i think about it all the time and its disturbing should i tell my mom or let it keep ruinig my life theres nothing she could do its three years after the inncident
2006-08-02 02:33:57 · 12 answers · asked by dedenumba1 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i had his baby when i was barely 13 it is my moms boyfriend i was raped by him i told her it was someone else baby but deep inside i know its my moms boyfriend baby shes 2and a half
2006-08-02 03:03:49 · update #1
Oh, Honey.... I was raped when I was 11, and I did not tell my mom until I was 27... after I did, it was like a huge weight was off my shoulders, and I regret deeply that I did not tell her sooner.
Sweetheart, you did not do anything wrong, you have absolutely nothing to feel any shame about and your mom can do a lot of things.... she can tell you what I just told you, she can help you find a counselor or support group so you can start to put it behind you for real and not have that creep in your head all the time, she can assure you that what happened does not make you any less clean and innocent than you were before it happened... and it would be a longshot to get a conviction, but it's not too late to go to the police if you know who this jerk is, the statute of limitations is 5 years, longer in some states.
Please believe me, Honey, you will feel so much better if you are not fighting this memory all by yourself. Tell your mom.
If you want to, you can IM me, my ID is in my profile.
2006-08-02 02:53:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell your mom so she can help you to get counseling so that you can deal with this problem in your life. I am so sorry to hear that this has happened to you. No one deserves for this to happen to them much less a child. I hope you find the courage to confide in your mom and that she is understanding and compassionate enough to get you the help you need so that you can cope with your daily life. There is another thing your mom could do for you even though you think there is nothing she could do, she could just hold her child and let you know that she is sorry that you couldn't tell her when it happened and to let you know how much she loves you. No mother wants this kind of thing to ever happen to her child. I'm sure she will reassure you that she is there for you physically and emotionally.
2006-08-02 02:50:56 · answer #2 · answered by shywoman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In your other question on this topic - you said your daughter's father was in prison.
I don't know what to believe. If you were raped - it's VERY important to discuss it with someone you trust - no matter what the story or the details.
If there is no-one you feel comfortable with - you can seek professional support via a counsellor or Rape Crisis organization.
If neither of these questions is true - you NEED to talk to someone. This issue is very sensitive and it can affect people deeply - it is important to not only be honest with other people - it's important to be honest with yourself.
2006-08-02 04:13:34 · answer #3 · answered by chocolette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to tell your mom; she loves you and it will break her heart someday if she finds out that someone hurt her baby~ but it is the first step in healing. and she can help you get help for the flashbacks; it's called POST TRAUMATIC STRESS DISORDER and it needs to be treated, or it only gets worse.
and your mom can maybe help to get the person who did this to you prosecuted and see that he is punished and won't do this to some other little girl.
i know that your mom will be more hurt if she ever finds out that you didn't feel you could trust her enough to let her help you through this very painful event in your life.
and if you can't trust your mom, tell someone else; because no matter what, you must get help for the PTSD.
2006-08-02 03:01:19 · answer #4 · answered by breezy b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell someone if it isn't your mom. You need to talk about it. There are support groups of people your age who have gone through the same thing who you can talkk too. Just look in the front of your local phone book for hotline #'s to find someone in your area. Hang in there, you're going to be just fine as long as you talk to someone about it. It wasn't your fault no matter what you think.
2006-08-02 02:48:14 · answer #5 · answered by KC 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need help. Rape is very emotionally traumatic experience. Tell your mother. See if there is a rape counseling unit in your city. Get in a group of rape victims guided by a psychologist. If you do nothing, this can ruin your mental health even further.
2006-08-02 02:44:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's bad for you to hold in anything like this. You got a good start by coming here. Now go to your Mom, she loves you and she's there for you... Share your pain with someone who loves you.. You'll be amazed how much better you feel.
2006-08-02 03:14:22 · answer #7 · answered by J P 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is alot she could do!! don't keep something like this from her! she loves you and would do anything for you! i am so sorry this happened to you! i wish you all the best with this situation, but above all- tell your mom! you are in my prayers!
2006-08-02 02:47:42 · answer #8 · answered by scott's wifey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her, because she can get you help to deal with your current emotional problem. She would also want to know if anything has happened to her child. Please tell her. There is nothing wrong with telling her, and it is never too late.
2006-08-02 02:40:26 · answer #9 · answered by Aloofly Goofy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
please tell her!!! rape is a vey traumatic thing...it could ruin your life if nobody helps you! we don't want that to happen! you deserve a better life! a life where everybody understands what happened and is always there to help you!...but you should have told her three years back....but nebermind! what matters is that you should tell her now....it would make you feel a lot better!..so please tell her...
2006-08-02 03:01:57 · answer #10 · answered by tinkerbell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋