hes been out of work for about a month now and only bothered applying for 2 jobs, he always gets really demotivated when hes out of work and i know nagging him doesnt work what can i do??
he buys papers and looks but says theres nothing there he wants to do, he has no sense of urgency.
2006-08-02 02:26:51 · 7 answers · asked by sarahmowat0683 1 in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
A person of that age can't really be motivated externally to try for something as personal and improtant as a JOB. He has to realize that himself. Just make sure he doesn't get depressed and self-concious about being out of work. People go in a shell of their own, don't let this happen.
You should be a complete picture of optimism. No nagging. He should just see optimism and faith in the future from you. Give him some time to realize what has happened and take stock of the situation.
Remember that a man's job is his ULTIMATE symbol of self in the world so don't make hard and hurtful comments on it. Just be plain and simple supportive. Encourage him and don't change your "together behaviour". Soon enough he will bounce back.
Keep the faith. Giving up has always been the easiest thing to do, isn't it? If he's worth it, stand by him.
2006-08-02 02:38:01 · answer #1 · answered by livin_it_up_for_me 1 · 7⤊ 1⤋
Being depressed is normal after losing a job, no matter what the reason. It is hard to go back out and try again. However, if nagging doesn't work, and encouragement doesn't work, suggest that getting another job will show the former bosses they were wrong about him. The best revenge is living well.
Have him write down everything he's ever wanted to do (even if it sounds silly or impossible) and then he can work on making something on the list come true. Ex. if he's always wanted to be a rock star, he can buy an instrument and practice playing, writing music, singing, etc.
The point is to get back up and do something. The longer he waits the harder it's going to get.
Good luck.
2006-08-02 02:36:24 · answer #2 · answered by Aunt Biwi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it's been only a month so trying to pressure him won't do much good. When it gets to two or three months then you might want to start nagging or with holding sex. Right now just keep trying to encourage him, maybe give him a hand looking. It's tough losing a job even if it's not your fault because there's that sense of failure. Just try keeping him looking and point out any job fairs or anything that might be going on. Just don't over do it where you seem less like helping and more like harping.
2006-08-02 02:34:57 · answer #3 · answered by Jake S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you artwork in a regulation enterprise enterprise? Or with legal experts...I actual have executed comparable on an identical time as i became thinking growing to be to be an legal expert. fairly, with legal experts your calculations and conclusions might prefer to be a hundred% maximum proper. i decide for to advise that's what the international expects and ought to pay them to be. So, particular, you will prefer to dollar up and triple, or quadruple assessment any laptop spreadsheets to verify that the formula are drawing from the main proper cells indoors this methodology. i be responsive to how common that mistake ought to be and how that straightforward mistake can thoroughly screw up an entire spreadsheet and make surely all and sundry look as though idiots. Your boss referenced that s/he felt that this has been occurring plenty on the prompt. decelerate. you could make the situation you opt for for -- or in case you journey such as you're being compelled to maintain particular billable hours down you will prefer to place across this up for communicate. Your boss has a brilliant form of self perception in you and is obviously now no longer attempting to tear you down. yet, boss is attempting to allow you to correctly known that the persevered laptop errors are no longer any extra proper. in keeping with possibility you need to have a clerk or distinctive assistant assessment your spreadsheets; i are responsive to that may not common to "see" something you have been engaged on all day -- all of it melds on the comparable time. Have a communication which contain your boss and ask for help or clarfication if this is a time subject.
2016-11-03 12:35:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life moves on, better to learn from past, take the positives from last job n go ahead, if he has been sacked. there are many other jobs waiting... In today's world if we are looking for job, then there are many employers also looking for good candidates....
He may not get a job of his choice, but one can join , learn, n move on... If required..
2006-08-02 02:33:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he needs a reason to be motivated find something like tell him the soon you find work the sooner we can go on vacation or if you don't live together tell him the sooner you guys can get your own place something like that if that doesn't seem to work you should lose him b/c if he doesnt want to work now he wont work later
2006-08-02 02:35:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Withhold sex
2006-08-02 02:32:24 · answer #7 · answered by Ken 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋