my parents have divorced + remarried new spouses. i am an adult and live alone. however i feel like i have nowhere to call "home", as in having roots or a sense of belonging. i feel like excess baggage in both parents' lives. anyone else experienced this?
2006-08-02 02:16:43 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Not the same way as you but I recognize the feelings VERY, VERY well. In my case, I didn't have a home (a soft place to fall) because of a father who, to put it briefly, was an only child, spoiled brat. Over time, I learned that I AM my home. My siblings and I along with cousins, have good connections and so, home has become wherever I hang my hat.
I'm sorry you feel like excess baggage. That's a major league bummer.
You're welcome to message me if you like.
2006-08-02 02:23:32 · answer #1 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cant say I have my parents have been happily married for 35 years. I however, am divorced and my kids might have to go through what you're feeling. When my ex and I split up the kids held up OK, when we both met great people and are currently planning weddings the reaction wasn't as enthusiastic. Your parents are ALWAYS going to be your parents, no matter where they are and who they are married to. You do have a home, it's where YOU live, you may have to make your home a meeting point. Invite dad over and cook him dinner (daddy daughter time), Call mom and ask her to spend the day, go shopping, get ice cream sundaes, rent an old sappy movie. You're an adult now and sometimes parents of adult children think they NEED to step back and let you be apart from them. And my last piece of advice is talk to them, collectively, separately, with new spouses, without new spouses, I'd bet good money that you haven't discussed this with them, my guess would be that nobody ever meant to make you feel like excess baggage.
2006-08-02 02:28:57 · answer #2 · answered by skylark455st2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let's think that u now have even 2 families to belong! U just have the sense of belonging to a family only when u see the step-parents as your real family members. So, behave as if they were your co-blooded mother/father, u will see the outcome. Be optimistic, be humane and good luck!
2006-08-02 02:34:40 · answer #3 · answered by chickenrun 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cant say much about that but know your parents dont fill any better about it either . and they will do things that
have nothing to do with you they bothers you just know they love you beyond words that you keep close to your heart .its hard to see the two of them fighting .its hard to think about the aruging
in front of kids too .thats the worst of it and if they love each other
they fill pain .its not the life anybody wants to see . find time to tell them how you fill apart at first and when they settle down both may set with you with good addvise they may work it out you never can tell. but best thing i would say is find something to do were you can be postive draw something like that .but not i hate you things
2006-08-02 02:30:34 · answer #4 · answered by ronnie r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents divorced yearsago and it is still problematic and really splintered the family.
I tell you it always hurts but the best you can do is make a life for yourself.You are not your parents.
2006-08-02 02:27:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ya l a gree with you as my dad re-married 3 times and it feels funny
2006-08-02 02:31:36 · answer #6 · answered by TONI K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋