2006-08-02 02:33:11 · 19 answers · asked by Echo 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well speaking from past experience, the reason that I stayed so long was 1.) I thought he was lying and/or cheating but couldnt prove it. 2.) Once I did he still lied about the details of his lies/cheating 3.) We did still share alot of good times and I always wanted to believe his biggest lies, that he truly loved me and that he would change. 4.) We had a child together and for the last run of our marriage, I was mixed between reason #3 (and actually believed it) and wanting to keep our family together for our kid...However, I finally realized that love wasn't strong enough and that he would always put himself first...I wish that I would've seen that sooner but I guess its like the old saying,"love is blind"...after so many lies and cheating, my love for him was reduced to pain and resentment and it finally gave me the motivation and strength to leave.
2006-08-02 05:40:53 · answer #1 · answered by serenity113001 6 · 7⤊ 2⤋
I always ask myself that same question. Depending on the situation i'd say every person deserves a second chance. But repeated offenses or a really bad situation needs to be discarded. I hope I never find myself in that situation. I think these women are comfortable and fear going out on their own. It must be hard, but has to be better than putting up with that. I work with two women whose husbands had a whole other relationship going on. That's not right but somehow these women felt that they took their vows and they don't believe in divorce. Oh well, I guess they will be lied to their whole lives. I'd say the number one reason people stay together is kids. But I wouldn't want my kids to get the idea that cheating is ok. Just my thoughts. Have a good one.
2006-08-02 02:45:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with BonnyRogue how she explain this. My mother was like that. to 6 different men she married all of them cheating lying abused, drug, drinking. I asked mom why? she told me same thing what BonnyRogue said. My mom made that choice, But I knew that I will not be like all 6 men like that no way in heck in lifetime be to be one of them.
Now i married to woman for 9 years have 2 small children and baby will not be due to March 2007. So glad I treat my wife and my kids love caring giver, i even protect my family. why why I married to this person.
She made the choice to married me and yes we do have up and down good or bad plm. but she knows my history and she tells me that I will be the best husband and father. I told her I wish it true. but having 2 kids and married for 9 years i believe it. Women made that choice and feel the way BonnyRogue explain. and I witness see all 6 different men do ing to my mother.
2006-08-02 03:48:35 · answer #3 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do women stay with men who are drug addicts, alcoholics, abusers or child molestors? The answer is puzzling. In most cases, I think the man has convinced her how worthless she is that everything is her fault and she cannot get along without him. Destroy that destructive concept and the woman leaves in a hurray.
2006-08-02 02:40:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree, it is stupidity! But it is also low self esteem, lack of confidence, and also she is afraid of being alone for the rest of her life! But honestly, Woman are very stupid, because they keep their selves in denial, so that they can keep this image in their minds about having a lasting and faithful marriage! Even though they know that it is not!!!
2006-08-02 05:58:40 · answer #5 · answered by bigred 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
elpackage is an idiot im sorry.Women stay with lying cheating men because there self confidence is so low they probaly think its better to deal with it because thats the best there going to do.
2006-08-02 02:39:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Several factors including:
1. Codependency - They can't imagine life without them
2. Insecurity - They don't think they could get anyone better
3. Children - They think if they don't get divorced, it will be better for the children
4. Fear - Fear of being on their own again, fear of dating again, fear of having to support themselves again
5. The whole "men will be men" theory - They think it's normal for men to cheat every now and again
6. Pure stupidity
2006-08-02 02:42:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
One of two reasons:
Convenience
or
Denial
2006-08-02 03:09:49 · answer #8 · answered by Dee M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
because they like being treated like this and want their children to grow up in this environment so they can do the same thing to their spouses (or girlfriends/boyfriends).
what i can't stand is when they constantly complain about it and do nothing about it. or ask silly questions about it. HELLO!?
2006-08-02 03:33:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Because they can't earn enough to support themselves and the kids. They are dependent on the man.
2006-08-02 05:35:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋