My best friends has been wanting us to get together this summer and go school shopping. Then her grandparents came down to go shopping with her on the day we were going to go shoppin. I understand that because she hardly sees them, then 2 days ago she had a sleep over and she had 2 friends over and they planned to go shopping the next day and not invite me. It seems like she doesn't have time for me anymore and doesn't care. Am I wrong?
2006-08-02 03:57:03 · 26 answers · asked by Michelle 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I don't think she realized that it hurt me.
2006-08-02 04:09:01 · update #1
yes you should be a little upset, but you need to ask her why before you jump to conclusions.
2006-08-02 03:59:54 · answer #1 · answered by aimlynsmi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her how you feel and that this shopping trip meant a lot to you and that you felt left out because she has been hanging out with other friends. If she is a true friend, she will understand and reschedule your shopping date. Talk to her though. She may have had a reason for having friends over. If she is just ditching you, YES you have a right to be mad. I'm not saying you should stop being friends over it but tell her that she was not being a good friend. Good luck! I hope everything works out.
Whatever you do, don't take revenge because it is not the right thing to do. If she is being mean to you, she will pay for it in the long run.
2006-08-02 11:03:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her whats wrong maybe theirs somewrong,also maybe she needs time to tell you something. Cause sometime us girls dont really say whats on our minds to our friends. But her not telling you shes going with someone else shopping maybe it was a guy or she just using you not sure dont know her like that. Take a step back and see how she acts around you in the pasted and now. You need friends who are going to be there no matter what , one who start from the roots of the tree not the leaves or branches. Good Luck
2006-08-02 11:08:30 · answer #3 · answered by Tcandy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess it's natural you feel left out. try to see it this way. she has grandparents visiting her that she doesn't see that often. and i assume both of you see each other regularly. did you ask her who are the two friends she had for sleepover? maybe you are not that close to those two friends she invited. sometimes, it's good to have a timeout. even though that person is your bestest of friends. let's try this point of view. if the two of you are together 24/7, you might end up running out of topic to talk about. but if you guys see each other only once in a while, both of you will have more to say to each other. to catch up on each other. it's like meeting someone who just came back from a long trip. it makes you cherish the moment you have together more.
2006-08-02 11:06:47 · answer #4 · answered by capricorn_bay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have the right to be mad. she WAS going to invite you first and SHE was the one that wanted to go shopping with you and just put is aside! I wouldn't hate my friends if they went shopping without me (only if it were one or two friends) but if i was asked to go first and then she just left me...i would explode with anger!
maybe she doesnt want to be your friend any more
like she feels like her "social status" is going up so she shouldnt hang with u anymore
i konw how it feels
not that im lame or anything, im average
then my friend (name withheld) started thinking she wus "ALL THAT" and started hanging out with ppl she usually doesn't
and she LOVES to hang out with boys (even tho the whole school knows she a wild thing and is slightly weird)
i mean when we had an school picnic at a SUPER COOL pool club, we were playing tug a war. it wus girls agains boys and there were one to many girls. she voluteers in an INSTANT and she asks like she is the hottest person there and all feminin (in tug a war...i dont think so!).
so maybe she isn't the best friend of ur dreams. there are loads of more ppl in this world that will resect u alot more!
2006-08-02 11:08:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You had no right to be mad at her for choosing family over friends. If you made it obvious you were mad at her over something so selfish, then maybe that's why she didn't invite you to the sleep over. Best thing is to apologize and make sure she knows you just miss her as a friend and aren't mad.
2006-08-02 11:00:20 · answer #6 · answered by Molly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are wrong to be mad about the sleep over and not being invited. Have you asked her why? It seems if she is your best friend she should have wanted you there.
2006-08-02 11:00:44 · answer #7 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friendships ending is nothing to be mad about. People change as they experience life and she might feel that the two of you just don't click anymore. She may or may not want to end your friendship. I wouldn't assume though. Just ask her. If you've been best friends you should be able to do that.
2006-08-02 11:06:14 · answer #8 · answered by Hidden .38 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a hard fact that friendships change, maybe she felt that you did not have time for her before that. I think you should talk to her and see what going on, the only way you will find out is to do so.
2006-08-02 11:03:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is okay to be a little upset, but this is not earth shattering. Just let her know how it made you feel. She make not think it is a big deal to you since she has been on you to do it for so long and you have been reluctant.
2006-08-02 11:00:59 · answer #10 · answered by thesweetestthings24 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should be mad maybe she forgot you because she went shopping with her grandparents oh no your not wrong at all maybe she is spending her time with other friends and will spend time with you next week you should talk to her.
2006-08-02 11:03:27 · answer #11 · answered by Rated R Diva ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋