Why do some men find bitchy women attractive or a turn on?

Question

My boyfriend said he likes me when I'm bitchy.
I do it to punish him when he has done something wrong and he thinks it's a reward. My motto is I'll treat you the way you treat me as I believe we are all equals. Instead of nagging him to change, I keep my distance and let him realise what he has done.
I asked him why he does so but he doesn't justify it with a reason.
Don't trust the bugger. Perhaps this is a reverse psychology thing but I'd like to know people's opinions on it.

Avartars don't answer the question.
As for being a *****, everyone has their limits, so unless you're saying you live in Tibet and laugh on a mountain with a statue of Buddha infront of you all day- you're answer is invalid.

Oh, I care because I'm not a ***** and don't see how being a ***** should be something to find appealing. Hence the question being asked.

We ALL get angry, even the best of us (there's a ***** in all of us). Knowing how to understand your man and why he responds to certain things the way he does is vital for communication and a healthy relationship.

A balanced person is one who understands other peoples views and can accept them (being open minded).

Lastly, a dumb question is one not asked ;)
If you have nothing substantial to say, say nothing at all.

Answer 1

No men do not find bitchy women attractive. Plz read till the end carefully:

You see, few males would ever demean a woman who has done well in her chosen career. Most of us enjoy a gal with some spunk.
One of this writer's favorite movie scenes is from "Overboard" starring Goldie Hawne and Kirk Russell. Her character joins him for a beer at a cowboy bar. When she reaches for her drink, Russell's character states that, "I've always been attracted to women who drink their beer straight from the bottle." The point is that we men enjoy our women in all shapes and sizes and with all of your liberties as well, but we are absolutely turned off and disgusted when you feel that you can only relate to us with an "attitude."

Much like the gay male who overdoes his femininity with flamboyance, we view a female who is overly aggressive, manipulative, demeaning, and indignate in much the same way. There will never be any substitute for true humanity. Nothing is more attractive to a male than a liberated woman with a balanced attitude that is genuine and considerate.

there are too many women who complain about men not being romantic. The truth is that we guys are very capable of being romantic. It's just that a woman with a self-centered attitude isn't worth the effort on our part. Oh, we'll go to bed with them as long as we can tolerate their barbs, griping, and whining but don't think for one minute that we are going to ever get down on one knee and ask if they'd like to wear our engagement ring.
No, that request will be saved for a truly liberated woman--the one who is liberated from herself.

In a perfect world, liberated women would be less aggressive and good men would be much more understanding regarding how to treat a woman more as a person than prey. Those couples who are enjoying a truly mutually fulfilling relationship are doing so because they have worked at developing balance, understanding of each other, and relearning the simple truth that all of us need to be treated as valued human beings if we are to feel genuinely loved.
The world isn't perfect but, then again, each of us has the ability to readjust our thinking so that we can bring both maturity and understanding to our primary relationships.

All I am saying here is that some of you are obviously making the mistake of becoming exactly what you have historically hated in men.
Don't be a ***** and if you are one, don't blame it on men. Take responsibility for yourselves and be our friends, companions, counterparts, equals, lovers, and partners.

Answer 2

Bitchy Woman

Answer 3

Bitchy usually equals stupid. Yes, I said it. The reason I'm saying it is because out of 3,330 female students I've taught in college, only 1 was actually smart and attractive. The rest are just bitchy and stupid. So yes, bitchy does not equal attractive nor smart in my book.

Answer 4

Generally, you can't respect someone who demands respect just because she thinks she's in a higher tier of social society than you are. I've learned from a number of years teaching college students that pretty almost never equals smart. The prettier they are the dumb as hell they are not the other way around. There are a plethora of pretty women out there, but none of them are even halfway intelligent as they would like you to think they are, which they are definitely not.

Answer 5

If you're bitchy, do you even care? I don't lol

You're never going to be comfortable or happy in a relationship if you cannot trust your partner. Plus it sounds like your man has some weird fetish. Honestly, I would think that your man would want to see you happy... Generally bitchiness is not a sign of happiness.

Maybe you should consider finding another man. I mean if you can't trust him and he likes seeing you unhappy...this isn't a healthy relationship.

Answer 6

A man who needs not to respect his partner wants her to do stuff to show how cheap and shallow she is. A woman who needs not to respect her partner will oblige by doing cheap and shallow stuff. She can then despise her partner for putting up with it.

It's not a good way of doing sex - but it is all some people can manage.

Much the way that if you don't know how to open a packet of Romaine you have to eat at McDonalds.

Answer 7

I think it's how he was treated by his mother and feels most comfortable being treated badly by women. It's unhealthy and he needs to learn some self respect. He's not a child and doesn't need a mother, he needs someone to let him know that it's alright for someone to treat him with the respect every human deserves.

Answer 8

Well everyone has their own preferences in the bedroom...some like pure sex, some like role playing and Some people are into the reward punishment game and thats what they enjoy...Whatever floats your boat !! :)

Well, if you dont like it or find it personally offensive, you should talk to him and let him know clearly what ur feelings are on the issue...

If he understands ..fine..else , time to move on !!!

Answer 9

I was just talking to my mom about this yesterday!
I don't get it, either. I think the guy who likes that has some kind of self-esteem issue or maybe their mothers treated them like that. People sometimes unknowingly fall for people who remind them of their parents.

Answer 10

A good ole psychological fight. Keep us posted, I want to know who wins this battle for control of the other. I'm already rooting for your boyfriend.