My fiance is 23 and has this dream to own his own business one day. He has had a meeting with the right people and would like to open a franchise. He is going to have to borrow money from the bank and his parents in order to do this. (we are still living with them). They are trying to explain to him that he needs more life experiences in the world before he does this and needs to show more initiative and needs to prepare a business proposal. I agree with them and have told him so and he seems to think we are all steping on his dreams. He seems to think the bank/parents are just going to give him this money without doing some leg work first. How can I make him realize that maybe he just needs to give it more time to get prepared and save up some of his own money first???? Anyone else going through this??
2006-08-02 02:49:39 · 5 answers · asked by lapp562 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He has gone to college for Graphic design and got his degree..I suggested he take a business management course before he does all this. He wants to open up a sign shop. He has worked in one for 2years, but has 5 years expeience in graphic design.
2006-08-02 03:35:23 · update #1
Sometimes you should maybe just let other people "step on his dreams." If there are people close to him that are willing to be brutally honest with him about that sort of thing, perhaps you could just go with the flow. That way you are supporting him with not saying anything, but someone is still helping with the reality check.
2006-08-02 03:20:10 · answer #1 · answered by caitlinerika 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Finance is simple. In order to borrow money you have to show, in writing, what the return will be on the money. He will be turned down. His lack of attention to preparing a business proposal is a sign that he is not ready to own his own business. Has he gone to college? Did he take management classes? Owning your own business is not just about the work - it is managing time, resources and people. What kind of jobs has he held? Your living with his folks means he hasn't learned to handle his personal finances either. I agree with his parents. He needs more experience.
2006-08-02 10:17:57 · answer #2 · answered by nitram99blue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats the thing about dreamers~ you can't just shut them off. maybe he is dreaming too big, but how will anyone know if he doesn't go for it?
and as far as you being supportive, no offense, but you aren't really.he could have the whatever to pull this off~ stand by him and encourage him.
if you don't, and for some reason it fails, he may later blame you for "killing his dreams". and even though it may not be why it failed, it can ruin a marriage.
besides, men are like little kids; they need a strong structured system to live by. if this one doesn't fly for him, he'll either drop it, or find another dream to chase.
as long as he is still pulling his share of the weight at home, you should let him do his thing.
never tell any one to stop dreaming. you guys are still so young and there are still a whole lot of dreams waiting for both of you.
2006-08-02 10:14:05 · answer #3 · answered by breezy b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If noone gives him the money he cannot do it and will be forced to do something else. I guess try explaining that you need to get married and have your own life first before his whole life is taken up by a business. What's more important, you or this business idea. If he loves you he'll wait a couple of years.
2006-08-02 09:59:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when the bank declines him he will see clearly
2006-08-02 09:56:13 · answer #5 · answered by asdfghjkl; 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋