found a way around it. just watch the expression on her face. be there for her. that is what counts
2006-08-02 11:22:30 · answer #9 · answered by blonde one 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep quiet. I know you want to act big and pretend like it's not a big deal, but it is a big deal and you don't have to act big. Just be silent about it and be there for your best friend.
2006-08-02 11:21:35 · answer #10 · answered by Ya-sai 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋