if a white woman married a black man........?

Question

or the other way round (white guy marrying black lady) do you think they might have racial issues? like...do you think if the white person calls the black person "N!igger" (excuse my french) the black person will get angry or just let it go? or what do YOU think would happen? what's your opinion? express yourself!!!!!!

oh....and im not being RACIST or anything.....im just curious thats it! i personally think its unfair and if a black person calls a white person a name that is racist that too is unfair!!...both ways are not acceptable

Answer 1

I think that love should be colorblind. Unfortunately, society is not. Marriage is complicated enough, even if the two people are of the same race. So yes, it would be hard, but if they loved each other for what was on the inside, then it wouldn't matter; they would just work through it like every other bi-racial or multi-racial couple. Peace always,
Ness

Answer 2

It depends on the couple. The spouse in the marrige getting called ****** would have to decide how the comment was made. Was it a joking comment? And had both partners already decided it could be a joke between them? Also depends on where it would be made at. Although in most cases I would say yes, they'll probably get offended. But really why should one race get more offended by a word than another. Yes I understand the history of the word ******. However, never in its definition has it meant specifically black people. You could call a white person a ******. ****** doesn't = black people. Now cracker and whitey and blackie all are meant for a specific race. If you call someone a ******, you're basically just saying they're lazy.

Answer 3

For you to even 'use' the "N" word indicates to me that you might not be thinking clearly about how others in this forum might feel about that name. I don't use it. I hate to hear other black people use it - even in jest, and I certainly am offended when anyone - white or other race uses it. Its connotation goes back to a history that will never be erased and no amount of 'education' and 'hip hop' will make this word accepted or validated for black people. I believe people live and love one another based upon a number of things that they create within their own relationship. It's really none of our business, but I am sure if they have a solid relationship, black or white, name calling could not, should not and would not be a part of it, if they want a true, longlasting relationship. It does not een have to be the "N" word - any names that we call each other only hurt and demean the other person, and it shows how little we know about ourselves, care about ourselves, and know about true character. Further, there was no need for you to "excuse" your French - the "N" word is not French. There is no such thing as letting name calling go. As a teacher, I try to inform students that self respect, self-esteem go hand in hand. If you love yourself, you would never think of calling someone else anything other than the name they were given. You never reduce yourself to name calling because it only serves to show ignorance, and self defeat. I know that is hard to understand sometimes and it takes practice to perfect it, but it can be done.

Answer 4

Personally I think it's A-ok if a white woman married a black man, but the couple will assuredly encounter issues by bigots all over the country. My late grandfather was one, and I am sorry for his behavior. He would tkae me out to lunch, and if he saw an interracial couple, he would get all mad and say loud enough for everyone to hear, "You know, those blacks should stick to their own kind!" It was awful. His take on it was that the children produced of such a marriage would be confused as to what they were, neither black nor white. I say, a child born of an interracial couple is a "double;" Both black AND white. And very beautiful! I don't know.

Answer 5

Unfortunately in our society, the couple will face discrimination and prejudice. This is an issue, that will come up. There are different parts of the world, where they may experience more or less of this, but it is there. Its sad really. As far as name calling, I believe that this would be inapproiate in any relationship regardless of race or ethnic background. Feelings probably would be hurt. But in the end, this can be clearified quite simply, through communications. The couple will have to talk about these issues if they are serious about building a strong relationship in a world that, at times, will seem to be against them.

Answer 6

There will be racial issues sooner or later. If you don't wanna regret something for your whole life, don't marry a person other than your race; moreover. Unfortunatelly, there will be always differences. But the racial problems wont be between them, they wil have gone past the racial thing by the time they get married

Answer 7

I think it would be like other relationships. Some people have boundaries, some don't, some are mature enough to know that its not ok to say mean things just because your angry.
Whether its the N word or not.... don't (immature) people say the meanest things they can think of?
They call thier g/f -wife fat a** or call thier b/f - husband needle d***
ect ect....
SO........ it may happen that in a black/white relationship someone may be called "******" and someone may be called 'honkey or cracker"
Depending on the person it may be forgiven or may not be

Answer 8

I am white mixed, and my fiance is black. We don't have issues with race at all. Other people seeing us together have comments or look at us funny, but we don't care.

We love eachother, and if anyone has a problem with it, F*CK YOU! Nothing can stand in the way of love.

As for racial comments, sometimes he jokingly calls me "cracka" and I call him "coffee" or "midnight" but never "ni**er" because that only means ignorant. Any person can be ignorant, but he certainly is not.

Answer 9

I know many many interracial marriages. I've asked that same question, (not exactly the same wording though) to friends of mine who were interracial marriage, and the biggest problem usually is the in-laws. The parents of the white girl didn't like her marrying outside her race, and the parents of the black guy felt the same way. But the couples themselves got along fine.

Answer 10

The difference in race will only become an issue if they let it become one. There are always going to be some people who will never accept this kind of thing, but I think that in today's age there is no problem with this. If grandpa doesn't approve, who cares?