What should I do?

Question

I work for an insurance agency and love my job, but have been unhappy recently due to being passed over for a promotion. Yesterday my brother-in-law offered me a job working for the insurance agency that he is manager of, and it is for a lot more money then what I am making now. I would be a fool to pass up more money, because lets face it nothing is getting any cheaper these days yet I feel guilty for considering the new job.My brother -in-law and my current boss and I all 3 worked for a different insurance agency together so we are all friends. Should I go to my boss and let him know about the offer and see if he counter offers or should I just take the new job and give my 2 weeks notice? Please help!

A few more details about the girl that he hired she was hired from the outside(meaning he didn't promote someone from the office) and was supposed to have a lot more experience, but once she got here and finished her training she had to and still does come to me to ask me how to do stuff. If she has more experience then why does she need to come to me find out the answers to things she should already know?

I have already worked for my Brother-in-law before and it worked out fine.He is offering me more money because he has seen how I work and thinks that I am worth it. Some of you are asking is it a lot more money it would be $10,500 more a year which to me is a lot of money.

Answer 1

Tell Chris to take this job and shove it!!
and befroe you leave tell Joanne that she is the stupidest person in the world and to go to h*ll !!!!!!!!
That's what I would do..Good luck

Answer 2

Your question is impossible for anyone other than you to answer. Before you take any action, however, I would suggest asking yourself some further questions to try to separate out the factors influencing your feelings.

1) Although you were passed over, can you rationalize it? Did the other person have more experience? Better track record? Longer time with the agency? If you can separate the feeling of being treated unfairly, you will be better able to evaluate your personal worth, and be better able to make plans. Only you know the information, so only you can evaluate the situation.

2) How would it be working for your brother-in-law? What is your relationship like? How would it change with him as your boss? How would the other employees feel about you coming in through your "connections"? Would the relationship be one of employee, or would you be part of the ownership or management? How would you feel in either case?

3) Why is you brother-in-law offering so much more money? Is it really much more money? Is money really what is driving the decision, or is it feeling hurt by your current employer?

In my opinion, only after you have sorted out the feeling of hurt will you be able to clearly look at the situation and make a decision that properly respects you, and your relationship with your friends and employers.

Answer 3

that's rough. I hate when jobs get complicated like that. I for one have a motto - never work for family, and only because I work for my Aunt right now... hell on Earth, this job. Because I am family, she thinks she can get away with anything, and because she pays me well, she REALLY thinks she can get away with everything. Hence my new motto.
When I told my aunt a while back that i might be getting another job, sure she was upset but she practically begged me to stay, offered me anything I wanted. I might go to your current boss and explain that you feel as if you are not appreciated (because they didn't promote you) and tell him that you feel you have a better opportunity coming your way... you don't necessarily have to tell him WHO is offering this opportunity. Once he hears this you will know how much he really wants you in the company by what he counters with. if he will pay you the better and you feel that you will be able to continue advancing in the company, then there is no reason to leave. but if it seems that he isn't too worried about your leaving, you know it is time to ignore my motto and find a better job where you are appreciated.
Best of luck to you!

Answer 4

Were you more qualified for the position than the person who got promoted (be fair). If so, that should tell you about what kind of situation your in and it's time to move on.
A counter offer probably won't happen and even if it does, how does help your peace of mind when you go into work every day knowing you got passed over.
Good luck to you in what ever you decide (money isn't everything).

Answer 5

think long and hard about working for/with family. can you leave work at work? if you can and the money is better, and your boss is your friend, let him know that you are seriously considering the offer. don't necessarily look for the counter or he may think you are playing the situation for a raise/promotion. be prepared to make the move.

Answer 6

Go to your boss, and explain that you have been given a job offer for a lot more money. Tell him that it saddens you to have to leave but that you have to think about your future. Then give him your notice.

If he wants to counter offer then he can but if he doesn't then you have already given your notice and there should be no hard feelings.

Answer 7

You are on the right track. Go to your boss, tell him about the offer. Tell him that you like your current job but if he is unable to match the raise then you would have to do whatever is best for you and go to the other job. If he matches it then stay there. If he refuses-then move on.

Answer 8

There's nothing wrong with telling your boss you've been given a better offer - people do it all the time. If he can match or beat it then you're doing good, otherwise go for the money!

Answer 9

I think money is not everything. Consider where you will be happy with your job. I think your comfort and security counts more. All the best girl.

Answer 10

Two weeks notice and go. You were passed over on the promotion. Follow the money....................