I found out that I miscarried on Friday. And now I feel like I am the most disguisting, ugliest thing on the planet. I always hear about how beautiful pregnant women are, and how they glow. My boyfriend said I was so beautiful and was going to be the most beautiful pregnant women ever to him. I feel like I did him wrong. He has been very quiet lately and dosn't want to have sex as often. Do you think he finds me less attractive since I am not pregnant anymore? I am a mess.
2006-08-02 02:55:32 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
First, sorry to hear about your miscarriage. I wouldn't worry about your boyfriend. You need to give him time to deal with the loss. You are also dealing with a loss and your emotions are going crazy not to mention your hormones. You are not ugly, disgusting I am sure, do something for yourself to make you feel better. Get your hair done, nails, go to a spa for a day to feel better. It will help you in and out. Your boyfriend I am sure is scared to have sex thinking of pregnancy again and another miscarriage. That is normal for men, they won't admit it but it does go through their minds. So like I said give it time and good luck in the future to you!!!
2006-08-02 03:14:44 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To start I want to say that I am sorry for your loss. I know how it feels. Next if you just miscarried you should not be worrying about sex or rushing to have sex. The doctor usually tells you to wait three weeks so wait. The feelings that you are currently feeling are natural and it would pass, I promise you. Stop blaming yourself, it was not your fault (things happen because they are supposed to happen) Your boyfriend is probably quiet because he is coping. Remember man and woman deal with trauma differently. You both need time to heal so if what he wants is time and space give it to him. And during that time focus on you and getting better because you will. Like I told you before I been there and is the worst feeling in the world because you feel helpless, angry, sad and confused all at the same time. It will take time but it will pass and you will be okay.
2006-08-02 10:08:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen, this is a tragic situation for you and for him. He is prob quiet because he has emotions that he doesn't know how to deal with. He needs to grieve the fact that there is no baby anymore and the two of you need to make sure and share your feelings with one another. Talking helps but don't push! People deal with tragedy differently. Make sure he knows how you need him to heal this broken heart that you are dealing with. You are not ugly or disgusting. You had a miscarriage and this happens. We will never know why until you are facing God and you ask him. He is the One that holds the answers. Just keep loving one another and you both will be fine!! Good luck
2006-08-02 10:05:40 · answer #3 · answered by Brandi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry about your loss. Losing a baby is very emotional and difficult to go through. It sounds like both you and your boyfriend are suffering from your loss.
You lost a baby - a life - a future... both you and your boyfriend can grow stronger especially through sharing your feelings and your pain.
Maybe leave sex for later... keep things on an emotional level rather than a physical one while you are mourning.
I'm reaching out with a cyber-hug... I am sorry for your loss.
2006-08-02 10:06:45 · answer #4 · answered by Ahava 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No honey he probably is really hurt too. I am sure he was excited and looking forward to being a father. Give him time and be there for im too. I know this has to be really tough for you so you can imagine his sorrow too. You guys really need each other right now. He thinks you are still beautiful, he is just grieving. I am so sorry for your loss honey.
2006-08-02 10:13:47 · answer #5 · answered by Kookie M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The both of you are going though a loss. You need to talk about the miscarriage and how the both of you are feeling. He might be taking the loss really hard.
2006-08-02 10:14:10 · answer #6 · answered by Chris 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe it wasnt meant to be for whatever reason.
when the time is right, God will send a little angel your way. just go with the flow.
god bless
2006-08-02 10:20:06 · answer #7 · answered by sex bot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no im sure he doesnt, im sorry to hear about ur loss just tell him sometimes it happens naturally and we cant do anything to stop it, im sure he loves u just as much just upset about the losss
2006-08-02 10:08:06 · answer #8 · answered by Victoria 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no. Its couldb that he wanted 2 be a dad
2006-08-02 10:03:42 · answer #9 · answered by Smily 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋