we have 2 sons 6 and 2 and would like to have a 3rd. we have quite a bit in bills every month and cant decide if financially we can afford it. we have a joint income of about £2500 each month and pay out about £1000 in bills and mortgage, maybe more. has anyone got any advice or been in similar situation?? thank q!!
2006-08-02 02:36:48 · 17 answers · asked by LAURA L 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
our bills are quite high too but if you want another just go ahead and do it otherwise you might regret it. i'm already planning my second so i've kept all of my boys clothes as we were given loads by family just so we can afford it. my friend is 23 and already has doubts as to whether she can conceive another cause of PCOS, and with so many people leaving it until later in life could you later afford ivf? at the moment we probably live on about £500 a month after bills so it can be done!
2006-08-02 04:10:01 · answer #1 · answered by Kirsty 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
even though it would be really good if u an your husband had move children. but if u think about it logically u already have 2 small children that need a lot of money and care and could u manage with another child. the question u have to ask ur self is r u desperate 2 have another child or can u wait and c how ur debts pa out before u have more children. its up to you. I'm sure u will make the right one
2006-08-02 02:44:49 · answer #2 · answered by kat 0101 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey you will always have financial reasons why not to have a baby. However, if you have major bills that you know will be paid off soon (ie: car payment) then you might as well wait till then. Or put a budget together designed to pay certian bills off and then plan for a baby as soon as they are gone. Good luck, and hope you make the right decision for you and your family!
2006-08-02 02:52:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and figure out your bills. Then figure out how much it is going to cost you to have another baby. That is just too simple. Make sure you add your groceries, rent, light, water, gas for the car, car insurance and whatever other bills your may have. Then go from there. From the figures you just gave, I would say wait till you have more income because babies are not cheap. You need to buy things for the new baby before he or she gets here so you have to look at that too.
We always plan and make sure we have enough money for whatever it is that we are planning for (baby or new car or new house). The kids do not have to suffer just because mom and dad do not have enough money to keep them clothed, fed and roof over their heads.
2006-08-02 04:25:49 · answer #4 · answered by Coast2CoastChat.com 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi we have got 6 kids aged 6 and under and i am a stay at home mum my husband lost his job and was out off work for almost 12 months but we just about managed he is back at work now money does not matter as long as you and your partner and kids are happy my kids never noticed they were just as happy then as they are now
2006-08-02 08:48:35 · answer #5 · answered by lisa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most people never have "enough" money to raise children. You don't want to look back at your life and regret not having kids because of money. You only have a certain time in your life to have kids. Don't let that time pass you by.
2006-08-02 03:54:04 · answer #6 · answered by mmdelp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mother always used to say if you waited till you could afford kids you wouldnt have them, when we were little we didnt have much but we were happy. If you leave it too late then you may regret it and lets face it if you got pregnant again by accident you would manage wouldnt you? xx
2006-08-02 03:27:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sure you can afford it. You don't have to have top notch everything, just learn to budget a little more. If it would make you happy to have a third then go for it. You always find the money to look after your family.
2006-08-02 02:53:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart. If we all waited until we could afford to have children, we would never have any. Only you know if you can make it work with or without more money.
2006-08-02 02:42:06 · answer #9 · answered by KC 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would wait until you guys feel comfortable financially you don't want to stress out over money with a new baby maybe you should wait a little longer until something is paid off
2006-08-02 02:41:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋