My boyfriend is going to tell his mom tonight that i'm pregnant?

Question

I'm not sure how she is going to take it. She is really hit or miss so I dont know what she is going to say and I dont want to deal with another lecture. Should I be there when he tells her over dinner or should I say i'm sick and stay home and let him tell her?

Answer 1

I don't know why you would stay home and pretend your sick. Having a baby is something we do and should be proud of not something we run away and are scared of what others will think. I would rather be there to defend or just support my decision then let someone under the influence of their parents talk for me.

Answer 2

You should both be there, yes you will probably get a lecture but, you and your boyfriend should have used protection. If you think this is hard just wait until you have to get up at all hours of the night to feed the baby and clothe the baby. How old are you? I was 17 when I had my first child, and going to school and getting up in the middle of the night was so tiring I didn't think I would make it. Face the music, all she could do is get mad now I hope that both parents will be there for you to help with the baby and I hope the father of the baby stands by you. Good Luck Honey, your going to need it

Answer 3

No. You should be there. You've mentioned nothing about your decision, so I'll assume you and your bf will be keeping the child. This woman will be the child's grandparent and deserves every chance to start off on the right foot. If she does lecture, listen for a couple of minutes and politely let her know that you are both aware of the responsibilities and maybe her support as the grandmother is what you need right now, not her lecturing. Be kind though. GL and God bless.

Answer 4

You should be there! It's a done deal... you're pregnant. Like it or not she's having a grandbaby. You will have to face her sooner or later. You can just tell her that you aren't open for a lecture. Don't blow up though, just stay calm, cool, and collected b/c you will have to deal with her the rest of your life. Good Luck!!!

Answer 5

you should be there because doesn't matter how she's going to react, she's still a parent and that it'd be a good thing she knows because she can help with the kid later on. I mean if he told his mom when you're not around, when she sees you sometime you're still going to have to deal with the lecture. so I think it's better for you to be there when he tells her. And things will be slightly better for you if you're there when he tells her because then she can tell you what she wants to tell you right away and not wait for days or calling you to lecture you.

Answer 6

I've been there(as the mother) and I'm guessing different mothers would react differently. Personally, when my son told me he had something to tell me, I imagined all kinds of things. I was so relieved when he told me his girlfriend was pregnant that I laughed. He could have told me so many things that would have been so much worse. They have been married for thirteen years now and my beautiful granddaughter will be fourteen this month and she is a blessing. I know everyone isn't as lucky as I am but this was my experience. My son told me alone but I don't think it would have mattered. It can work for you but it won't be easy. Hopefully you will have alot of support. Good luck. (Yes my granddaughter was in the wedding!!)

Answer 7

you and your boyfriend are in this together so you should be there. if she is less than happy, you should realize that she knows what having a child is like and knows the responcibilities when you really dont yet.

a lot depends on how old you and your boyfriend are. have you lived together? are you and your boyfriend planning on getting married? how do you and your boyfriend plan on supporting this child? what are you and your boyfriends plans for the future.

i wasnt real happy when i was told that i was going to be a grandma for the first time because i knew that my kids were going to have a rough go of it. i love all my grandkids, but i was concerned about how the support is going to be and what sacrifices that my own kids are going to have to make for their kids.

you need to be there for support for your boyfriend. was this a planned pregnancy or a surprise?

there are a lot of issues that are going to have to be talked about. im not saying that you have to do it all over one dinner, but you and your boyfriend are going to have to grow up and face responcibilities that she might not think that yall are ready for.

most mothers arent real thrilled when you first tell them that they are going to be grandma, but they do get used to the idea real quick and they will love the baby.

Answer 8

If you want to portrait selfconfidence and maturity, go to the dinner. Maybe she will lecture you but at the long run she will know that if you were mature enough to get pregnant; you also were mature enought to tell her. Besides, it is a good thing that your boyfriend want his mother to know. And also is a good thing that he wants to have this baby. A baby, no matter what, always brings happines and joy to all.

Answer 9

Stay at home and let him tell her. She really don't have to accept it and you really don't have to care about how she feels. If she likes the idea of her having a grandchild then oh well, don't withhold the child from her if she wants to be apart of it's life, now if she hates the idea of being a grandmother then stay away from her, you don't need that negativity around you or your child.

Answer 10

I would stay home and let him tell her himself. That is what I did, I told my family and my boyfriend told him. That way they could all vent and get mad without holding back. Now things are great. Don't give her the chance to start a war, just stay home.