How do I make it go away?

Question

I was raped a year and a half ago. I still am tramatized. I'm afriad that I might not ever be psychologicial right.

Excuse me, this is the psychology section not the religious section.

Answer 1

Honey, you need a support group. There are a lot of rape crisis groups and I'm sure you can find one in your area. Here's one thing that has helped me get over my rape. When it was happening, I kept saying in my head, "Am I still the same person I was a minute ago? Two minutes ago?" And I knew I was still the same loving, caring person I was. Every day for months I had to reaffirm in my mind that I was still the good person I was before the rape. A few months after the rape, when I thought I had "got over it" I was part of a group doing a very physical team building exercise. It got pretty intense for one person and he bit the presenter's partner. For some reason this freaked me out and brought the rape up and I felt like I was raped all over again. When it had actually happened, I was downright pissed. After this incident I was terrified. Only one person in this group had known about the incident. Afterwards everyone knew. I couldn't stop crying. That day I learned that what really bothered me was that there had been a complete loss of control...hot on my part so much as on my rapist's part.
You ARE still the same person you were before your rape. You ARE still a good person worthy of love and companionship. Your rape was an incident that allows you the ability to have more depth and sympathy with other women (and men and children) who have experienced the same thing. Another thing that might help you is to get involved in a program about rape awareness... find a rape crisis center and volunteer. It will help you because helping others will be healing in many ways. You'll be okay. Focus on the wonderful things in your life and build wonderful things. Don't let the scumbag have control over you. Take control.

Answer 2

Rape is traumatic, invasive, and humiliating. It isn't surprizing that you don't feel psychologically "right" afterwards. The main thing is that you REALIZE that it's NOT your fault. You were the victim of a violent crime, and it can happen to anyone at anytime for no reason at all.
It is natural to feel the way you're feeling, and there is no time-limit to how long it can hurt emotionally and psychologically. If you want to move forward in your life and put this behind you, then I'd recommend you seek the services of a qualified Therapist.

Answer 3

"It" will not go away...in the sense I'm about to discuss, but it will fade in time, and even "go away" with more time.

The "key" to dealing with any trauma that does not seem fair or reasonable is to look at the bigger picture. If you are familiar with the concept ot Karma, it helps. The Law of Karma is this... for every action taken by one, that action will have to be taken against one. Now, Karma only makes sense if one also believes in "reincarnation", or the concept that we live many more lives than just one.

When things happen "to us" in this life, no one would imagine that such an act is "due us".... but it is, otherwise it would not happen. It is not due us for anything in this life, quite probably, but for some action we took in a previous life. The reason we cannot "see" the connection is so that we experience the act just as someone experienced it at our hands, at some previous time. Everything that happens to us, or with us, is for our ultimate benefit... hard to believe at times, but important to understand this, because if we can learn to embrace this concept, our lives become more real, honest, and we evolve Spiritually.

Let go of the notion that there was anything "personal" in the rape. It was due you..... period. It does not have anything to do with you in this life.... and this is important for you to comprehend. Your body, brain, and sex are all elements "hung" upon you... they do not define you, nor are they you. You are a Soul, an aspect of God, and nothing of this world can touch that Soul. Keep this perspective because it is Real, and everything else is your MIND beating you up. It is your job to forgive yourself for what you did previously that brought you this experience....God has never found fault with you, because you are a Perfect Soul....the illusion is your physical body. Please try and put your arms around this concept, and in the forgiveness of yourself, grieve for the pain, and be done with the experience. Peace

Answer 4

I don't think the uneasy feeling will ever go away for you, but I think that going and talking to someone is the very best way to settle feelings and make your life easier. Some people go and see someone all there life , that doesn't mean there is something wrong it just makes them feel better. I also believe that everything in this world happens for a reason and everything that happens to us , whether good or bad makes us a stronger and better person. Maybe try to think of the positive things that came out of the situation, its hard to think that there would be something positive but in your life there must be! Plus its not your fault this happened , its the other persons and everyday you get out of bed say to yourself, it wasn't my fault and I am a great and happy person, positive talk to yourself really helps!
good luck and take care of yourself!

Answer 5

At very least, you need to talk to a counselor. I would personally suggest a psychologist to rule out PTSD. I'm not going to be trite and tell you that time fixes everything, but I will say that with time AND hard work, you can be a strong person and take control of your life back.

Answer 6

Dear:
You cannot deal alone with this. This is overwhelming. I found that the must reliable professional in this is a psychologist (with Gestalt formation). In this kind of therapy, the goal is to close your soul wounds and to restructure your confidence.

Answer 7

Counseling is the best place to start. It will never go away, but you can get past it. You need good support from family/friends. Don't bottle-up the emotions because that will only make it worse.

Answer 8

See a therapist, this might help you, but not just any therapist, someone who is trained in such matters. be patient with yourself, it was not your fault, pray, trust in God, and talk to someone close to you, your Mother, Sister or a your best friend, tell them, how you feel and how they can help you. God Bless and stay strong, you can do this.

Answer 9

Go see a therapist and they can help you through it. Join a rape support group.

Answer 10

just believe that when you're in heaven, you'll feel and understand a lot better....healing to you and God Bless.